Hello, I am Angelababy. is a lawyer in Xi'an and has been practicing for 12 years.
12 has done many litigation cases, undertaken many legal consultants, and now has its own team.
Some time ago, I went to Shanghai for a business trip again~
First, I met my good friend Xiaomi , studied the business, and then I signed up for a gestal psychology course, and I had to attend once a month. The tuition fee for this course of
is 168,000 yuan. Including the monthly air ticket + hotel costs, it is more than 200,000 yuan. The colleagues around
don’t understand it, but I don’t hesitate about this overhead. Today, will share with you my learning path.
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The first law firm I practiced, frankly speaking, the learning atmosphere was not too strong.
After all, after work, everyone’s main idea is how to take on cases and make money. It is understandable that you don’t focus on learning.
Many colleagues at that time mainly looked at whether they were charged for training. Free training was more active, and those who were charged should be considered.
and generally participate in the industry training, and cross-industry training is generally not considered.
I was a relatively alternative at that time because I didn’t participate in the training in the industry, especially the free training, and I hardly went to .
The income from practicing was not high at the beginning. I also went to some free training, but later I found that "there is no good product, and good product is not cheap". Free training is not very valuable.
I am the kind of person who starts to get distracted without entering the key points for three minutes. I often sit in training classes and feel that it is a waste of time, so I don’t go.
When I first started to teach intern lawyers, I often showed disdain for this kind of training intentionally or unintentionally, and I didn’t advocate that the intern lawyers I brought to participate in this kind of training.
But unexpectedly, I found that many children who are easy to learn like to go to training and often take the initiative to listen. When I came back, I told me what I gained and felt that they were very good.
Sometimes I feel very surprised and I will listen to the courses they said were very well taught, but it is still boring after listening.
Later I found out that there was a difference here, that is, to be honest, I studied under the undergraduate degree at Jilin University Law School , and graduated from public-funded graduate student at from Jida .
Later, the score of in the judicial examination was also very high, and it exceeded the score line by 60 points, so the foundation of legal theory is much more solid than the intern lawyer I taught.
If I listen to this kind of course that is biased against legal provisions or theory, I will feel bored because I know it and listen to it repeatedly.
But for them, those are unknown things, so I listen with relish.
This is also a key point for me to choose the course, which is that the unknown part of the course content is much more important than . Otherwise, although the course sounds effortless, I can't learn anything.
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Not long after I practiced, I had some money in my hand and spent more than 30,000 to sign up for an adult English training class.
The colleagues in the institute knew about it and were talking behind the scenes because it was probably 2014, and more than 30,000 was not a small amount.
On the one hand, some people say that I am sick and not practical . I don’t need to test it when I work. Why spend so much money to learn English?
On the other hand, some people say that I am unrealistic , do you still want to go abroad?
Even once I was waiting for the bus at the bus stop, I met a colleague and she asked me what I was doing and I said I would go to English class.
In front of me, she began to be sarcastic with another colleague without any concealment and said, "Let's not delay others. Angelababy will handle big cases in the international world in the future. It's not like we're just doing small cases for ordinary people. Let's let others go~"
To be honest, I really didn't think about handling big cases in the international world at that time. If I had such a grand blueprint, I should go to Beijing or Shanghai to work when I graduate and wouldn't go back to Xi'an.
Because there are no major international cases in Xi'an, these cases must be concentrated in law firms in Beijing and Shanghai.
Then why do I spend so much money to learn English?
Because my judgment at that time was that in the future, there would be more and more foreigners in Xi'an. If they want to live and work in Xi'an, they must follow the laws of our country.
If I can speak English, one is that it should be easy to become friends with them, and the other is that I don’t need to find a translator like other lawyers, so it should be easier for me to take their case.
This is the second criterion for me to choose to study courses. Learning one ability is to face the future, in order to make me live a better future .
So don’t learn what others learn, but think about how you develop in the future, what abilities you need, and then make up for it.
Of course, in the end, it proved that my beautiful wish was not realized.
I did meet some foreign friends through this English learning, but they mainly work as English teachers in China, abide by the law, and there are no cases that require consultation.
Later, many people returned to China, but I still keep their WeChat now, occasionally browsing their circle of friends, and I feel that I have seen different worlds, which is also very interesting.
Of course, I also faced some sarcasm from my former colleagues, saying that it is useless to learn it.
can be guessed in the future, but there is no guarantee, but I hope there will be .
has hope. For the sake of hope, there is at least the possibility of realizing hope, otherwise there will be no possibility.
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Let me tell you about this gestalt psychology course.
In fact, there are many people who are sorry for me behind my back, saying that a lawyer spent 168,000 yuan and had to go to Shanghai to study psychology every month. You are really rich and free.
But my money is not caused by the strong wind. I can spend so much money and it is also carefully considered.
It fully meets the third standard for my course application, which is the integration of knowledge and action , which means that what I learned is not only at the level of mind knowledge, but can be used. I have applied for the course of
before, mainly for interpersonal processing.
This course is taught in a small class of three tutors, and there are a lot of practical content. It also needs to be screened through interviews before entering the class, so I think it is worth it.
As for how it can make us unite knowledge and action, I can give you a comparison.
The intern lawyers I teach often participate in many industry trainings, and they also talk about many cases. The lecturers are all senior lawyers. Their ideas and methods for handling cases are indeed very exquisite.
Intern lawyers often sighed when they heard this, but when the case was in their own hands, they could not think of such a way of thinking. If the case changes a little, they would be even more panicked.
Because the training content sounds magnificent, it directly presents the results of a case handling. It's like you read a finished novel, which is amazing, but you can't write it yourself.
The lesson I enrolled in is that after learning, you can change the way you get along with others and benefit directly.
Say this time to have a small point in class.I learned the concept of graphics and background in the
course. I will show you a picture.
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Do you see the first thing you see is a big tree, or a man and a woman?
If the first thing you see is a big tree, then the big tree is your graphics, and men and women are your background.
On the contrary, the first thing you see is a man and a woman, and the man and a woman are your graphics, and the big tree becomes the background.
What you see at first varies from person to person.
This is just a graph with only two elements. If it is extended to one thing, you will find that everyone sees differently.
. If we see different facts, if does not understand each other, it will not be able to discuss until a consensus is reached.
often seems to be discussing the same thing, but based on the differences in each person's graphic background, what we are talking about is very likely to be a thousand miles apart. In the course of
, I was doing exercises with a classmate, and we discussed whether a person is restrained.
He said that he had a friend who was very uncontrollable and liked to play mahjong very much. I also agreed that yes, yes, yes, I don’t play mahjong, it’s really uncontrollable.
But the more we talked, the more we got, because we later discovered that his friend played mahjong on Saturdays and Sundays, but for seven or eight hours at a time, he felt that this was no longer restrained.
In my opinion, I think it's okay... I didn't skip the shift to play mahjong, which is very restrained.
Teacher said, it seems that you are all talking about moderation. We all understand the word moderation, but your moderation and his moderation are not the same as the same standard.
This made me realize in an instant. When communicating with anyone in the future, don’t take it for granted that what we are discussing is a matter. must be curious about the other party to truly understand each other and finally reach an agreement with . There are many similar feelings in the
courses, and I will share them with you slowly in the future.
This course is the most attractive to me. teaches me many things that seem simple but have great wisdom in life .
and can be used directly in life after taking it back, which is a great value for money for me.
Life is the biggest course in life, and you need to practice while living.
The freedom and tranquility of life is worth my spending all the money to learn .
*Author: Angelababy, lawyer, since entering the industry in 2009, she has handled many cases of various types every year and has accumulated a lot of experience. If you want to tell everyone through legal publicity, legal professionals are also warm.
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