Almost everyone has vanity. We long for others to affirm ourselves and appreciate ourselves. This is understandable, but if the vanity is too strong, it may affect our lives.
Vii is a distorted self-esteem, an over-expression of self-esteem, and a personality defect in pursuing false expressions. It is an abnormal social sentiment that people show in order to gain honor and attract universal attention. The vanity in behavior is mainly manifested in blind comparison, good at competing, excessive attention to others, too strong self-expression, strong jealousy, etc.
Have you ever seen such a person? If others perform better, they will talk about others and keep sarcastic. When someone talked about his shortcomings a little, his face immediately became gloomy, making people reluctant to get close.
These are all the effects of vanity.
However, it is undeniable that vanity will also have a positive side. It will promote continuous progress and efforts of all parties. For example, a person without vanity may never care about his academic performance, may never care about his work performance, and may lose the motivation to improve.
However, too strong vanity may also make people reverse. In psychological counseling, there are too many strong and vain people who do not strengthen their abilities, but instead try to trap others and improve themselves by suppressing others. This is not conducive to yourself and is not conducive to malicious competition from others. It will only cause others to be injured and you will lose the opportunity to improve.
For vanity, a better solution is to use "responsibility" instead of "vanity". The so-called sense of responsibility refers to an attitude of being responsible and being brave enough to be responsible for things. The focus of responsibility is on oneself, not on others. This is conducive to your progress and development.
When you can replace vanity with a sense of responsibility, you will find that you will have a very big change, that is, you will begin to return to your true self.
When you are fascinated by vanity, you cannot see yourself, you can only see others. You will try your best to surpass others and suppress others. Are the advantages of others really what you want? Maybe when you calm down, you will find that those things you don’t really want, all you want is the victory after that comparison.
And the sense of responsibility is also different. You can really notice what you want and do what you want. How happy and happy is this?
Let us let go of his vanity and replace it with a sense of responsibility!
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