[ event opening ]
Before the official start of the "5-day psychological talk", conference planning and R&D colleagues Liu Fang and Fan Wenchao gave a relaxed and pleasant opening, introducing the origin of this forum and previewing the main agenda of the conference.
Seeing that the twists and turns of 2022 are about to pass, New Year’s Eve is being held everywhere. Psychologists themselves can also organize a New Year’s Eve event with psychological elements for everyone to have fun together.
Psychologists are often versatile. We can not only "go to the hall" and hold a conference of psychologists with the theme of "The Changing Situation of the Times", but we can also "go to the kitchen" to organize relaxed and enjoyable activities.
The most interesting thing about psychology is that it can make people "happy" and enlighten them.
The five-day schedule of this event includes "Emo and small luck", touching on the psychological state and social background of young people from the new ideological trends of the times. They will also talk about "whether being unmarried and infertile can keep you safe", and discussing "whether a sense of security can be self-sufficient." They will also talk about "anger" and deeply explore online violence and emotional coping in daily life. On the last day, on the occasion of New Year's Day, they will talk about how to improve their mobility and set a New Year's flag.
The format of this conference is also very colorful. In addition to previous theme sharing and round-table discussions, there are also 1-on-1 connections, debates around the theme, and in-depth interviews where you can see the other side of the experts. Let us look forward to it~
[Round Table Party]
Topic: Life is not just about the wolfberry in front of you, but also Emo and Little Lucky
Experts: Zhao Ran (Ph.D. in psychology, professor of psychology at the Central University of Finance and Economics)
Guo Yong (founder and director of the psychology department of a tertiary hospital in Beijing, member of the "Three Meetings and One Institute" National Psychological Counselor Joint Examination Office)
Junko Saito ( Japanese freelance writer in China )
On the first day of the event, teachers Zhao Ran, Teacher Guo Yong and teacher Junko Saito were guests in the live broadcast room and talked about "life is not just the wolfberries in front of you, but also Emo and small luck".
Faced with Emo, Teacher Zhao Ran believes that when we wake up every day, emotions will follow us. This is very natural, and since the birth of vocabulary, emotional expression is inevitable. Teacher Guo Yong believes that the birth of Internet slang is a kind of emotional expression, and the characteristics of the Internet era make people more qualified to express unique emotions. Teacher Junko Saito believes that there are many Internet buzzwords that express very delicate emotions and also reflect the development of society. After
, three experts gave their opinions on "How to deal with Emo when you have emotions". Teacher Zhao Ran said that Emo is inevitable. The first step is to be aware of emotions, and the second step is to make full use of the social support system. Teacher Guo Yong believes that we first need to figure out the source of Emo before we can talk about the next step of management. Teacher Junko Saito understood this word from a new perspective: I want to talk about what happened today, and I want you to listen.
Teacher Zhao Ran believes that men who are Emo will more often bear it silently alone, while women are more willing to speak out and share things with others, and their handling of Emo is also very gender-specific. If you want to lead others out of Emo, you must first listen carefully and not add fuel to the fire.
The three teachers each expressed their understanding of "little luck". Teacher Junko Saito believes that small happiness is "small but clear happiness". Teacher Guo Yong believes that small fortunes are unexpected blessings without expectations. In real life, unsatisfactory things happen all the time. First of all, we must consciously not be affected by negative emotions, and then look at the problem from a positive perspective.
Teacher Zhao Ran believes that the small blessings in everyone's heart are different. The situations and times are different, and the small blessings captured are also different. Small luck is first of all very small and very easy to obtain. Secondly, it can be operated by oneself. The key to making oneself happy is to have a positive thinking consciousness.
When talking about Emo moments in love, Teacher Zhao Ran believes that good love must have the following three aspects: 1. companionship; 2. passion; 3. efforts and growth for this relationship.
Finally, when faced with "how to get rid of Emo", the three teachers gave their own opinions. Teacher Zhao Ran believes that by learning psychology knowledge through , you can be more clearly aware of Emo moments. Instead of immediately denying yourself, you can see the factors behind things, thereby deepening your self-understanding. The second is to divert your attention to exercise, going to the movies, listening to music, enjoying food, interacting with animals, etc. Teacher Junko Saito believes that you should take control of your own life, be the protagonist of your own life, and not be slowed down by other people's evaluations and opinions, or affect your own judgment and choices. Teacher Guo Yong believes that having eyes that actively discover beauty is the best way to solve Emo.
[Experts’ 1-on-1 mic exchange]
Topic: Special session on intimate contact with the subconscious
Expert: Liu Wei (Doctor of Medicine, professor at Jiangsu University School of Medicine, master’s tutor)
In order to enhance the interaction between experts and the audience, this five-day psychological talk event has added a 1-on-1 mic exchange session with experts, where experts will answer on-site questions from the audience.
invited Professor Liu Wei, the founder of holographic painting, to share in today's event. First of all, Mr. Liu Wei introduced the principles of holographic painting and the cultural background of its production. People's usual behaviors have been adjusted to some extent due to social requirements, but holographic painting can bypass people's defenses and capture and interpret people's subconscious.
Secondly, its advantage is that the interpretation result is relatively unique, and there will be no situation where "ten people interpret and produce ten results", making the application of this technology relatively stable.
In addition, this technology has a wide range of applications. It can be used for both psychological assessment and psychological therapy. Its application ranges from potential criminal assessment in the judicial system, to talent assessment , to parent-child communication, improving life happiness, etc. It is very suitable. After
, Mr. Liu Wei had a live chat with the audience, answering the audience's confusion about the holographic painting technology itself, as well as the audience's questions about their own career planning , etc.
Teacher Liu Wei gave detailed answers to these questions and encouraged listeners who are interested in psychology but are worried that they are not suitable for psychological counseling to not set limits on themselves easily.
At the end, an audience member who had completed the elementary course connected with Mr. Liu Wei and shared his feelings during the course. He said that the teachers in the teaching team have their own characteristics and are serious and responsible. They often help students free of charge and ask the teacher for suggestions for further study. Teacher
made suggestions on the specific direction of the next study, saying that although it is the same projection technology, the focus of interpreting the theme is different and the role it plays is also different. Finally, the teacher encouraged and blessed the students.
[Keynote Speech]
Topic: How to make children become lucky people?
Expert: Liao Wenting (Children’s Psychology Expert in CCTV Children’s “ Speedy Boy ” column)
Teacher Liao Wenting was a guest at the five-day psychological talk In the live broadcast room, we will discuss with everyone how to make children become Xiaoquexing people from four aspects: "Little Lucky VS Important Moments", "Which side you see is your own choice", "Always giving yourself negative hints", and "How to raise Xiaoluoxing's children".
What is a "little luck"? Basking in the sun, watching children eating with gusto, playing with pets, drinking tea, drinking coffee, being with friends...etc., these are all beautiful moments, and we must be good at discovering the small lucky moments around us.
Teacher Liao Wenting believes that happiness is a state of mind, not about having more, but about caring less. It has nothing to do with status and wealth, but with comparison and desire. The meaning of small luck is to see the big from the small, to spend every moment of life seriously, and to spend your life how you spend one day.
We can choose which side of things we see.Teacher Liao Wenting explained through examples that the reason why many children are unhappy is because when parents get along with their children, they always only see their children's "shortcomings" and fail to see their children's efforts. Instead, they cling to mistakes in details. Many children have been "threatened" by their parents for a long time that "if you continue like this, your whole life will be ruined" and they walk on thin ice with fear. If we keep blaming and threatening our children and keep them in a state of self-protection and defense for a long time, they will not be able to find little luck.
Teacher Liao Wenting emphasized that we should choose to see the positive side, tap children's potential, and protect children's natural curiosity.
[Experiential Workshop]
Topic: In a life full of Emo, use exception questions to find small blessings
Expert: Meng Zhen (Deputy Chairman of the National Family Education Steering Committee)
Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and life is often full of small moments that make people emo. So in the face of this situation, how can we practice self-care and see the beautiful other side of life?
In the experiential workshop session of the Five-Day Psychological Talk activity, Teacher Meng Zhen taught everyone to use the "exceptional question" technique in the short-term focus solution orientation to find the "small blessings" in life.
Life is often full of ups and downs, with problems upon problems. But even in such a life, there are often "exceptions", which mean advantages, resources, strength and success.
We can ask ourselves, what did we do when the problem did not occur, was less serious, and when the situation became slightly better? What did we do right? Rather than teaching new skills, start by discussing abilities we already have but are not yet aware of.
Solution Focus is a genre that focuses on the present and the future. It believes that parties often have the power and resources to solve their own problems, and what we have to do is guide and help those in need to find it.
From wives who have been domestically abused, children who cannot go to school, employees who have encountered challenges, to " New Oriental " Yu Minhong and " Chu Cheng " Chu Shijian who have encountered career changes, this thinking framework can help people in the eye of the storm face changes and problems.
When something unexpected happens, we still have the freedom to choose, that is, choose which direction to go. After
, the teacher also introduced the techniques for expanding the discussion of exceptions, including: elicitation - using listening, observation, and questioning to discover exceptions; exploration - understanding the details of the exception in detail; expansion - expanding or analogizing exceptions to other situations; evaluation - asking quantitative or qualitative questions about possible differences; empowerment - guiding the parties to realize that they themselves have created these successful exceptions.
Don’t underestimate those seemingly small successful experiences. We must believe that the power to solve problems is already contained in existing experience and resources.
[Expert debate]
Is Emo pretentious?
Experts: Zhou Ruoyu (Ph.D. candidate in psychology at the University of Tsukuba, Japan, Internet writer)
He Li ( Beijing Normal University PhD in psychology, Beijing Union University associate professor)
Teachers Zhou Ruoyu and He Li were guests at the live broadcast room of the Five-Day Psychological Talk event, and debated around the theme "Is Emo pretentious?" Teacher He Li first held the view that "Emo is not pretentious", while teacher Zhou Ruoyu held the other view.
Teacher He Li discussed her views from four directions: "Expressing Emo is not scary in itself", "Behind Emo may be the beauty of people's hearts", "We need to give Emo space to express emotions", and "Emo naturally occurs in the middle of the night". Teacher He Li believes that it is not the feelings themselves that hurt themselves, but the non-acceptance and criticism of the feelings. In fact, every emotion has a positive effect.
Teacher Zhou Ruoyu believes that sometimes emotions should not be expressed because they will affect the people around them. We should sometimes pay more attention to the thing itself rather than the emotions it brings.Sometimes, the root of Emo's emotions is wrong, and it is easy to go further and further down the wrong road. At this time, it is wrong to let one's emotions go.
After that, the two teachers exchanged views and debated again. Teacher Zhou Ruoyu believes that when people’s emotions cannot be conveyed smoothly, Emo is reminding you that you should pay attention to this problem and stop. It is a signal to remind us to love ourselves more and to get more rest.
Teacher He Li believes that excessive indulgence in Emo will lead to self-impression and performance. Emotions are not everything. Putting too much attention on them will not be constructively helpful in the long run. Therefore, small Emo is pleasant, but big Emo is harmful to the body. The correct solution is to take action as soon as possible.
During the free discussion, the two teachers expressed their opinions respectively. Teacher Zhou Ruoyu believes that the rise of Internet vocabulary such as Emo is behind a kind of ridicule and deconstruction, which sounds more relaxed and prevents people from facing the heaviness behind the true meaning. But it will also bring barriers to communication. For example, it may exclude elders who do not understand the word, and lose the possibility of gaining experience from the elders. What we need to do when Emo is talking to ourselves, sorting ourselves out, and then talking to others.
Teacher He Li believes that the reason why Internet vocabulary can spread is because it has its own charm, but it is a bit too superficial to use Emo frequently.
Finally, the two teachers put forward their own suggestions on "how to resolve Emo". Teacher He Li suggested confronting and accepting, while Teacher Zhou Ruoyu suggested "fighting poison with poison", not avoiding it, but taking this opportunity to sink into negative emotions and conduct in-depth self-questioning and sorting out.
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