There are hundreds of people, all kinds of people, tens of thousands of people in society, with colorful personalities. Is it really the result of "God's palette"?
In the vast world, there are all kinds of human tragedies and comedies being staged every day. Is this complicated life story really just a game and a dream?
Internet society, fragmented information, living in this era that may change at any time, more and more people feel depressed. "I am depressed" has even become a popular label. Is depression really the fault of the times and society?
"Mr. Toad Sees a Psychologist". Many people have read this little book, and many people have recommended this little book. So, what Mr. Wuxiang shows you is not how to follow Mr. Toad to learn about psychological counseling. Introductory knowledge, but two psychological tools worth unlocking by each of us: the personality palette and the four psychological games.
Understand the personality palette and learn to reconcile with yourself
Psychological counselor Mr. Heron helped Mr. Toad open the personality palette, allowing him to find the causes of his own personality, and from the rich second generation to depression The root of patient .
The three primary colors of red, green and blue constitute a colorful world, and the three self-states of parents, adults and children form our vastly different personalities. Among them, child self-state is the natural attribute of each of us, as well as various adaptive reactions when facing other individuals, such as imitation, rebellion, etc.; parent self-state is inherited from our parents, and acquired from our parents. The influence that authoritative status exerts on us, such as authoritarianism, friendliness, etc.; the adult ego state is a stable state formed through learning and thinking during our growth process, and it is also a symbol of rationality and maturity. At different ages, these three self-states play different roles on the stage of our lives. With different roles, we show different personalities. For example, someone in his 30s is still childlike and carefree, and his child ego state has been playing the leading role; someone couldn't stand his parents when he was a child, but "I will become you when I grow up", and his parent ego state Unknowingly, he has become the A character; while someone has always behaved rationally and maturely, he is in the adult ego state and controls the overall situation. If the three self-states coexist harmoniously and the different stages transition naturally, the person's psychology will be healthy and stable. If the three self-states are in constant conflict or cannot be reversed for a while, the person will unfortunately become depressed, encounter various psychological disorders, and even become mentally ill.
The root cause of Mr. Toad's depression is that he has been controlled by the ego state of his authoritarian parents for a long time. He doesn't know how to vent his anger. He wants to get rid of it, but he can't. Even if you leave your parents as an adult, you will still be at the mercy of the same powerful people in your work and life. Therefore, only by untying the hidden knot in his heart can he truly get rid of his low self-esteem, confusion and helplessness and become his true self.
Unlock the four major psychological games and learn to live in harmony with society
After understanding the personality palette and learning to get along with yourself, Mr. Toad also faces another problem in life, how to get along with society?
In the same way, he must first understand the rules of the game in life and society.
Mr. Heron drew a "life coordinate" for him. The two ends of the horizontal axis were marked with "You are not good" and "Hello" respectively, and the two ends of the vertical axis were marked with "I am good" and "You are not good". This gave rise to 4 vectors, namely "I am good, you are not good", "I am good, you are good", "I am not good, you are not good", "I am not good, you are good". These four combinations are exactly the situations we may face or encounter in any life scene in society. In psychology, they are called the four major psychological games. It depends on how you play!
As the saying goes, "Situation comes from the heart." If you think "I am good and you are not good", you will naturally be careful about people's attitudes towards society and keep a distance; if you feel "I am good and you are not good", you will treat people and things well. You will be optimistic, enthusiastic, and proactive; if you feel that "I am not good, and you are not good," you will naturally be full of hostility and hatred towards people and things; if you feel that "I am not good, and you are good", you will become alienated from others and society. Feelings of inferiority tendencies.
People's attitude towards the environment will also have a reaction on people from the environment, which will have a corresponding impact on people's mental health. By playing these four psychological games well, you can live in harmony with others and society, and protect your mental health from harm from the outside world.
understood the personality palette and the four psychological games in the two psychological counseling sessions. Mr. Toad was finally able to bid farewell to Mr. Heron, return to life, become sunny and cheerful, and was welcomed and loved by his friends.
Personality Palette and Four Psychological Games, have you mastered them?
