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"We can continue to feel satisfied, even if we are always scarred in this life." said this, but the meaning is endless. has also added a few cute little attention recently. Thank you!
Shakespeare said, "There is no good or bad in the world, it is all due to thoughts."
Many times, there are always one or two moments when your head is empty, and you don't know if you are in a daze or thinking, or your random thoughts before going to bed, and what do you want to change? The mind will say, "You can't do it." "This is too hard." "Give up!"
In the past two days, the master has become more and more perfunctory in cooking because he is a relative of the shareholder and is not under the supervision of the store manager. Yesterday I made a pot of cucumber bean curd sauerkraut fish , and I took a look and had no appetite at all. Then I saw the food in Pingtan Island Store. I heard that there was a butler missing there, and my mind immediately became active. "Go and go". I did not immediately ask the butler what conditions needed. I began to sort out my year-end plan. The last two months of 2022 are mainly about studying and preparing for the exam. Although this food is indeed very attractive, it does not match my short-term plan! In addition, the homestay housekeeper needs to entertain guests, and patience and service are indispensable. My personal personality tends to not communicate with others and concentrate on researching this. In the end, I no longer pay attention to the temptations of "go, go, go, go, go" in my mind. I named this idea "short thinking" and then completed daily study according to the plan.
Most of the time, many people will be trapped in the "psychological fog". For example, when you are in class, you look in one direction and feel like you are thinking nothing in your mind, or you don’t know what you are thinking? Just like this, I immersed in our thinking and missed the real life at this moment.
Of course, occasionally emptying your mind is not necessarily a bad thing. We will also be attracted by our own ideas at some point, which seem to be very helpful to life: having a big dream in a nap, seeing the dead in the gap between dreams and reality, etc. But we need to balance this scale. If we do not make behavioral changes, we will wander all day long in the dark "psychological fog".
Moreover, if you immerse yourself in the "psychological fog" for a long time, you will notice this gap when you return to reality. There are still fantasies between ideals and reality. The greater the sense of gap, the more useless thoughts in your mind. "This is impossible", "This should not be", "I can't handle it", "Why is this happening" and may even imagine worse scenarios. This idea is normal, but it just has no effect on reality.
Our thoughts themselves are not a problem. Thoughts do not create psychological fog, but the way we react to ideas create psychological fog.
Our idea is to form the text or picture in our mind. Now, close your eyes and pay attention to the thoughts in your mind. If your mind is blank at the beginning, you will imagine an empty space. If you think about it for a while, you may have many pictures, such as "What will you eat later?" " Meituan Preferred dishes can improve the food." "Little crispy meat~Sigh!"
If we just think briefly, they will not create problems. But if we hold on, it will turn into a fog, wrapping around my waist, seducing you to sink, and people will be destroyed step by step.
What can we do when facing the "psychological fog" like a dog skin plaster in life? " dissociation " refers to the separation from our ideas and seeing through their essence: no more or less, just some words and pictures.
The idea may or may not be true. Whether it is true or not, no matter how much immersion is, it has no effect on reality. We don’t need to pay attention, dissociation is important. In a dissociated state, we allow ideas to exist, but will not follow them completely, and will also allow them to stay or leave.
At the same time, if it is an idea that is helpful to us, we can also make plans, take effective actions, and turn the idea into practice.
We may fall into worry, resentment, or spend hours thinking about the difficulties we face.(Every time this happens, I feel like I'm wasting my time. I thought I didn't do anything and my learning progress was unchanged) Or, you are reading a page of a certain book, but at the end you don't remember what you read at all?
Dissociation first step, pay attention to whether we are lost in our thoughts or are completely attracted or occupied by our thoughts. returns to the present and is no longer trance. When you walk out, please pay attention to where you are and what you are doing? What did you missed just now? Most people will be surprised to realize that they are wasting a lot of their time on the "psychological fog".
dissociation step, naming the mind activities. For example, "thinking", that is, the process is named "thinking", which will help us to distance ourselves from the fog in our minds. The third step of dissociation of
, I call it "weakening". is basically doing some work to the ideas and "weakening" their influence.
We all have enough opportunities to learn, grow and awaken, and be grateful for life. Something terrible happened, and of course we have to learn and grow from it.
The honor contained in life itself is: we do have the opportunity to learn and grow. As long as we want, we can make full use of this opportunity anytime and anywhere, until the last breath at the end of our life.
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