However, in recent years, many people have discovered that the phenomenon of "eating cold mats" in rural areas is very common. "Eating cold mats" means only paying for money, but not eating. Some people may not be able to come because they have something to do and ask someone to bring a gift. Some people will leave after handing over the gift, chat with the host family and leave, and will not stay for dinner. This has led to the fact that many seats are deserted, with only three or two people on each table, completely without the lively atmosphere of rural banquets in the past. What's going on?
1. Improve living standards
When I was a child, I liked to have a banquet very much. In addition to being able to join in the fun, the most important thing is to have a good meal. The fish that has surplus year after year, the chicken that is lucky, the prosperous braised pork , etc. are all essential dishes at the banquet. In the era at that time, it was completely fine to say that the dishes at banquets were more abundant than during the Chinese New Year.
But with the development of the economy, the living standards of the whole people are improving. People want to eat whatever they want to buy in supermarkets, and various restaurants are also dazzling. Even if you live in the countryside, you can buy chicken, duck, fish and meat by going to a market or at a supermarket, and the price is within easy acceptance. Because is not bad for eating, people's expectations for eating mats will naturally decrease.
2. The cost of eating mats becomes higher
The high cost of eating mats here does not mean that the etiquette is high, but the time and economic cost of eating mats. To be honest, there are very few people who have been living in rural areas now. Many young or middle-aged people work in the city or have settled in the city. The cost of living in cities is high and the pace is fast, so many people may not have much rest time.
If you want to go back to the countryside to attend the banquet, those who are close to the distance will have to take at least one day off, and those who are far away must even go back one day in advance. Not only did we not have a full attendance award, we may also have a two-day salary short of it. If you drive back, the fuel fee and highway toll expenses are much higher than the gift you receive. If you don’t have a private car and take public transportation back, you will be exhausted to death on the way. So except for some direct family members who have to rush back, others usually choose WeChat red envelopes and gifts, which means it has come!
3. Family relationship gap
I have to say that the distance has extended the family relationship to a certain extent. Most of the relatives who were young were in the same village. If they were farther away, they would be in a nearby village. They would be able to arrive in just a few steps, so they would naturally walk a lot. Nowadays, many young people end up staying in big cities from school to work. This makes the original relatives far and wide. Some drive for at least several hours, and there is no need to say that they are even further away.
is too far away. To be honest, except for the direct relatives, other relatives basically don’t walk around often. But if relatives don’t leave for three years, they won’t be together. One generation is relative, the second generation is representative, and the third generation is fourth generation is not away. After a while, when my parents passed away, perhaps this relative would be cut off. Therefore, many young people have no basis in family ties for some relatives, and naturally they will not go over to attend the banquet.
4. Various "feasts" made by clever names
In the past, banquets were basically all major events such as marriage and children, and the elderly for a hundred years. In addition to providing opportunities for exchanges between relatives and friends, it was more of a kind of etiquette. But now, you can hold a banquet if you have any idea. Not to mention regular wedding and funeral wines, full moon wines, wines, opening wines, housewarming wines, school wines, and birthday wines. Some people even have to buy a car and have to hold a wine. The trend of infringing banquets is becoming increasingly serious.
Are these people hospitality? Not, but the use of courtesy exchanges is wrong. Holding a banquet at means that you have to take gifts when you go. The "banquet" with various clever names is to regard other people's gifts as a business that makes money. has to hold a drink for all kinds of things. Sima Zhao's heart is well known to everyone, but he is shameless. You are really embarrassed to ask him to give him a gift in the same way in the future. So over time, normal people will refuse to attend meaningless "feasts".
Conclusion
Holding a banquet is a way of interpersonal communication, and "eating cold squash" is a manifestation of social phenomena. , however, such a way of only being in love and not eating, also has certain benefits, which not only reduces waste, but also saves a lot of trouble. With the development of the times, many things are being eliminated. Perhaps one day, rural meals can only become a special memory in the hearts of a generation.
Finally, I would like to ask everyone, do you still eat mats often? What is the reason for not wanting to go?
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