says "raising children to prevent old age", For the older generation, attaches great importance to the matter of inheriting the family line. When their children reach a certain age, the parents at home are anxious and are busy for their children's marriage, in order to enable their children to get married as soon as possible and continue the task of inheriting the family line.
But Nowadays, post-90s generations have a different view of marriage . They prefer the life of their only son because the pressure of life is too great now. Their current abilities are not enough to maintain the life of a family. They think that life without getting married is free and the responsibilities they have to bear are not that great.
More and more grandmas don’t like to take care of their children. What’s going on? It’s not that I don’t love it, the reason is too realistic!
But children can never resist their parents. Even if they are carefree and do not get married, they will eventually enter the palace of marriage. Of course, they put the matter of having children on the road after getting married, but young people born in the 1990s are more keen on their careers, so they will choose to leave their children to their parents to take care of.
" Anyway, it's what you ask to have a baby, so it's not too much to help us take care of the baby." has also become the idea of young people.
Especially now most women give their children to their grandmothers. In our inherent thoughts, after the child is born, he is the man's child, and the child should be taken care of by the child's grandmother.
But no matter what, the grandmother of the child is not her own mother. Although young people are unwilling to take care of their children after marriage, , they also want to hand over their children to someone they trust to take care of .
, especially for families with only daughters, they rely more on their mothers on . Once there is anything that needs help, the first thing they think of is their mother. But my grandmother actually didn't want to take care of her children. One of my friends, Xiao Li, is the only daughter of the family. After she reached the age of marriage, she got married and had children according to her parents' ideas.
But although Xiao Li gave birth to a child, her mind was always on work. After she finished confinement, she couldn't wait to return to her workplace. , but with the existence of a child, she could not do what she wanted to do as she wanted. After continuing to take care of the baby at home for two years, Xiao Li really couldn't stand the life of a housewife, so she made a secret decision.
Xiao Li plans to hand over his child to his mother to take care of, why not choose his mother-in-law? This is because Xiao Li feels that the mother-in-law is always not the same as herself. In the future, there will be conflicts over the children's education issues, which will only make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more serious. If you hand over the child to your mother, you don't need to worry so much, and you can work with peace of mind.
Xiao Li's mother was quite happy to hear this decision because she had nothing to do at home after retirement. Helping her daughter take her grandson with her grandson can cultivate feelings with her grandson and add some color to her life. But after taking care of her for a month, Xiao Li's mother collapsed. asked Xiao Li to take her child back .
Because the child is just two years old, it is the time to be naughty. Xiao Li's mother is also older. It is very hard to chase the child every day. Once the child does not meet the child's wishes, she has to spend a lot of time to make him happy. Xiao Li's mother feels that this is more difficult than letting herself go to work .
In just one month, Xiao Li's mother became even more haggard.Because the educational concepts of young people have changed now, people who used to take care of their children were "free-range" and do not pay much attention to the education of children.
Nowadays, young people should pay attention to science in all aspects and raise children with scientific standards, which makes Xiao Li's mother feel very tired.
Children are the love crystallization of couples. Women should not make things too difficult for their mothers. They can discuss with the people at home how to take care of the children. Everyone will not be so hard to share the burden.
, especially for families with only one child, , mothers like , do not have much experience in raising children, , most of them have the help of the elderly in the family. When they were young, they didn’t know how to take care of their children. Now that their temples are gray, they will be even more torture.
If there is really no one to take care of the child, young mothers who choose a career can spend some money, hire a nanny to take care of the child's life , so that this problem can be solved. The child can take care of his or her own ideas, and his or her career has not been lost because of it. Without the influence of tedious things in the family, he or she can do his or her best in his or her work.
Summary: There are many ways to solve the problem, mainly depending on what method you choose to solve it. The necessary communication was indispensable at that time. You can hold a family meeting for this, solicit the ideas of other members of the family , so as to find the best solution.
Today's topic: Who did your children bring them for?
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