As the saying goes: Diet for men and women, food, sex and sex are also .
Life cannot be separated from two things, one is diet and the other is interest.
Just like in the Ang Lee movie "Food, Men and Women", he interpreted " Food, Sex and Sex" as well. Even when the sunset is setting, he can't help but say--- "Food, Men and Women, people's desires are difficult to not want to" .
expects to be human sexual life, not only reflected by biological instincts, but also contains rich psychological activities and is also subject to social constraints. Sexual psychology is based on this basis, the psychological state and psychological process related to sexual characteristics, sexual desire, and sexual behavior.
And a person's psychology is not static, and it continues to develop with changes in physiology and age.
If there is a sexual psychological need in itself, and the contradiction between moral responsibilities is also intertwined, it is often easy to create a contradiction - sexual repression.
The so-called sexual repression is also clinically called sexual hunger . It is completely different from the concepts of sexual dysfunction and sexual indifference . It refers to a person who has sufficient desire and the ability to complete tasks.
However, affected by various reasons, you can only restrict and control your own desires. This is a dual state of physiology and psychology. Research and survey related to
shows that due to the high pressure of study, college graduate students are often unable to satisfy their normal desires due to their high study pressure and are subject to many constraints such as life and economic conditions, physical fitness, and most of them are in a state of sexual repression.
Although appropriate control of sex frequency is beneficial to health, excessive sexual repression has caused them to fall into anxiety and depression.
Not only adults and unmarried people, but even married people will have psychological depression
Chinese people's university sex sociology research team conducted a related survey on sex, and the results showed that:
Among the men and women living together in my country and married couples, accounts for about 28.7% of the couple's lives less than once a month, and about 6.2% of the people who have no husband and wife's life at all in the past year.
It can be seen from this that psychological depression has never been a problem for single people.
Everyone has a desire for sex, why do some people experience sexual repression?
1. Traditional concepts are bound by
Although my country's sexual concepts have gradually opened up in recent years, they are still deeply rooted in traditional ideas.
Especially in a relationship between men and women, women's desires are strongly suppressed. They believe that expressing sexual desire is a shameful act, and is influenced by the traditional thoughts of good wives and good mothers, sexual repression has long shrouded women.
2, Emotional
Someone describes the relationship between husband and wife in this way: Once the couple gets married for a long time, the other half is like a brother sleeping next to them.
Marriage is not only about love and sweetness, but more about small matters such as food, rice, oil and salt, and trivial matters. Although they are all small problems, they will gradually erase the "interest" of both parties when they accumulate. Even if they have desires, they will choose to suppress them.
3. Physiological factors
In addition to psychological factors, physiological factors may also cause psychological depression.
For example, people with sexual dysfunction have desires but cannot complete the sexual process normally. Instead of letting the other party down, it is better to suppress the desire in their hearts. It is not only men who have sexual dysfunction.
related research shows that women have twice as many sexual dysfunction as men, including desire disorders, arousal disorders, pain , etc.
What problems will cause in long-term psychological depression?
If you suppress your desires for a long time, it will often lead to endocrine disorders, have a certain impact on immunity, and can easily cause blood pressure to rise, posing hidden dangers to cardiovascular disease.
At the same time, long-term sexual repression in men will increase the risk of prostatitis , prostate hyperplasia and cancerous .
From a female perspective, it will cause pelvic floor muscles to relax and reduce bladder function . Therefore, from the perspective of physical condition, long-term sexual repression has no health benefits.
In addition, long-term sexual repression will also have a negative impact on mental health, resulting in anxiety, depression, irritability, and other psychological states. These emotions are difficult to relieve, and will only make people more and more painful, and even perform deviant and transcendent behaviors.
At the same time, the couple has not had sex for a long time, which will affect their relationship and even cause family breakdown.
In short, sex is a part of the life of a couple, and it is also an indispensable part. Perfect sex can enhance the relationship between couples and make the relationship between each other more harmonious.
Sex is a desire that everyone has. It is not shameful. It is very necessary to face the sex itself and maintain a sexual life scientifically and reasonably.
If there are such problems, we don’t need to be too ashamed. We need to look at it positively, maintain natural and non-extreme evaluation, and provide understanding and help.
Only by facing and accepting sincerely can we better tolerate ourselves and others.
