I am Chaoyu, and I use words to express my attitude towards life. Zhou Hari Window Theory: The human heart is a "window" that knows oneself. People will always say proudly: "The person who knows me the most in the world is myself!" But in fact, we do not understand ourselves so w

I am Weicheng Chaoyu, expressing my attitude towards life in words.

weeks Harry Window Theory: The human heart is a "window" that knows oneself.

People will always say proudly: "The person who knows me the most in the world is myself!" But in fact, we do not know ourselves so well. Maybe there are always people around you who praise you and say, "You are too funny and too humorous!" "Your mind is too flexible, and you always think of some novel and interesting things!" Or there are also criticisms of us, such as: "You are really a little lazy." "Your temper is sometimes not very good."

Of course, these must be problems that we have never discovered ourselves. We may even think that friends are lying, but with more people, you need to think carefully about whether what they are saying is right or wrong? In fact, understanding oneself should be a scientific process, and Zhou Hari Window theory provides us with a very good reference.

This theory uses windows to describe a person's heart and divides the window into four parts, namely, it is located in the upper left part, the upper right part, the lower left part and the lower right part of a window. Their cognition scope and degree of human self are also different, and together form a complete "I".

Open Me: The window in the upper left corner is called "Open Me", also called "Public Me", and this part belongs to the field of free activities. In other words, this is the part that you know and others know.

For example, a person's gender, appearance, marriage, occupation, workplace, place of residence, ability, hobbies, expertise, achievements, etc. This is the basic part of self-awareness, and you can clearly realize it, and at the same time, you don’t need to hide it from others. The size of "open me" depends on the degree of openness of one's own mind, the degree of personal excitement, the breadth of interpersonal communication, the attention of others, the interests of open information, etc.

"Open me" is the most basic information of the self and the basic basis for understanding and evaluating yourself. Blind Me: The window in the upper right corner is called "Blind Me", also known as "Rider Me", which belongs to the blind field. This is the part that you don’t know but others know. It can be some very prominent psychological characteristics, such as someone making a promise but forgetting it in a blink of an eye; it can also be some unintentional small movements or behavioral habits, such as a proud or impatient expression and expression of emotions - the self often cannot perceive this information about the self, but others know it.

Blind points may be a person's strengths or a person's weaknesses. Because I am unaware of this cognitive field, when others tell me these blind points, I usually have emotional reactions of surprise, doubt or excuse, especially when the information I hear does not match my self-cognition.

So, sometimes we hear some people say with surprise: "Ah? Is it? Is my personality really popular with everyone? I always thought that everyone likes personality types like Xiaohua !" Hide me: The window in the lower left corner is called "hide me", also known as "privacy me", which belongs to the field of escape or hiding. This is the part that you know but others don’t know. That is, what we often talk about privacy, facts or psychology that are unwilling to disclose or cannot be known to people. The hidden contents of

may not be all shortcomings. Such as identity, past events, illnesses, pain, secret joy, guilt, embarrassment, desires, thoughts, etc., may become contents that hide me, depending on a person's personality and psychology. In comparison, people with strong psychological endurance, tolerant, autistic, inferior, and timid people will hide more. Because they are unwilling to let others see themselves too transparently, or dare not show themselves completely in front of others.

Unknown Me: The window in the lower right corner is called "Unknown Me", also known as "Potential Me", belongs to the virgin field. This is a place that neither you nor others know, and needs to be discovered and discovered. That is what we usually call potential.

generally refers to the knowledge and skills that a person may acquire after training and learning, or the talents that he or she may demonstrate in specific opportunities.The subconscious mind is like an iceberg hidden under the sea, with great power but easy to be ignored. Only by fully exploring and developing the unknown self can we fully and deeply understand ourselves, motivate ourselves, develop ourselves, and surpass ourselves. In short, by understanding the specific content of Zhou Hari Window, we can recognize ourselves more objectively and accurately.

so, what aspects should we start from to understand ourselves objectively?

First, know yourself from the relationship between yourself and others. Interactions with others are an important source of personal self-knowledge. From childhood to adulthood, we expand from simple family relationships to external friendly relationships, and when we enter society, we experience complex interpersonal relationships. Smart and good at thinking can learn from others carefully from these relationships, gain enough experience, and then plan your future according to your needs.

Second, know myself from my relationship with things. Learn about yourself from experience in doing things. We can see our strengths and weaknesses through what we do, the achievements we have achieved. Develop the habit of reflection, reflect on what you do every day, and continue to do it better in the future; do what you lack, and take it as a warning to encounter the same thing next time. During the reflection process, I also have a clear understanding of my own strengths and weaknesses.

3, know yourself from my relationship with myself. This is easy, but it's a bit difficult to do. You can try to know yourself from the following perspectives: First of all, the me in your eyes. It refers to the objective self that you can observe, including body, appearance, gender, age, occupation, personality, temperament, ability, etc. Secondly, I am in the eyes of others.

When interacting with others, I feel the feeling of others' attitudes and emotional reactions towards us. People with different relationships and different types of people have different reactions and evaluations about themselves. It is an understanding summarized by individuals from the reactions of most people to themselves. Finally, I am in my heart. My expectations for myself are the ideal me.

Author of this article: Chaoyu, a writer who keeps walking, has been on the road.