When a person who always loves to laugh is judged to be depressed, becomes depressed, uninterested in everything, and even has suicidal thoughts, what happened to him?
"Mr. Toad goes to the psychiatrist" tells such a story: Mr. Toad turned out to be a passionate, fashionable and adventurous guy. He has always been a friend's pistachio, but he suddenly became depressed. On the advice of his friends, he went to see the psychiatrist Heron. After ten treatments, he finally found the joy of life.
This is a seemingly simple but profound psychological healing book written for adults.
The author, Robert, once taught at Henry Business School in the United Kingdom. He is an experienced psychology researcher and clinical practitioner. He has published many psychology textbooks for his specialty.
"Mr. Toad Goes to See a Psychologist" is his most famous and best-selling book on popular psychology. It has been published for more than 20 years and has long become a British national-level psychological counseling introductory book.
Next, let’s analyze why Mr. Toad is depressed.
The real reason for Mr. Toad's depression comes from his constant courting of others, and he will always live in the dissatisfaction of others, causing him to no longer have hope in this world.
And by understanding Mr. Toad’s experience, we will find that all his grievances and requests are traceable, and everything about points to his parents.
Mr. Toad’s father is a very strict man,The long-term superior makes him a very controlling person at home. He never played games with Toad. The most talked about it was scolding and dissatisfaction: "You are not allowed to do this" "Go back to your room"
Although Mr. Toad’s mother sometimes hugs him , But largely controlled by his father, and often do something to embarrass Toad.
has been dissatisfied with his parents for a long time. All that Toad can do is to please them and live the way they want.
And this state has been maintained until adulthood:
My friend Badger is tall and strong, and looks aggressive. Whenever he looked at me harshly, I would think of my father and always criticize my father. In short, unsurprisingly, the badger scolded me from start to finish.
I still remember every sentence he said: ‘Toad, you nasty bad thing, don’t you feel ashamed? Think about what you committed, what would your father say about you if he were alive! His accusation made me very sad. I cried all of a sudden and couldn't say anything.
Toad always lives in the world of others. In his opinion, others are always good, and they are useless.
A little bit of dissatisfaction with his friend, he immediately changed it against his will, which even became his conditioned reflex.
No criticism is stronger than self-criticism, and no judge is harsher than ourselves.
in life,We also deny ourselves because of the opinions of others. We do not know that it is not others who really deny ourselves, but ourselves.
It is impossible for a person to live a lifetime to ignore the opinions of others, but it is not necessary to just live for others.
The more transparent you live, the more you will discover: Self-comfort is more important than everything else. It is the true meaning of life that people who do not spend their lives.
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