As the old saying goes, people have three kinds of urgency. The first thing that comes to mind is the physiological urgency, which is internal urgency. : "urinary urgency, defecation urgency, and vomiting urgency."
Because when these physiological needs come, sometimes it seems that you can't help it. Although it is difficult to be elegant, there is nothing you can do about it.
However, the biggest difference between humans and animals is that humans have a sense of shame, while animals do not.
Therefore, when the three emergencies strike, humans will look for toilets, uninhabited places, and secluded places to solve their urgent needs.
For a three-year-old child, when the three emergencies come, he may not have the concept of the eternal flame of civilization in his mind. The only thing he wants to do is to solve the problem on the spot. This is understandable, after all, he is a child.
But in 2020, in this scenic spot, a three-year-old child urinated in the grass on the roadside, which triggered a civil dispute involving insults, quarrels, pushing, falling off a cliff, and litigation.
1, Spring Outing
The ancients wrote in poems:
The beauty of April in the world is exhausted, and the peach blossoms in the mountain temple begin to bloom.
It can be seen that April, the season when the grass is growing and the orioles are flying, is the most beautiful time for many people to travel and go hiking in the mountains.
Mama Lu from Zhejiang is no exception.
On April 12, 2020, Mother Lu and her husband took their three-year-old son and friends to the Mogan Mountain Scenic Area for fun.
The scenic area is full of flowers and willows, and the birds are singing and dancing. It is a vibrant and prosperous scene.
Everyone was quickly attracted by this beautiful scenery. They walked and stopped along the way, taking photos as much as they wanted, hoping to imprint this most beautiful scenery together with the most beautiful smiling faces into the memory of life.
However, Lu’s mother and her husband never expected that an out-of-control accident would happen unknowingly due to their son urinating everywhere.
2. Tragedy caused by 3-year-old baby urinating everywhere
While everyone was immersed in the intoxicating natural scenery and taking pictures, Mother Lu suddenly heard a sharp and disgusting accusation:
Whose child is this uncultured!
Since she had a child, she heard someone talking about someone’s child. Mother Lu instinctively turned to look at her son and found the child squatting on the ground. She hurriedly stepped forward to stop the child, but the child had already finished urinating.
She thought that maybe the child couldn't hold it in anymore, so she solved it regardless of the occasion.
Feeling a little guilty and embarrassed, Mother Lu picked up her child and wanted to leave. Unexpectedly, the sharp voice came again:
I don’t know what kind of parents gave birth to such a child! So uneducated!
Mother Lu originally felt a little guilty because her child urinated on the roadside, but it happened and there was nothing she could do about it.
heard the woman's relentless accusations and insults, and her anger suddenly rose.
She said to the well-dressed middle-aged woman (Ms. Jin) who accused her:
My child is only 3 years old, why do you insult others? Besides, whose children are educated, why are you scolding us again and again?
Not to be outdone, Ms. Jin said:
It’s okay for your child to defecate anywhere. This is a beautiful natural scenic area, but it has been destroyed by uncivilized and uneducated people like you!
Hearing the other party uttering bad words again, Mother Lu was furious and asked Ms. Jin to apologize.
Ms. Jin refused, so the two of them started to quarrel with each other. Seeing that the quarrel became more and more fierce, the two of them started to push each other.
During this period, Ms. Jin cursed harshly and loudly:
You are not worthy of being Chinese. What kind of child is born? You are so unqualified!
An angry mother Lu stepped forward and kicked Ms. Jin, knocking her back from the steps.
When Ms. Jin’s husband Fan saw his wife being kicked, he stepped forward angrily and pushed Mother Lu.
Writing here, it is necessary to introduce Fan’s identity. He later said in the transcript that he was the captain of an airline company. This time took his wife out for a trip to relax during the holiday.
Fan pushed Mother Lu and then pulled his wife to leave. Unexpectedly, when passing by Mother Lu, an upset Ms. Jin kicked the son next to Ms. Lu to the ground.
This move puzzled the onlookers:
Ms. Jin looked well-dressed, but spoke so unpleasantly, and kicked a 3-year-old child. It was really outrageous...
Seeing her frightened son with tears in his eyes, Mother Lu was furious.
She chased Ms. Jin from behind. Ms. Jin knew that she was wrong for kicking someone else's son, so she ran forward quickly.
Mother Lu angrily chased her to a pavilion on the edge of a cliff. The two started fighting on the spot, and the scene was quite embarrassing.
Pavilion
Mother Lu’s husband tried his best to stop and persuade her.
In order not to let his wife suffer, Fan stood between the two women.
Mother Lu was so angry when she saw this, she thought to herself, just now you pushed me, your wife kicked my son, and now you are standing in the middle and trying to sidestep me, you are so bullying!
So, she made a move that she deeply regretted.
Because Ms. Jin was protected by her husband, Mother Lu, who could not hit her, stood on the bench holding the pillar of the pavilion and tried to kick the opponent.
However, before she could kick Ms. Jin, Ms. Jin’s husband Fan pushed her chest and abdomen hard. It only took a moment. , Mother Lu fell from the railing of the pavilion into the cliff behind her ⋯
The pavilion where the two were fighting was located on the edge of a steep wall. There were some trees on the upper part of the steep wall and rocks on the lower part. The cliff was about 20 meters deep.
Fortunately, the bottom of the cliff was covered with dense bushes, and Mother Lu was not very strong, so she fell to the bottom of the cliff and died while people were screaming.
If her husband had not responded promptly and immediately called the scenic spot’s work phone for help, she would have probably fallen off the cliff and died as a result of the fight.
Mother Lu, who was discharged after being hospitalized for 8 months, was diagnosed with first-level minor injuries to her back, minor injuries to her mouth and face, and minor injuries to her body and limbs.
3. Seeking justice for yourself
Lying in the hospital bed, Mother Lu not only suffered from huge physical pain, but also had nightmares almost every night.
When I close my eyes, I can see the frightening moment when I fell from a height, and the helpless and scared expression of my son when he was kicked and beaten.
The more she thought about it, the more angry she became. She called the police in June 2020, claiming that the captain Fan and his wife deliberately caused him to fall off the cliff.
Police Station conducted mediation between the two parties based on the idea of peace being the most important thing.
Fan appeared to be more sincere during the mediation. He said that he was the captain of an airline company and that he might not be able to keep his job if he was held criminally responsible. He proposed a compensation of 700,000 yuan in the hope of resolving the matter.
But Lu’s mother did not accept it, and later increased it to 1.4 million yuan, and asked for a one-time settlement of 1.4 million yuan.
Fan felt very embarrassed about this request, saying that he could only afford to pay 700,000 yuan first and pay the remaining 700,000 yuan in installments.
But this proposal was rejected by Lu’s mother.
After the mediation failed, Lu’s mother filed a lawsuit in the local court.
A transcript provided by Lu’s mother shows:
Fan said that it was more dangerous for her to stand on the pavilion chair at that time, but when he saw his wife being chased and beaten, he wanted to prevent her from being kicked over, so he pushed her back with all his strength, without considering whether she was in danger.
Mother Lu believes that the surveillance video at that time can explain everything.
Fan was pushing rather than blocking. Fan also admitted in the police station transcript that he pushed Lu’s mother forcefully. Fan had a clear understanding of the danger level of the cliff where the pavilion was located and the possible harm caused by falling.
But in June 2020, the Deqing County Public Security Bureau considered that Fan had no criminal facts and refused to file the case against Lu’s mother for intentional injury.
html On October 29, Lu’s mother received a criminal judgment from the Deqing County People’s Court, which ruled that her accusation of pushing Fan off the cliff was not established, and Fan did not commit the crime of intentional injury.
Injury
It is shown in the judgment:
Yes Multiple witnesses testified that Fan's wife, Ms. Jin, kicked the child down and was questioned by the people around her. Mother Lu also chased her and fought back. After Ms. Jin hid in the pavilion, Mother Lu tore off her wig and threw water glasses at each other. Later, she saw a hand pushing Mother Lu down the railing, but she couldn't see whose hand it was.
The verdict also showed that Fan claimed that he reached out to block Mother Lu and pushed her back. Mother Lu lost her balance and fell backwards, falling from the pavilion. She did not elaborate on how to push her back.
Surveillance near the pavilion captured the incident.
According to the identification of the video by the Forensic Identification Center:
Mother Lu was standing on the pavilion seat with her back against a column and arguing with Ms. Jin. Fan reached out to push Mother Lu’s right hand. When Mother Lu raised her leg to kick Fan, her legs were unable to move backwards due to the railings to maintain balance, and she fell outside the pavilion.
Therefore, it is controversial whether Fan deliberately pushed out Ms. Lu.
In the end, the court held that there was no causal relationship between Fan’s reaching for the partition and Mother Lu’s fall.
The court held that Fan was not either party to the conflict, nor was he the one who intensified the conflict. His act of reaching out to shield his wife was to protect his wife. He did not have the intention to harm others subjectively. He did not violate social order, good customs, ethical norms and laws, and his passive defense behavior did not constitute a crime. Illegality;
There is a contradiction between the testimony of the witness in court and his written statement. Combined with the surveillance video and appraisal opinions, it cannot be proved that Fan committed the harmful behavior of pushing and pushing Mother Lu. There is no causal relationship between Fan’s reaching out to block the situation and Mother Lu’s injury after falling off the cliff. Fan does not constitute the crime of intentional injury.
Mother Lu didn’t understand this very much.
She said:
Fan was a tall man and he pushed me once on the steps, as stated in the witness statement. I was also pushed by him in the pavilion. He was not here to break up the fight. He was obviously emotional at the time.
Mother Lu and her lawyer expressed doubts about the verdict.
They believe that the video can clearly see that Fan was pushing rather than blocking. Fan also admitted in the police station transcript that he pushed Lu's mother hard. Fan had a clear understanding of the danger level of the cliff edge where the pavilion is located and the possible harm caused by falling. However, there are many unobjective statements in the description of the video by the appraisal center.
Lu’s mother said that she will continue to appeal for an explanation. As for the ending, many people who follow this case will wait and see.
Thought-provoking:
Although this dispute from a beautiful scenic spot to a lawsuit was caused by a three-year-old child, the child must be the most injured person in this case.
When he was young, he experienced the tragedy of being scolded and kicked down by adults because of three urgent needs, and also witnessed the tragedy of his mother falling off a cliff. Fortunately, his mother was lucky and survived after falling from a cliff of more than 20 meters. This may be the power of maternal love secretly protecting her.
I feel that the psychological trauma experienced by children cannot be healed in a short period of time.
In fact, parents who have raised children all know that 3-year-old children sometimes really cannot control their excretion ability.
A relative’s child wore diapers at night until he was five years old. Later, when he entered first grade, he found his pants wet after school several times.
It is certainly wrong for children to urinate everywhere, but Ms. Jin treats a three-year-old child unforgivingly, utters evil words, insults repeatedly, and kicks the child before leaving. She lacks due sympathy for weak children. You can imagine how arrogant she is usually!
Let me ask you, if she saw an adult man urinating everywhere, would she dare to shout insults and kick him? A typical example of bullying the weak and fearing the strong!
This kind of person, under the guise of justice and civilization, vividly demonstrates
being strict with others and lenient with self-discipline.
Objectively speaking, both sides are wrong!
Isn’t Fan Mou biased?
Knowing that there is a cliff of tens of meters behind her, would Mother Lu jump off by herself? Who pushed it? Heaven knows, earth knows, conscience knows!
Mother Lu, who turned into a warrior in order to protect her children, forgot the ancient saying that "a gentleman will not stand behind a dangerous wall."
She climbed up the pavilion pillar and stood on the bench, hoping to gain a favorable position to attack Ms. Jin. As a result, she almost died at the bottom of the cliff. She was so angry that her brain lost its correct judgment and was reckless.
A family with a good wife and husband will have few troubles.
Although the law is on Fan's side, they are facing overwhelming public criticism; many netizens support Mother Lu to continue to seek justice.
I hope that adults in the world can have a tolerant heart when facing a weak child.
enlighten them and guide them with love and care, instead of using harsh words to leave eternal scars in their young hearts.
