What is the most important thing for psychological counseling?
Some people say it is the method, some people say it is the direction, and some people say it is finding the right teacher.
are both correct, but not very accurate. Because for a person's inner change, whether it is your method, direction, or teacher, for them to be effective, they fundamentally require the accumulation of time.
That is, for psychological adjustment ( depression , obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder), time is the most fundamental. Without the accumulation of time, nothing will work.
Take the meditation of "Anapana Breathing Method" as an example. Of course, everyone understands that Anapana does not mean that the longer you sit, the better. But as you practice more and more, you will find that you can somehow sit for an hour, two hours, or even two and a half hours.
When we first started, we might get extremely irritable within ten minutes, always wanting to move here and there, always thinking silently in our hearts to end it quickly. But as you practice for more and more time, you will find that somehow, if you accidentally go for an hour, you won't feel any discomfort at all. The reason why
was able to persevere in the end was not due to the acquisition of any good methods or good teachers. Just practice every day as required. At the beginning, my legs hurt all the time, then it only hurt for half an hour, then only for ten minutes, and then I found that it no longer hurts and I got used to it.
The reason for such a change is that has no other secret, it is just to stick to it day after day.
Without the previous accumulation, it is impossible to have the ease later. So, who is the most powerful magician? time!
The practice of "Anapana" is like this, so isn't it the same for our psychological healing? No matter how good the method is, without time accumulation, it is impossible to achieve the desired effect.
Because of time, new leaves can still grow after the leaves fall. Likewise, because of time, as long as you persist, psychological barriers can be removed. Why does
say this? Because during the consultation process, students often ask questions such as why there is no effect or recovery.
It's like a branch growing new leaves. When time is running out, even if you place a lot of sacrifices under the tree and ask the mage to recite the sacrificial words, you will be filled with tears and worship sincerely, asking: "Tree, tree, please grow new leaves quickly." Is it possible? Not possible with
. The time is not up, even if you kowtow a thousand times, it will be useless!
So, why haven't you had any results yet? The time has not come yet.
(Recommended for patients with depression to read "Beat Depression" and "Emotional Self-Help")
But there may still be a problem here, and that is whether the final effect you get is a good one. Time will only bring you results. As for whether this result is what you want, time will not care. Therefore, at this time, the importance of teachers becomes apparent. Teacher
is like a guide, pulling you back where you may have gone wrong and saving you from detours. Once we were sure we were on the right track, the rest was just a matter of time.
Therefore, when we start to ask ourselves why it is not effective yet, it is time for us to reflect on whether we have followed the teacher's instructions correctly. If you confirm that you are doing the right thing, then there is only one possibility - the time has not come yet.
If there must be a magician in this world, then this magician must be time.
With the help of time, bad things can become good, and wrong things can become right. As long as what you do is correct, the result will be correct. So, what are you worried about? Just practice with peace of mind and leave the rest to "time"!
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