The tenth issue of the first domestic parent-child intergenerational observation program "The Boy Who Opened His Heart" was broadcast on Beijing Satellite TV at 21:40 today! This issue ushered in a new lineup of the growth guard team. The promoters of the growth guard Deng Yaping invited the micro-expression psychologist Jiang Zhenyu, and the heart-warming dad Yuan Chengjie as guests, and at the same time, they joined hands with the new viewpoint pioneer Zhang Yameng_ span2span, youth spokesperson An Qi, together to solve difficult problems on behalf of the family for this issue.
Should parents support their children's artistic dreams?
In today's society, parents always hope to train their children to become people with comprehensive development in moral, intellectual, physical, and artistic. Among the representative families in this issue, 15-year-old Zishu is such an excellent child. From kindergarten to junior high school, Zishu has participated in numerous competitions, large and small, and has won countless medals, and is dubbed by teachers as "awarded professional households." The achievement of these honors cannot be separated from the strict requirements of his mother, and also cannot be separated from Zi Shu's own art-loving heart. In school, she often participates in activities as a host, and the teachers also recognize her ability very much. Gradually, Zishu began to have an infinite vision for fulfilling her artistic dream in the future. She and her mother proposed that they wanted to study professional art courses and take the art test. However, in my mother's opinion, taking the artistic path is far inferior to completing school in a down-to-earth manner, going to university, graduating step by step, and finding a stable job.
Is it right or wrong to give up your dreams for your parents?
In the third year of Zishu's third year, the school held an opening ceremony to welcome the new students. As usual, the teacher asked Zishu whether he would continue to be the host. Out of respect, Zishu asked his mother's opinion after returning home from school. , Sure enough, his mother's objection was obtained. "Your studies are so heavy in the third year of junior high. Participating in activities will definitely delay your studies!" Faced with her mother's doubts, Zishu tried to assure her that she would not delay studying, but she was still rejected by her mother.
Mom’s persistence and opposition became the last straw that overwhelmed Zi Shu,She angrily said to her mother: "I think you disrespect me too much. Last time I liked the art class, you canceled it without my consent!" There was a quarrel about the balance between the class and the cultural class. In the show, when Deng Yaping, the promoter of the growth guard, asked Zi Shu if she felt that she had given up her dream for the sake of her mother's dream, she shed tears in an instant and nodded gently.
Parents should evaluate first before making a decision
The story of Zishu and his mother evoked Yuan Chengjie's memories. He introduced, "An agent discovered me back then and told me that you can become a singer. However, the whole family opposed me taking this path. Only my mother stood up and said to me,'Mom supports you.' It is precisely because of the support of my mother that I passed the opposition of the whole family." The child will gradually form his own thinking system as he grows up. When the child discovers his hobbies, he will take it into action as his dream. At the time, parents should not rush to deny their opposition at the first time. Instead, as the opinion pioneer Zhang Yameng said, "Parents should evaluate their children's abilities from an objective perspective before deciding whether to support them." Jiang Zhenyu, a micro-expression psychologist, also believes that “if the child is talented and willing to work hard, the parent should support the child.” This prerequisite is very important. If the child is only pursuing blindly on a whim, the parent can gently guide the child after the evaluation. Focus on learning first.
At the end of the show, during the communication with her daughter, her mother understood Zishu's persistence in her dream and saw her daughter's seriousness and sensibility. She said that she would support Zishu in learning what she likes in the future. Parents will always worry about their children, hoping that they will stay in the comfort zone of adult cognition and live their lives steadily. But they often overlook that in the growth of children, parents' support and affirmation, help and guidance of their children's dreams are more important than arranging their lives. Today at 21:40, Beijing Satellite TV "The Boy Who Opened His Heart", so stay tuned.
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