In this human society, social phobia is a special existence. They are nervous about social interaction. In order to reduce the chance of contact with others, they often choose to avoid or refuse to communicate with others in a positive way, such as shopping guides following when shopping in the mall, meeting unfamiliar colleagues, enthusiastic neighbors, and the last one in a group chat... This kind of social fear is essentially an anxiety and tension about interpersonal relationships, and more because is afraid of embarrassment or prefer to get along with familiar people.
Embarrassing scenes of social terror
For social terror, speaking is a difficult project that brings together a series of complex behaviors such as emotional insight, information processing, environmental perception, and proactive questions. After leaving home, in places where there are no acquaintances, social terror people are facing crises everywhere.
went out to buy vegetables, and met an aunt from the same community, and enthusiastically asked about her recent situation.
cut the head, Tony will enthusiastically and politely introduce it from hairstyle to scalp care, and then take care of you from personal to work.
is shopping around and wants to take a selfie, but the consequence is that it has attracted a lot of attention inexplicably. After walking away, I look back at you from time to time...
It can be said that as long as people go out, there will be dangers. The embarrassing scenes come at any time, making people dare not take steps.
For social terrorists, it is best not to get close, care, or communicate, because they also have a lot of fun things to be busy with.
may be "pseudo-society" or "lazy"?
In the eyes of others, social fear people may be cold, weird, and impolite. They can be handled online and never meet offline. They talk endlessly on the Internet, but in reality they are the ending of topics. They just want to be a transparent person and make their presence decrease again and again. However, some people are actually "pseudo-society". To briefly explain, they will become social bulls in front of other social fear people.
Have you ever encountered two people who are socially terrified, but one of them chatted with strangers for a few words, as if he was talking. Or you are socially terrified, but when you meet someone who is more socially terrified, you may become a socially tycoon?
However, some people may not even be considered social terror. They are just too lazy to take care of others, too lazy to go out, or don’t like to talk, but they may often be labeled as “social terror”. In order to survive in society, they can only pretend to be “normal” in the eyes of the public.
social terror, it does not necessarily need to change
It is said that social terror must have four-piece sets: headphones, masks, hats, sunglasses. It's a joke on
. In fact, social may also be introverted, or a little bit introverted.
There are many ways for the education society to become a social bull online, but does the social fear have to change?
In a society that advocates collectivism and human relationships, "social terror" is not very popular. But why do you want to change?
"I think social fear is not good" and "I like this kind of self, but I also want to expand social interaction" brings completely different experiences. Social fear is actually just a way of dealing with it, not a problem. Everyone is not perfect, and accepting yourself is more important than changing yourself. When you understand yourself, it is okay to choose whether to change it.
Sometimes, the more you force yourself to integrate, the more you will be rejected by others; but if you keep your independence, keep your distance, and keep your boundaries, others will want to get closer to you.
I once saw this saying: When a social fearful person becomes less afraid, it is not because of a change in personality, but because the person he meets makes him feel full kindness and let him down.
People who are social terror have strong empathy, will not refuse others, dare not make demands, and are worried that others will not like them. In fact, many burdens are shackles made by themselves. If you can understand the source of social terror, you are not afraid of being rejected, disliked, isolated, etc., and not be swept by desires and emotions, and do it according to your own wishes, social terror is nothing, and it is not bad to be a happy social terror person.
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