There is a small self in everyone's heart, this little "I" is timid, happy, conceited and charming.
When you want to study, the little "me" in your heart will make a different sound: Play for a while, it's no big deal.
When something is issued, that little me will judge myself: Why can't you even do this little thing well! I'm so stupid! You messed up again! ...
Harvard Scholar Liu Xuan In "Stop Your Spiritual Intra-Contamination: Complete First and Be perfect", this kind of conversation with yourself in your heart is called "self-dialogue". This kind of self-talking happens to everyone, but different people will bring different self-evaluations.
This small theater that occurs in our minds, that is, the "self-dialogue" that talks to ourselves, can be divided into three types according to the value content: positive, negative and neutral.
An optimistic person has positive self-talk. But this kind of self-talk in most people is negative and full of anxiety. How to get rid of this anxious self-dialogue? Then first you must learn to be self-aware.
Every time a small theater of self-dialogue appears in the heart, pause and check whether this self-dialogue is positive or negative, because if the self-dialogue is negative, it is easy to create a negative cycle, which will affect our self-confidence and self-esteem, thereby creating pressure. How to crack this situation
? That is, when a small theater appears in your heart, you first make self-awareness, and then write down the conversations about negative emotions on paper.
Secondly, learn to expect, use positive language to expect negative language, and learn to encourage yourself in the second person. When we soothe our emotions and accept the current situation, and then have a positive conversation, we will make us more confident, smarter and more tenacious.
3 Don’t be afraid to talk to yourself and express your true thoughts bravely. When we learn to encourage ourselves, it is not only easier to be self-affirmed, but also helps learn, enhance memory, and makes people more focused. "Stop Your Spiritual Internal Contraction: Complete First and then Perfect" published by
Boji Tianjuan, published by Hunan Literature and Art Publishing House , three sections are about how to cleverly deal with interpersonal relationships, listen to the voice of your heart, and change yourself from today, telling the problems and solutions we often encounter in our work and life. We all seem to have seen each other in the book. Psychologist Liu Xuan solved the internal factors in these cases, so that we no longer confused.
Each of us has that little self in our hearts. When we accept her, recognize her, reach a reconciliation with ourselves, no longer self-touching and self-consuming, we can face the rain, snow, wind and frost outside gently and tenaciously together.
(the above picture is from the Internet)
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