Everyone who walks into the consultation room wants an answer. Therefore, many people will question the consultation time: Will the time be too short for psychological counseling in only 50 minutes?

Everyone who walks into the consultation room wants to get an answer . Therefore, many people will question the consultation time :

only 50 minutes of psychological counseling, will the time be too short? I think my experience is not enough for two hours.

I spent hundreds or thousands of yuan on a consultation, it was very expensive! Should we extend the consultation time? For example, every afternoon? Otherwise, I feel that the money is not worth it.

Before answering the question of "short time", let's think about another question together: How long do you think a quality conversation will take?

24h all day?

Time for a meal?

or a cigarette time?

In " Friends ", in order to integrate with leaders and colleagues, Rachel pretends to smoke and squirt clouds in the stairwell, which makes people laugh.

Is Rachel just for the good working relationship? No. The real reason is that when the leader often discusses and decides many important things with colleagues when smoking, such as the theme of the costumes for the next season, Rachel tried his best to join their conversation.

One cigarette takes only 10 minutes.

Look at "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" again. What is the most exciting thing about the battle between the two armies? It is not a fight before the war, but a straitor who enters the enemy camp alone as a lobbyist. There are swords and guns, and the atmosphere is solemn. If you have any disagreement, you will be asked to go to the underworld to add to the subway. Under such circumstances, there are still so many wise men who convince the other party in a limited time. Every word is a gem. What a conversation value!

Just now, the battle turned into jade in the next second. We speculate that is only one meal at most. (I was tired of listening to it and I was pulled out and beheaded) , is about 20 minutes? subverts the other party's belief, loyalty, and even life~

It can be seen that a quality conversation cannot be simply measured by the length of time, but whether it can quickly and accurately grasp the other party's core demands and use our advantages to match the interests that the other party needs. Even if the conversation like cannot be achieved overnight, it will make the talker fall into deep thought, and a certain consensus will definitely be reached after going back and forth. is just like the relationship between a client and a consultant.

Let’s take a look at why a psychological counseling is only "short" 50 minutes:

1. Stay focused within 50 minutes

0 minutes, can allow consultants and clients to have a concept of time . They are interacting in a limited space and time, not infinite, nor are they integrated, which provides a sense of security .

also because of limited time, the client should think about "How do I talk about what I want to say in the limited time of "; it is also a reminder for the consultant, and he should also consider, "How do I work? Is it a discussion with the client about the collapsed emotions in the middle of the consultation process? Or when the consultation time is about to end, how can I take care of myself after the consultation is over?"

in accordance with the second edition of the " Chinese Psychological Society Clinical and Counseling Psychology Work Ethics Code " - Good deeds, Responsibility, Integrity, Fairness and Respect. From the perspective of consultants, they want to ensure concentration in 50-60 minutes, and can maintain focus on , and can listen patiently and understand visitors. Maintain good consulting competence.

But this is not the same. It is related to different consulting schools, the personal characteristics of the consultant, and whether you are dealing with a consulting crisis. For example, when you are doing hypnosis treatment, or when you are dealing with a crisis, family consultation, or parent interviews with adolescents, the consultation time will also be different.

2. Protecting the injured you, breaking through the fantasy

From the perspective of the client, most of the things you talk about are about tangled and troubled by yourself. This requires a lot of physical and psychological energy investment , and the time cannot be too long. In addition, the content discussed in psychological counseling also requires the client to digest and reflect on : What did the counselor discuss with me, what did the counselor say mean, what did I think, why did I think so, what happened to me? What else can I do?

This is a common difficulty we often encounter, "I can't finish talking in 50 minutes", which is indeed a common phenomenon. This may be related to the client's personality development level; it may also be related to the client's usual repression, and finally found a person to talk to; it may also be related to the client's expectations of psychological counseling - "I came here to find an answer, I explained my situation clearly, the counselor may have a magical way to make me better at once."

I think many people have this A fantasy : must have a magical power that can solve my problems and difficulties at once. If you can't, then you can't!

This shows that people desire that their abilities are infinite and that they are omnipotent, but they have encountered too many things that make themselves feel that "I am limited, my abilities are limited, and the realization of my wishes is limited", thus experiencing various frustrations, powerlessness, and even despair, and losing control of life.

So I want to work hard to perform again in psychological counseling, hoping to satisfy it in counseling: I need unconditional love and support! I hope to realize my wish more, so I look forward to saying more, saying more, saying more!

The first step in psychological treatment is often to break through the fantasy , so that you can see a new world and a new self. The counselor should quickly find the crux of your "unhappy" from the seemingly messy complaints. Let's look for medicine together.

3. Time is limited, but life is infinite

Do you clearly realize that the time we talk together is 50 minutes, the time for consultation is limited, and the relationship for consultation is also limited, just like life, life is limited. But in psychological counseling, you can talk to the counselor about what you want to talk about, what you want to talk about, what you want to talk about, what you have never told others, can touch your softness and fragility! You can also travel through your softness and fragility!

Like we can do things you want to do in our limited lives, think about what you are willing to think, go to places you want to go, taste the food you like, appreciate the paintings you like, and listen to the music you like! Watch the World Cup!

In a limited life, life is infinitely wonderful, and it can also embrace the finite and fragility of life!

This may be the endless wealth you can gain in "just" 50 minutes.

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Now do you still think 50 minutes are not worth it?

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