With the development of the Internet, people have more and more convenient access to information, and they can quickly understand what is happening in the world without leaving their homes.
However, while facilitating access to information, it also makes people feel negative. Some people begin to feel sad, anxious, and fearful. Why is there another disaster? Why are there cases happening again? Why are so many people unemployed? and many more. In fact, these are all imagined by people themselves, and the world has not become more and more unbearable.
It is human instinct to produce negative thoughts, and people will be more likely to notice some bad things , which is an instinctive reaction from the primitive era to help people perceive danger in advance and take countermeasures .
Faced with a lot of information rushing to your face every day, how can you control your negative emotions? Emotions come from sensibility. We use rational analysis instead of perceptual perception, so that we can be mentally prepared when receiving information, so as not to be entrapped by negative emotions. Let's take a look at the specific methods.
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01 better and not good
When receiving information, in order to get rid of perceptual control, we need to learn to rationally distinguish between states and trends.
For example, due to the advanced information on the Internet, it is easy for us to see that celebrities from all walks of life have cancer information, and some people will inevitably have negative emotions about health problems.
Actually, seeing the news that a celebrity has cancer is just a reflection of his unhealthy state. And this person gets proper treatment, his physical condition slowly improves, and more and more cancers are cured, and the overall trend is going for a good one.
So, put together, this person with cancer is unhealthy.This is a bad state, but his body slowly improves during the treatment process, and the whole trend is developing in a better direction.
Our correct way of thinking should avoid black and white, and it is not necessary to choose one of the two. Both bad and better situations can exist at the same time, so that it is not easy to fall into negative thinking.
02 Recognizing the universality of selective reporting
Due to the development of the Internet, reporting and dissemination of information has become very easy. In order to obtain the first opportunity of traffic, many things will happen quickly as soon as they happen. Spread on the Internet.
As the saying goes: "Good things do not go out, bad things spread for thousands of miles."
Therefore, good news is rarely reported. Most of the information we see every day is not good, but it is negative. information.
When people’s life and work are progressing in an orderly manner, they appear to be very plain, unable to arouse the attention of others, and naturally will not cause transmission; and crisis events will quickly attract people’s attention. Inspire more people to discuss and spread the event, which is why most people hear and see bad things.
Hearing and seeing more bad things does not mean that the whole environment has become bad. It’s just that the development of information now brings more monitoring and dissemination. In the past, the technology was underdeveloped and could not be right. Monitor and report on events from time to time.
On the whole, the overall environment is much better than it was decades ago. Both people's living standards and the public security environment have been qualitatively improved.
03 Not to beautify the past
I once heard that there is a champion county in the northwest region,Those who have taken the exam from the impoverished mountainous area have never returned to their hometown. Maybe they don't want to bring back painful memories.
People like to remember beautiful things and remember their glorious moments, but they want to forget their unbearable past, and they don't want to be known by others. This is human nature. But sometimes over-beautifying the past, but will live in the unreality, unable to resist negative emotions when encountering setbacks.
Many of the young people who go to big cities to work hard are dream chasers far away from home. They yearn for the prosperity of big cities, hoping to take root in big cities so that their families can shine.
Every year there will be a steady stream of young people going to big cities alone, and the competition for talents is becoming increasingly fierce. Many young people encounter setbacks in employment and fall into negative emotions.
As the saying goes: "Take a step back and broaden the sky."
A young man who encounters employment setbacks in a big city does not mean that he has no talent or that his ability is not good. Things are not as terrible as imagined. Put it down and return to your hometown, there may be better development.
I have a friend who once told me that he has a subordinate who has been at the bottom of the team. Later, following the company's end-of-elimination system, his subordinate was fired.
The dismissed subordinate then returned to his hometown to find a related job. Although he was not able to work better than others in the big city, his work experience was very scarce in his hometown, in just a few years He was promoted to vice president, and the company gave him a BMW car.
Therefore, young people should not stick to the thinking of "I finally got out of my hometown, and I would be embarrassed when I go back." Past misfortunes or failures are precious treasures in life, and there is no need to deliberately beautify them.
In real life, we are more likely to receive bad news. This is an indisputable fact. Therefore, in order to control our negative emotions, the most important thing is to be mentally prepared for bad news.
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