Institute of Emotion and Psychology
Every day, in the bodies, minds and minds of many people, there is such a drama:
The boy or girl on the stage, with all their body and mind, waving various movements and shouting silently:
"I want to be seen, I want to be understood, I want to be loved, see me, come and love me."
But at the same time these boys or girls, with the same power, even more power.
repressed, whispered, "I'm not good enough, I don't deserve to be seen, I don't deserve to be loved.
I don't believe anyone would really accept and love me like this, I don't believe what I see, I It’s so imperfect, so unlovable.”
The questions everyone asks sometimes point to a problem—anxiety.
Is anxiety really bad?
It is precisely because of anxiety that we can study hard in order to get good grades in the exam;
It is because of anxiety that we will work hard to avoid mistakes.
We want to eliminate anxiety, but a life without anxiety is like a world without fear, which is not what we need.
Anxiety is our way of helping us eliminate stagnation, and it is also our antidote to a life of indifference. Moderate anxiety is good for us.
But excessive and intense anxiety may make us face the pain.
What exactly is anxiety?
In fact, anxiety is a danger signal to us, it will predict the danger and make people behave reasonably.
We will find that people are anxious because everything is uncertain.
We are not sure what kind of life we will have in the future, not sure if the other half will be loyal forever, not sure if we can make money in the future...
Everyone likes to have basic control over their own life, but hates the kind that is beyond their control ability thing.
So many people like stable happiness, stable work, and the only lover.
But happiness will change qualitatively, work will change, and lovers will disappear, so we will be anxious.
How anxious are you? When people say there is an earthquake, you will be anxious about whether the city you are in will experience an earthquake, and then go check a bunch of information.
If you find it, it will not be much better, if you find it, you will be more anxious.
Psychologists found that people's body and mind will affect each other, when your body has a nervous reaction.
also affects your mood, further exacerbating your inner unease.
Therefore, when a person falls into anxiety, the more he thinks about it, the more anxious he becomes, and the more worried he becomes about future uncertain events.
But it is pointless to worry about blindly, rather than let yourself into anxiety and anxiety.
It's better to divert your attention, go to exercise or watch a movie, and let yourself switch to other activities.
In addition, psychologists have discovered a general rule that when we are anxious about future uncertain events, we tend to assume many negative outcomes.
For example, when you're waiting for a job offer, you get nervous and imagine what the outcome will be.
System desensitization is a relatively professional way of overcoming fear and worry in psychology. The specific operations are:
①Write down the things that make you anxious according to the level of anxiety; Fully imagine or simulate until one is completely overcome, and then proceed to imagine or simulate the next.
can help you overcome anxiety about the things on the list to a great extent through such exercises, but the specific operation is far from being as easy as what I wrote, and it is recommended to complete it with the help of a psychological counselor.
It is possible to ease anxiety and make it less of a distraction in your life.
The above coping strategies can help reduce the degree to which anxiety affects you, even under better circumstances.
can give you more control over your life. I wish you and I stay away from anxiety and be your own master.
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