How to provide scientific sex education for children ?
Is it embarrassing to talk to your child about sex?
Younger children are prone to being curious, can’t hold back the questions, and like to ask questions; while puberty children become deeper and stop asking, but their curious eyes make their parents even more upset.
1. Don’t talk about sexual desire
As a parent, are you embarrassed to tell your children about sexual matters?
Some parents believe that sex education is a pit, and if they don’t grasp it well, they will teach their children badly.
Adolescent daughter is in love, don’t you know how to deal with it?
Children are watching pornography, as parents, you are very nervous.
Is sex education all about sex?
Sex education is a person's personality health education.
In this multimedia era and in this era of cultural diversity, how do we talk about sexual knowledge with children?
Basically, you face two options: proactively conducting scientific education and healthy guidance on your child, or letting the media and peers who are as naive as your child instilling in your child’s wrong or harmful information.
When I talked with a teacher who has been engaged in teenage psychological counseling for many years about how parents educate their children, he told me frankly: "I think talking about sexual issues with children with a frank attitude can ensure that children avoid a lot of 'troubles', so as to avoid early pregnancy and inappropriate sexual life.
2. Cultivate children's correct understanding of sex
teens are the flowers of the motherland's future and the hope of our nation. Helping them grow up healthily is our duty to each of us to do so.未分类, especially parents.
Parents attach importance to children's sex education, family education is an important way to promote sexual mental health for adolescents. From a social perspective, sex education has universal significance for improving the sexual morality of adolescents, promoting healthy and upward sexual psychology, preventing sexual sin and physical and mental health growth.
How should parents talk about sex to their children? Zhong Botian, deputy secretary-general of the Beijing Sexual Health Education Research Association, said that the biggest obstacle to sex education comes from parents. "Many parents think that it's better not to raise sexual issues, so as not to arouse children's curiosity and make them want to try it. In fact, children do not live in a ‘vacuum’, they have more desire for sex than their parents imagine. Secretary-General Zhong said, “Instead of causing adverse consequences due to curiosity, it is better to let them face it with a good attitude as soon as possible. "He believes that if parents have not received formal sex education, it is easy to lead to inappropriate education methods for their children. Therefore, the first step should be to give parents a tutor so that they can talk about sex to their children calmly.
3. Parents can start with the following aspects of their children's sex education.
First of all, is education about sexual knowledge.
Sexual moral education. It mainly refers to cultivating young people to deal with all aspects of their own sexual problems based on social culture and using socialist morality as the standard. For example, how to make friends with the opposite sex, how to view the choice of lovers, how to do a good job in husband and wife and family relationships, prevent sexual sin and error issues, etc.
Sexual intellectual education. It mainly refers to teaching sexual organs, sexual development, sexual behavior, sexual reproduction, and sexual hygiene. Basic knowledge.
Sexual physical education. It is to enable teenagers to know how to obtain body shape and sexual development through body bodybuilding exercise.
Sexual aesthetic education. The focus is to let teenagers understand how to shape their own beautiful gender characteristics, which should include body shape, beauty of appearance, beauty of skin color, beauty of clothing, appearance, temperament, personality, etc.
Secondly is the education of interaction between the opposite sex.
People are people of society. To study, work and live, they inevitably need to interact with the opposite sex. If the interaction between the opposite sex is not careful, it will also bring unnecessary troubles and troubles, especially for young men and women in adolescence. Generally speaking, you should establish correct communication motivation and adhere to natural, generous and civilized communication methods.
From the perspective of teenagers themselves, it is in the early stage of love, and men and women should be honest and generous when interacting.When you have a good impression of a certain opposite sex, you must learn to control yourself with reason and overcome the impulse of emotions. When dating men and women, pay attention to the time, place, and occasion, grasp the degree of emotion, pay attention to appearance and speech, be civilized and polite, be enthusiastic and generous, and not frivolous; also pay attention to the occurrence of things such as "the speaker is unintentional, the listener is determined", "self-indulgent" and "mutual suspicion" between the two parties, and strive to shape themselves into young people with civilized behavior and noble demeanor.
again is to reduce education with eliminating harmful stimuli.
pornographic books, films, TV, pictures, etc. are extremely strong adverse stimulation for teenagers' sexual impulses. They not only affect normal study and life, but also easily induce teenagers to go astray of sexual crimes. Therefore, we must educate young people to strictly demand themselves, resist the temptation of various bad video books and magazines, and ensure that they have a healthy spiritual life.
Fourth Parents should promptly warn their children about the differences between sexual physiology and sexual psychology of men and women during this period when their children are in adolescence, so that they can correctly grasp themselves, recognize themselves, enhance their self-control ability, and let their children understand that the maturity of sexual physiology promotes the development of sexual consciousness, but the maturity of sexual physiology is far earlier than the maturity of sexual psychology. With the increase of age, social contact, and knowledge continue to enrich, they have a realistic understanding of life, career, love, etc., and constantly self-control and self-improvement, so that the sexual psychology gradually tends to mature.
The fifth provides sex education according to the child's age; when parents teach their children sexual knowledge, they may wish to provide targeted and targeted guidance according to age group, such as 0 to 3 years old, 3 to 7 years old, 7 to 12 years old, and 12 to 17 years old. For example, when children go to kindergarten, encourage them to have more contact with the opposite sex, teach them that boys and girls cannot share the same toilet, and develop a gender awareness. After going to elementary school, tell girls about menstruation to avoid panic during their first menstruation and even causing a dirty impression of their sex. After entering junior high school, parents can explain to their children seriously that sexual behavior should be a behavior between husband and wife, which is generally divided into three stages: marginal sexual behavior, such as holding hands; process sexual behavior, including hugging, kissing, touching, etc.; substantial sexual behavior, also called purpose sexual behavior. In this process, the second stage is most important, and unmarried people should control their behavior at this step. When children become adults, in addition to educating them to avoid sexual behaviors as much as possible from a moral level, they should also teach them to use condoms and other contraceptives.
correct guidance on adolescent sexual psychology has a great impact on their sexual mental health and even intimate relationships in adulthood.
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