If you understand this article, it will be really useful for your life and even your children's education. If you don't understand it or you are really arguing, don't force it. Everyone has their own ambitions.
Everything is a double-edged sword, poverty, too.
Poverty can be a driving force for progress, and it can also be a huge stumbling block on the road of life.
This thing is not absolute, but there is a high probability that people born in poverty will bear the imprint of the times and their original family. However, some people will change their habits and ways of doing things due to acquired experiences and thinking, but most people will be in this whirlpool throughout their lives.
I also grew up poor, although people of that generation all experienced material scarcity. But the attitude towards leftovers is not all the same. At least I don’t eat leftovers over and over again.
I don’t like waste, but I know the importance of health.
This is because I have figured out the trade-offs and adjusted and changed my habits and concepts since childhood.
And various imprints also influence everyone's development.
From another perspective, the most important thing in employing people is to know people well and teach them in accordance with their aptitude. If you want to train a person, you must first have talent in this area. If you don't have talent, everything is out of the question.
Just like when I led a team before, the two typical teams were the technical and sales teams. From my perspective, they were simply two types of people.
If a person wants to be in sales and grew up in a poor family, I will have an in-depth chat with him. It's not about his eloquence or loyalty.
What I want to see are two points. First, whether he has passed the "money" test, and second, whether he has passed the "career" test. Some people are born with it, and some people get through it on their own the day after tomorrow.
It is said that the children of the poor will become their own family early. This family management is very clever. Most people know how to save and break a penny in half to spend. They always want to spend money wisely, but from the perspective of sales and business, these people are not suitable for this kind of work.
There is no right or wrong here, because it is all influenced by the original family and environment, but some people will jump out of this dimension, while most people will spend their entire lives in this plane.
I understand their thinking very well, because the cost of trial and error is high, and because of the fear of failure, I must be careful every step of the way. I have been poor before, so I don’t want to waste a penny, and I always want to avoid spending money in vain.
However, if you are working part-time, this idea is still okay. But if you are doing business, investing, or dealing with others, it will not work.
Because the nature of business is uncertainty, investment also carries great risks. All these should be done according to fate. If you blindly pursue certainty, you will collapse after a few failures.
Therefore, students must be taught in accordance with their aptitude, and it varies from person to person. In some things, the native imprint will really affect the outcome.
There is an article in "Historical Records: The Family of King Goujian of Yue" called: Fan Li Saves the Son.
I read this article for the first time in classical Chinese. At that time, I thought about it for a long time after reading it, and I was worried that this kind of tragedy would happen in my life.
We all know that Fan Li is known as the Shang Sage and the richest man in ancient times. He even squandered his wealth several times and ended up being richest. He is a very wise person. He not only understands human nature, but also knows that Goujian cannot share the blessings. He can also retreat bravely and save his life in the end.
Everyone must read this story carefully, and it is best to tell it to your children. I think this story is a required course in children's education. Fan Li is such a rich person, but the money is not used and handled well, which ultimately leads to tragedy.
I will briefly describe the story. Interested readers can read the original text of "Historical Records".
Fan Li had three sons in his later years. The younger son was born into a well-off family, but the younger son was naughty by nature. To put it bluntly, he felt like he was eating, drinking, whoring, and gambling, just like the rich second-generation young masters today. Fan Li became the richest man in the country in his later years, and it is true to say that his son is the second generation of rich people.
One day, Fan Li's second son committed a crime and was imprisoned in Chu State. This was a capital crime and required beheading.
Fan Li knew that his second son was in danger this time, but as a parent, he had to do his best to rescue him. After all, he had money, especially in that era, when money could make all the difference.
Later, Fan Li asked his youngest son to load a cart of gold and asked him to go to Chu State to find a friend of his, Zhuang Sheng, and said that this friend could save his second brother.
The younger son has not started yet, and the eldest son has quit. He said that as the eldest son in the family, he naturally has to take the lead when something happens. Instead of leaving it to him, his father handed it over to his third brother. The eldest brother could not accept it anyway, and even threatened death.
Later, Fan Li couldn't resist his eldest son, so he gave the task to his eldest son and wrote a letter to his friend. He repeatedly told his eldest son: "When you get there, give the gold to Zhuang Sheng and let him deal with it. You must not have any dispute with him on your own."
After the eldest son accepted the order, he pulled a cart of gold to Chu State and found Zhuang Sheng's house as instructed.
Zhuang Sheng’s home was not very magnificent, and even a little shabby, but the eldest son still gave Zhuang Sheng the letter and a cart of gold.
After Zhuang Sheng read the letter and knew the other party's intention, he said: "I know the matter. You can go home and wait for the news. If your brother can go back, don't ask how he came out. If he can't help you, don't be resentful."
The eldest son did not listen to Zhuang Sheng's words and go home. Instead, he lived in the state of Chu and used various methods to find out the information, even spending a small amount of money to bribe some people.
As a friend of Fan Li, Zhuang Sheng is naturally not an ordinary person. It's just that he is honest and lives in a shabby house. After Fan Li's son left, Zhuang Sheng told his wife: "These money belong to Tao Zhugong . Let's not touch it. We will return it to him in the future."
Fan Li's eldest son also paid off. By bribed officials, he finally learned the shocking news that the King of Chu was going to grant amnesty to the world.
He immediately thought that his second brother was saved. When he was happy, he remembered the cart of gold that he had given to Zhuang Sheng a few days ago.
He thought to himself that it was God's will for the King of Chu to grant amnesty to the world. In this case, wouldn't this cart of gold be given to Zhuang Sheng in vain? So the eldest son came to Zhuang Sheng's house again. Zhuang Sheng was surprised to see him and said, "Why didn't you go home?"
The eldest son said, "I never left. Now I heard that King Chu has granted amnesty to the world. My brother is naturally fine, and there is no need for my husband." So I want to take this cart of gold with me?"
Zhuang Sheng pointed to the cart of gold and said, "You can take it without moving a penny." The eldest son immediately rushed to the gold and pushed the cart of gold away in a hurry.
Zhuang Sheng is a scholar and must have his own character and temper. He still cannot accept being so humiliated by a young man. Then he went to the palace to see the King of Chu and said: "A few days ago, I said that I was watching the sky at night. It is suitable for the king to repay heaven with virtue and grant amnesty to the world. But among the people pardoned this time are the sons of Duke Tao and Zhu. I heard that their family was using their money, and people also spread the news that the king deliberately acted cruelly because Duke Tao and Zhu were rich and powerful. "Pardon the world and let go of his son."
The king of Chu was furious and said: "I heard your husband's suggestion to pardon the world, and it is also to accumulate blessings for my people. Although my moral standards are not high, I will not pardon the world for Tao Zhugong's son.""
So, the King of Chu ordered Tao Zhugong's second son to be executed immediately. After the execution, he was granted amnesty.
Fan Li's eldest son reluctantly carried his younger brother's body back home. The whole family burst into tears after seeing it. Only Fan Li smiled helplessly and said: "I had expected that the eldest brother would definitely kill his second brother this time. It was not because he didn't cherish his younger brother, but because he was reluctant to throw away his money. He has worked hard with me since he was a child, and he knows that making money is not easy and has suffered, , so he is reluctant to give up money. , on the other hand, is the third child. He was born with wealth and wealth. He doesn’t know how hard it is to get money, and he never begrudges money. I chose to let the third child go because he was willing to spend money, but the eldest brother couldn't do it. In the end, his second brother's life was lost.
Fan Li finally said: "Don't be sad. From the moment the eldest son left, I was waiting for the second son's body to come back." "
When the story is told to this point, I think many people are extremely sad, and I was quite emotional at the beginning. Later, I paid great attention to the selection and employment of people, including the sophistication of people or business dealings. People, I don't know how to be stingy. The sales team must get through the "money" level.
In fact, there is another point in the story, that is, the third child is heartless and can definitely do what Zhuang Sheng said, go home immediately after giving the money, or he can do what Zhuang Sheng said. There is also the possibility of eating, drinking, prostitution and gambling. Anyway, he won't be like the boss, searching for information everywhere and staring at the cart of gold.
The same is true for investing and doing business. The heartless energy of the third child is needed. Many people want to get results immediately when they buy a stock . They watch the market every day. Aren't they like the eldest son who goes around to inquire about information?
The same is true for doing business. There is no guarantee that the transaction will be successful. , some cooperation partners have been maintaining for a long time before they can produce results. The mentality of Lao San is actually achieved in a way: do your best and listen to fate.
"Poverty" itself is not wealth, but forging ahead because of poverty is wealth, and if you need to go further, being timid because of poverty is an obstacle.
Many people want to go further, whether it is wealth or career, but they all encounter bottlenecks. neck. They think they have worked hard enough, so why can't they compare to so-and-so? In fact, at a certain stage, the bottleneck is not whether they work hard or not. Maybe it depends on who is more ambitious and courageous, and these are the bottlenecks.
When a person works in a company, of course he does not need to consider the worldly relations and business dealings. But once he wants to make progress, such as starting his own company, if he continues to think about working in the past, he is doomed to fail, as Tao Zhugong said: "He was reluctant to give up money, and finally cost his second brother's life. "
Over the years, I have seen how many people are reluctant to pay the bill after eating, and pretend to answer the phone when paying for a cup of coffee. In the end, they lose business and partners. The sales team of our company has been there before, and it can really make people popular.
They seemed to have saved money for a cup of coffee, but ended up losing ten thousand taels of gold.
I remember something that made me laugh or cry a while ago, because I didn’t pay attention to the background after posting the article. As a result, I took a look before going to bed, and someone left more than 50 messages for me. htm The font of l2
is relatively small. It took me a long time to understand what was going on. It turned out that he praised me for 10 yuan after reading that article, and then he wanted to go back. It started with kind words. He is a loyal reader of mine and has read many of my articles.
then said that the child clicked it accidentally and asked me to return it to him. Later, when he saw that I didn't reply, he started to curse, using all kinds of vicious words, and he cursed dozens of times.
I didn’t even confirm whether he really appreciated it at the time, so I immediately replied to him: “I didn’t see your message, please leave a way to collect payment and I’ll find someone to transfer it to you immediately. "
After he sent me a method, I asked someone to transfer ten yuan to him, and then immediately blocked him.
It’s not because he wants money, it’s mainly because he curses so hard. I don’t want to have anything to do with this kind of person.
People with this kind of way of doing things will also miss many opportunities in life and the workplace, especially the state of turning against each other, which will make good luck, blessings and good karma go away.
Today is the 129th anniversary of the birth of Chairman Mao, commemorating Chairman Mao.
Speaking of the older generation of revolutionaries, whether they are Premier Zhou, Chen Duxiu, or Li Dazhao, in fact many of them came from scholarly families. At least they had studied abroad, read books, and gone to university in that era.
In essence, these pioneers of the older generation are not from ordinary backgrounds, and they are by no means out-and-out poor people.
Therefore, their structure and vision will not focus on three meals a day or small profits. There must be a reason why
can become a big thing.
I really hope everyone can read this article. Sometimes after hard work, I find that I have encountered a bottleneck, whether it is career, business, or human resources. Maybe the problem lies in the stigma of poverty, which affects one's behavior as a person.
Good night, dear readers. (previously written in the official account article, copied here) The original text of comes from the official account: Snowball Sixty Old Man (huajia1959). Welcome to pay attention, it contains all historical articles.
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