A group of young anti-fascist fighters, who secretly lurked beside the besieged barbed wire, using their only tools. Cut out a small hole in the barbed wire and climb out one by one. 50 meters away from them was anxiously waiting for the German soldier and the little jeep that they bribed. These anti-fascist fighters need to board the car tonight and then go around to retrieve the food they need for their companions trapped in the village.
When it was the last warrior's turn, his clothes were hung up by barbed wire. While he broke free from the wire, his friends had already gotten in the car.
From a distance, he could hear the sound of the jeep starting. The warrior who had just broken free from the barbed wire did not know whether he would chase after him or retreat at this time. He was worried that his delay would affect others. When he decided to run and chase after him, but for some reason, his feet were like lead. Cannot move forward.
While hesitating, a team of German soldiers surrounded the car, and all the partners who boarded the jeep were shot on the spot. Only he quietly retreated back to the village and saved his life.
Many years later, when he told his son about this experience, he said that he didn't know why he couldn't take a step forward, and he felt that maybe this was the arrangement of fate.
What kind of force stopped him from moving forward at that time and helped him get rid of danger? Is it really the arrangement of fate?
"Emotion: Variables that Influence Correct Decisions" The book provides answers to the study of emotions through psychology, brain science, .
The reason why I have read various emotional books is attracted by this book is because his author is Lenard Mon Lodino, who is the best-selling book "Handle of Time " and "Handle 1 Big Design ". I really want to see what emotions look like in the eyes of scientists.
In "Emotions: Variables that Influence Correct Decisions", we introduce in detail what emotions are and how emotions affect our decisions and judgments. At the same time, we tell us how to control our emotions and make them useful to us, rather than being harmed by emotions.
How did that anti-fascist fighter escape danger? This requires us to have a deep understanding of the characteristics of emotions!
1. Value-based
emotions exist not to affect our judgment. Although we may make wrong decisions under anxious emotions, it is because the environment we live in now is different from our ancient ancestors. There are no more real dangers in our lives, but it is precisely because emotions can help us avoid harm, which leads to our frequent overreaction when facing fear and anxiety.
We cannot deny the effectiveness of something just because we overreact, and even want to eliminate it. If we don’t have anxiety, we may not be able to distinguish potential dangers and will instead cause trouble to our lives.
2. Continuous
Since emotions are to help us live better, why do some people become depressed and anxious and affect their normal life?
At this time, we need to understand the persistence of emotions. When you throw a stone down to the calm lake, although the ripples on the surface are calm, the waves inside are still there.
The same is true for emotions. For example, if a person breaks up, he is very sad. This emotion will continue to affect him for a while until he starts a new relationship, or really comes out of the shadow of the failure of the previous relationship, otherwise that feeling will always follow him and over time, affect his view of life.
3, generalization
When you say this, you may be surprised. After saying so much, how did that anti-fascist fighter escape the danger of that time?
This has to talk about the generalization of emotions. Suppose our eyes are a camera, and what comes into our minds is all the scenery of the world around us, but our reason will only choose what we are interested in and pay attention to.
But the emotions won’t!
Emotions will deal with everything in a general way. Our ancient ancestors may not have seen the lion yet, but emotions have felt the dangers around them through general analysis and warning them in advance.
So, which anti-fascist fighter did not see the danger, but just felt the danger, so he issued an order to keep his body still, which allowed him to escape the other party's trap.
4, automatic
In addition to the above three characteristics, it is easy for us to find that we actually don’t know at all and do not understand our emotional development. It’s just that sometimes we get angry, sometimes we feel sad, and even in a certain scenario, we may not have analyzed how to do it, and emotions have helped us make decisions. For example, when you are walking on the street and a car is whistling towards you, and it may be far away from you, you have already chosen a safer place to walk.
After introducing the characteristics of emotions, "Emotions: Variables that Influence Correct Decisions" also introduces emotional profiles and emotional management. Let's focus on the methods of emotion management in this book.
There are many methods on emotion management on the market, Mindfulness , Cognition, Painting----This book has chosen the simplest and most easy to do, and has been tested by countless people to achieve significant results: Accept, reevaluate and express .
When things happen, we cannot change the facts that have already happened, so accepting the present is the easiest way to improve emotions.
Many people regret, suffer, anxious, and depressed because they refuse to accept what happened. If we can accept what happened, we can find a way out for our emotions.
Because once we accept what happens, we can be responsible for ourselves. Our thoughts will change. At this time, we will evaluate the emotions brought to us by this matter, and we will find that our emotions have changed.
Re-evaluation found that our emotional comparison has changed compared with the previous one. At this time, when we use expression and describe our emotions in positive language, our emotional problems can basically be solved!
Because in this process we know ourselves, our emotions, and we also change ourselves.
Overall, when I read "Emotions: Variables that Influence Correct Decisions", my biggest feeling was rigor. A scientist used data to study facts and cases of psychologists to bring us an emotional world that was different from that in the eyes of psychologists.
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