Good morning, everyone! Yesterday we talked about the sour grape effect, which was said that when we felt frustrated because our true needs could not be met, in order to relieve inner uneasiness, we fabricated some "reasons" to comfort ourselves to eliminate tension, reduce stres

Dear netizens, good morning!

Yesterday we talked about the sour grape effect, saying that when we feel frustrated because our true needs cannot be met, in order to relieve inner uneasiness, we fabricate some "reasons" to comfort ourselves to eliminate tension, reduce stress, and free ourselves from negative psychological states such as dissatisfaction and anxiety, and protect ourselves from harm. Today we will further discuss the issue of solving psychological stress and correcting our mentality.

The core content of this problem is smile, that is, Mandino's law. When people encounter setbacks and are in a bad mood, what they want most is smile and what they want most is warmth. A smile is like a warm hand that can help people get out of the quagmire of pain and play a magical role in turning swords into jade. Mandino's law is a theory about the smile effect.

The power of smile is great and valuable. This is what the so-called "a thousand gold smile" means.

During the Western Zhou Dynasty, Zhou Youwang was a famous tyrant. When the loyal minister Bao Xiang heard that the doctor Zhao Uncle was expelled, he hurriedly advised him. He was so angry that he was furious that he beat Bao Pu Pu to prison. Baopper's son Hong De knew that King You of Zhou was greedy for men and women's love, so he bought a peerless beauty in Bao Village. Name it Baosi and dedicate it to King You to atone for his father's sins. When King You saw Bao Si, he was overjoyed and included him in the harem and released Bao Wu. King You of Zhou placed the graceful Baosi on Qiongtai day and night to have fun. It is recommended that he gave birth to a boy, named Bofu, and King You deposed the prince Yijiu as a commoner. Bo served as the crown prince and sent his wife to the cold palace from behind. Bao Si became the Empress of the Palace. Queen Bao has never laughed since she entered the palace. King You of Zhou went through many troubles and failed to get what she wanted. King You issued an order: "Those who can make the queen smile will be rewarded with a thousand gold."

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Back to the topic, the "Mandino Law" was proposed by American writer Mandino. Smiling can not only harmonize interpersonal relationships, but also bring real profits . As the saying goes, "If you don't hit people with a smile, you will never make mistakes when doing sales and facing customers with a smile. From the perspective of sales psychology, no matter how good the product is or how capable the salesperson is, if he does not smile, it will make customers feel difficult to get close to and will not easily develop a sense of trust. A smile is the best way for salespeople to narrow the distance and impress the customer's heart. Once the distance is closer and the customer's heart is moved, it will be easier to carry out the next sales activities, and it is naturally not difficult to complete the transaction. The famous American entrepreneur Carnegie said: "A smile can illuminate all those who see it, like the sun passing through dark clouds, bringing warmth to people." It can be said that smile is the most beautiful behavioral language in the world. Although silent, it can most touch people; smile is the best "lubricant" in interpersonal relationships, and it can bring people closer to their psychological distance without explanation.

From this we can see that the meaning of a smile is very important. It can drive away the haze in people's hearts and resolve the unhappiness in others' hearts.Why can’t we give ourselves or others a smile because of our dreams and life? I believe many friends also want to face life with a smile, but what’s wrong is that they can’t find a way to cultivate a smile. It’s actually very simple. A smile comes from a positive and sunny mentality. If you have a good mood, a smile will naturally come out of your heart. I hope the following practices can give you some inspiration.

1. Happiness is a life, and pain is also a life. It is better to give yourself a hope every day, give yourself a happy mood every day, and face the difficulties and setbacks in life calmly and openly.

2. There is no ship that does not experience the baptism of the storm during the sailing. It is also impossible for life to be smooth sailing, and there will inevitably be pain and setbacks. Any road to success is full of thorns, filled with countless bitterness and torture, difficulties and hardships. But as long as you regard failure as a step to progress and face it with a positive attitude, everyone will not be defeated by difficulties.

3. There will always be failures, setbacks, pain and torture in life. At this time, don’t block your mind and make your mind full of dark clouds. When misfortune comes to you, you must learn to love yourself and say to yourself: "All this will pass, I must cherish every inch of time in my life."

With the help of the above three points, everyone who knows how to cherish themselves will not complain about too many hardships, life is too tortuous, and dreams are too difficult to realize. Give yourself a good mood, smile and set sail with your dreams, you will find that the sky above you is particularly blue, the seagulls beside you are extremely agile, and the ship of your dream is riding the wind and waves, singing and advancing all the way.

OK, that’s all about Mandino’s law. See you next time!