Dahe Daily·Yu Video Reporter Hou Bingyu
@Yu Video app, I am blocked at home, can’t sleep all night, and can’t rest during the day. Is there any way?
@Yu Video App. I have been taking online classes for nearly a month and feel that I have no motivation to study. What should I do?
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Since the establishment of the "Mental Health" group of Yu Video App, users have constantly posted various problems they encountered at home during the epidemic on the app. On the afternoon of November 15, the reporter also invited Wang Yao, a professor at the School of Psychology, the School of Education, Henan University, to conduct a live broadcast on the phone, and to answer questions raised by users for public welfare. The nearly two-hour live broadcast attracted 75,000 users to watch. What tricks did Professor Wang Yao apply? Let’s take a look together!
user@Yumili3413: It is blocked at home, and I can’t sleep all night and during the day. Is there any way?
Wang Yao: Anxiety is an emotional experience of worrying about uncertain and unknown things. If you are in a closed environment for a long time, you will feel depressed and irritable if you are in a closed environment for a long time. If you use your hands and brains, and you will not be able to do enough activities, you will feel depressed and irritable. This is normal.
First of all, we must look at the epidemic objectively and accept the reality of lockdown at home. At the same time, you must ensure that your life is orderly. Don’t lie flat during the day and do appropriate exercise so that you will feel tired at night. If you have insomnia, you can do some relaxing exercises before going to bed, such as doing some bedtime yoga , deep breathing, light exercise , etc.
User @心心: I have been taking online classes for 23 days and feel that I have no motivation to study. What should I do?
Wang Yao: This problem is also very common. Nowadays, many students are taking online classes, and they do feel tired and have no motivation during repeated online classes. Because we usually feel nervous when we teach in school, but when we take online classes, we interact with teachers on the computer, and we cannot communicate and interact directly with our classmates, and it is easier to escape.
I have several suggestions for this. First, we must create a good learning atmosphere, such as keeping the online class room clean. Second, we must follow the work and rest of our school days, and take a class when we should go to class and rest when we should go to rest. Furthermore, you should actively participate in the classroom, such as actively asking questions to teachers and communicating with classmates.
User @ Mi Lili Lili: What should I do if I work at home and I always want to lie on the bed or on the sofa?
Wang Yao: We often say that home is a warm harbor and is for rest. So working from home will make you feel like you can't lift your energy. In addition, if you always wear home clothes at home, it is easy to "lie down".
In this case, you must first follow your daily routine. When will I get up at work and when will I get up at home. During working from home, you should set specific, reachable and deadline work goals for yourself, such as writing down today's work arrangements before working every day, and rating yourself according to the completion status when you finish your work. At the same time, we should contact colleagues more and supervise each other's completion of work.
user @ Zhang: Recently, my friend always asked me to cut a knife. I don’t want to do it but I’m embarrassed to refuse. What should I do?
Wang Yao: I’m sorry to reject others because this person is not very close to you, but he is an acquaintance, and I feel that rejection will be a bit embarrassing. How to reasonably reject what you don’t want to do? First of all, I must have a firm idea and decision on what others require to do, and make sure whether I want to do this or not. When rejecting others, use words that directly refuse but are not harsh, such as "No, I don't like doing this, sorry."
At the same time, you can also use " sandwich talk method " to communicate with others. The main strategy is to praise first, then criticize, and then praise. When it is really hard to refuse directly, you can also adopt a "kind lie".
user @可以可以可以: During my stay at home, I always wanted to practice calligraphy, but I haven't started yet. I just felt guilty and played games, and it felt very uncomfortable and awkward.
Wang Yao: As the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning. You can first set a date to do this and let others know that other people's attention will bring slight pressure to push yourself to do this.At the same time, you should make plans and proceed step by step, such as starting with two hours a day, and then increasing day by day. You can also seek "organization", such as calligraphy clubs and calligraphy enthusiasts, to keep warm. During the practice of calligraphy, the effects of your practice will be published to the public, such as posting them to your friends and family. With the encouragement of relatives and friends, you will be more motivated to do things.
user @花er: I have been blocked at home for more than a month. After the lockdown was lifted, the company asked me to go to work. I don’t want to go. I feel that I haven’t come out of my home state yet. How to adjust?
Wang Yao: This situation is a bit like what we call "long vacation syndrome". During my stay at home, I have less contact with the outside world and less pressure, and I am in a peaceful but somewhat negative state. After getting used to this state, I don’t want to bear the pressure of going out.
If you want to adjust this state, you must first start with dressing. For example, dress up well before going to work, or you can wear a new outfit to get your energy up. At the same time, strengthen your expectations for the future, think about your 5-year, 10-year or even 20-year plans, and tell yourself that if you want to realize these plans, you must start from now. After work, you should experience pleasure at work, find a sense of value, and communicate and cooperate more with colleagues.
user@The moon that is not tall: My son is in the sixth grade of elementary school. He used to not let him play mobile phones or games, and he was also very well-behaved. During the epidemic, he took online classes and his mobile phone and computer were in his room. He started playing games and watching live broadcasts at some point. When he was upset, he closed the door and locked the room. I didn’t want to make the relationship stiff. What should I do?
Wang Yao: It is now the era of mobile Internet. It is not a good idea to absolutely not let children access the Internet, and it will increase children's curiosity. Children in the sixth grade are in the transition period from children to adulthood, and their awareness of autonomy has increased, and parents' educational methods also need to be adjusted. We must learn to treat our children as adults and discuss things with them with them instead of just keeping them strictly.
At the same time, a "gentleman agreement" can be formulated within a family to clarify what they do not want each other to do, to find someone who both parents and children trust, such as brothers and sisters of the children who are of similar age, uncles and aunts who worship them to witness, and supervise the agreement. In addition, children should be encouraged to make progress in their studies in a timely manner and enhance their sense of self-worth.
user @�buli: Because of busy work, couples communicate less and rarely quarrel. During this period of time at home, they often quarrel over trivial matters. How to adjust the relationship between couples?
Wang Yao: It turns out that there is no quarrel because there is little communication and the relationship between husband and wife has been ignored. In fact, quarrel is also a way of communication. But be careful not to exaggerate when quarreling, such as easily mentioning divorce. Furthermore, couples need time and space for emotional communication in daily life, such as having a heart-to-heart talk to each other before going to bed. Maintaining a harmonious relationship between husband and wife must be mutual respect and trust between both parties.
In addition to the above questions, do you have other questions and want to find someone to "spoke it off"? Come and download the Yu Video app and chat with psychologists!
The specific participation method is: scan the QR code in the long picture below to download the Yu Video app - click on the "interest group" on the home page - find the "mental health" interest community - click on "join" - click on "participate in group discussion", and you can ask the experts questions! After seeing this, the expert will comment and reply under your message.
After collecting a certain number of questions, Dahe Daily·Yu Video will also invite psychologists to the live broadcast room to answer common questions that everyone has asked more questions. Come and interact with us~
Source: Dahe Daily·Yu Video Editor: Niu Zhongzhen
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