Hello everyone, I’m Sun Miaomiao, the author of this article. We haven’t seen each other for a long time~
I saw "Talk Show Conference" two days ago, there is a topic of 14th span _strong "It doesn't matter, we all have'illness'".
Some people talked about facial anxiety and some people talked about physical problems, but the one that impressed me most was one of the talk show actors-Rock mentioned the topic of "depression" _strong14 spanstrong1.
Every time I see the word "depression" in the past, it seems to be in the entertainment news, such as "xx star suspected of depression."
So for a long time, I thought this was a "star disease", and it had nothing to do with you or me.
Until one day, a friend next to me suddenly told me that he was diagnosed with severe depression, but I was completely unaware of it...
Then I talked to my friend A lot,One of them surprised me very much-there are actually many "depressed patients", even primary and secondary school students.
I realized that depression is not far away from us.
Although there are people with depression who are receiving treatment, but after all, I have not experienced it personally, and I am not a psychiatrist. .
However, regarding the precursor of depression-depression, I have a lot to say.
After all, as an ex-worker and a current entrepreneur, I have been anxious to sleeplessness, and sometimes I can’t eat because of being criticized by the leader...and these, presumably. It's not just my exclusive experience.
So, today I still want to talk to you about the topic of "depression".
You can "go back", you don't have to be too depressed
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feeling of depression,It's like a lives in my mind. When we go to bed every day, she is asking:
Do you think your life is meaningful?
Do you think you are a valuable person?
Do you think what you do makes sense?
Have you ever thought about the consequences of failure?
This feeling of being questioned every day is very broken. What’s more, it’s that I can’t give an answer.
So what if this "Yi Lijing" not only lives in your mind, but really lives in your life?
We can always see in the news that some people cannot get the understanding of their family members after they are diagnosed with depression.
Isn’t it just a bad mood? Just go out and play.
What a big deal,Every day I cry and lose my face, making others feel bad.
If you are in a bad mood, you must learn to adjust yourself. Everyone is under a lot of pressure.
These ununderstood and caring remarks are like spreading a piece of "Yi Li Jing" in my mind, and each one is torment.
If at this time, you are still suppressing yourself blindly, it will only get worse.
So, don't be depressed, don't shrink, don't be timid, "go back" loudly, even angrily, and let those false concerns shut up and let your emotions be released.
Don’t be afraid, those who truly love you will understand you.
You can "have a relationship", you don’t have to be afraid to talk
I don’t know if you have ever read this sentence every day that is an adult’s life: _pquot6pquote 121 Hundreds of times, but when someone asked, it was all right.
in the TV series " I'm pretty good in a foreign country ",Hu Jingjing, played by Jin Jing, is just such a person, no matter how much he is "embarrassed," but as long as friends and family ask him, he is "okay."
has obviously been fired, but still pretends to be okay while helping a friend move.
obviously has financial difficulties, but still pretends to be okay when taking parents to see a doctor.
obviously likes that boy, but he still pretends to be okay when he learns that he is the boyfriend of a good friend.
Every time a friend is in a bad mood or encounters a problem, she is always a little sun for her friends, warming everyone around her.
She never mentioned her own difficulties. It was not until her death that her friends realized that they had never really understood her.
Rock said this in the "Talk Show Conference", the general idea is this: people who are not depressed are pretending to be depressed, and people who are depressed are pretending to be okay.
And I often see this kind of saying on the Internet: Real depression does not say that you have depression.Otherwise, it is "showing."
There may be depressive patients who have lost their desire to talk, but not all.
As far as my friend is concerned, he told me the news shortly after the diagnosis, and he is willing to tell me, is he lying to me?
Many people with depression are not about acting too hard on the Internet, but they are calling for help...
If you can talk, and talk is pretending," the other party may not dare to say it, because I'm afraid of being said "pretending", and I'm afraid that no one wants to hear it and no one understands it.
Actually, a true friend will want to hear your story. You can also talk about the sadness and sadness that you are overwhelmed by your mind. You don't have to pretend to be okay.
Even if you are a little sun, you can choose not to shine when you are tired.
People in the past rarely paid attention to mental health, but now, under the huge work and life pressure, mental health has become an issue that everyone needs to pay attention to.
I have collected some small methods,I hope it can help you alleviate your daily stress and anxiety.
⭐ Pay attention to emotions and prepare an "emotional thermometer"
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But when we grow up, few people ask us this question again; even if someone asks, most of our answers are the same "okay".
But in fact, many emotional problems are accumulated every day like this.
So why not try and ask yourself at the end of the day: How are you feeling today?
"Mr. Toad goes to the psychiatrist" mentions a concept called "emotional thermometer".
Suppose we have a thermometer that can be used to measure your current feelings. The thermometer has 10 scales, the lowest is 1,It means you feel very bad and may have suicidal thoughts. The middle is 5, which means you don’t feel too bad. The maximum is 10, which means you are very happy.
If "feeling" is a difficult question to answer, then answering a number will be much easier.
Where do you think you are today from 1 to 10?
⭐ 4span_strong4span 4span_strong4span 14strong _span0 Learn to connect with your own emotions and understand them.
As said in the book "Mr Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist":
If you deny them, no matter if you do it by ignoring your limbs, it will be a depressive way. As important parts of the body are cut off, you have become a disabled person to some extent.
To help us better understand emotions, we can prepare an "emotional diary", which is a very private book that belongs only to ourselves.
every night before going to bed, turn off the computer, mobile phone, play some soft music, give yourself half an hour or even an hour, quietly reviewing this day, feel your emotions today, it is anger ? Is it joy? Still tasteless?
No matter which one, try to self-analyze, what might be the emotion of _span4 _strong14? Do you like this emotion?
If you like it, what do you need to do to keep yourself in this mood? On the contrary, if you don’t like it, what do you need to do to avoid such emotions?
Write all these down, which is a kind of release in the moment, but also a great help to the repetition of emotions in the future.
No one can "make" us feel anything unless they use brute force to coerce you. After all, we "choose" our own feelings.
⭐ Set goals,Prepare a "goal plan"
Finally, there is a cliché: set goals.
A person without a goal will gradually lose his inner strength and become weak.
When you are in elementary and middle schools, you have the goal of "going to a good university"; when you go to college, you have the goal of "graduating smoothly" or "going to graduate school."
But after working, many people lose their goals and just follow the leadership's request to complete the work mechanically.
Only when you have a goal, you know what you are doing every day, and only then will you have a head start in your life.
If your goal is to "form a family," then you should start planning by knowing a partner who fits in. You can no longer stay at home for many weekends. pass.
If your goal is to become a company executive, then you have to learn more skills, such as leadership, communication skills, etc., because executives can never do their job well. .
look,As long as the goal is set, there will be a lot of things to do. When you are fulfilled every day, your emotions will be slowly dispelled.
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Of course, the above methods can only help us alleviate our daily emotional problems. When you feel that your emotions cannot be improved by these methods, seeks a doctor in time s help.
In the fourth season of "Talk Show", there is a talk show actor named Xiaojia. He was born with a lack of oxygen in the brain, which caused a nervous system disease and some limb defects. There was a sentence on the stage:
I believe everyone has the ability to become better.
Please believe it too.
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