Every child is born with his own talent.
Just some children are seen, trusted, and affirmed, while others are covered up, stifled, and belittled.
Author | Miaomiao Ma
Some time ago, with the popularity of the TV series "Sanyue Have a New Job", its bright and cute opening also attracted the attention of many people.
The story of the TV series revolves around death, but the animation at the opening is thriving, fairy tale-like dreamy and romantic:
The boy who suffers from leukemia and can only lie on the hospital bed and waits for death most of the time, put on a space suit, realizes his dream of traveling around the universe;
The man whose backbone was crushed by life sat on a carousel and had a moment of rest;
The grandmother who had experienced difficulties and was covered in scars put on her bright new clothes and had the expectation of resurrection;
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This painting that heals, innocence, romantic, and grasps the inner emotions of the characters is from a young painter who is only 8 years old -
Chen Siyu.
Xiaoyu's English name is Dora, in the third grade of elementary school, he has two braids, and he always speaks happily.
She paints everything, the red sofa at home, the golden cockatoo on the balcony, the little wild cat on the street... As long as it is what she observes, she can get a new life in her writing.
One morning, when Dora, who was preparing to brush her teeth, found that the toothpaste was simply "like a wave". She immediately ran to her mother and told her about this major discovery.
When my mother looked, she really looked like a wave! Then he took out a small notepad and gave it to her:
"This is very interesting. You can draw the graphics and recall it later. You will know what the waves look like."
Just like that, Dora began to record those moments of inspiration in the notebook -
"I wrote a symmetrical poem today, the sunset reflects the setting sun, people are close to the moon and people, and the galaxy is full of stars."
0 "Why are the tears slanted? Because it was blown by the wind."
"This banana is doing sit-ups, but it hasn't done it for a long time."
"The spring rain is rushing down, crackling, they have only seen the world in the sky, but never the world on the ground."
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After my mother posted Dora's diary and paintings on social platforms, she received a lot of attention.
Some netizens said that from her paintings, "I saw the shadows of Picasso and Matisse."
Some people said, "Your child is a poet."
More people were envious and asked how mother Doris raised such a "painting genius"?
But Doris said Dora is just an "ordinary elementary school student" .
The only thing she does is to carefully protect her daughter's imagination and encourage her to constantly create, to unconditional acceptance of her daughter, to have extremely firm confidence, and to wait patiently forever.
Doris remember the day when he first amazes his daughter's imagination, Dora was only 3 years old.
Having a lollipop in her mouth, holding a marker pen to draw a face on the draft paper, but the mouth and eyes of the face were facing her:
"This shows that she was drawing the opposite, which is very amazing."
Many children have experienced the age of scribbling, and their families almost don't take it seriously, but Doris doesn't.
She keenly sensed that her daughter's imagination and creativity were flourishing, and all she had to do was to take care of and wait patiently for its growth.
Young Dora has many strange and cute ideas every day:
The yogurt cup I drank seems to have typhoons, and the edges of the cup are "trees after the typhoon";
A plate of green edamame fried meat contains a pair of small slippers;
Winter The water pipe in the sky broke hole, and the tiny water splashed out condensed into pointed ice cones, as if the snow queen had come here to perform magic;
The flowers in the grass were also animation, gathering into the "Mickey Mouse" conference;
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Mom took all these and recorded them. Some were made into photo walls, and some were printed into silk scarves-like artworks.
She wants her daughter to know, "Every moment when your imagination bursts out, I have paid attention to and cherished it."
She will accompany her daughter to visit various museums and art galleries, watch art exhibitions of all sizes, and "learning painting for free."
will also start improvising with her daughter at any time to be the "best companion".
Under the influence of her mother, Dora fell in love with reading and creation, and also loved to share what she saw and heard with her mother.
One day after school, Dora told her mother that an "uninvited guest" came to the classroom today.
Uninvited guest is a bee, the size of three coins. The classmates in the classroom saw bees flying in through the window, and everyone's reaction was different:
"Some people were afraid, and they screamed, and the screams came one after another;
Some people were not afraid, but their sound was louder than screaming;
Some students wanted to help, but no one listened to them;
Some students boasted that they were very awesome But they talked on paper and just said nothing..."
Dora listed 7 kinds of reactions of her mother in one breath,
"In the end, the teacher was the bravest. She killed the bees with a Chinese textbook, and three of them flew in, all of them were killed. They were wiped out, so no bees came to take revenge."
Mom later said in an interview that every time she chatted with her daughter, she would constantly diverge and extend after finding the entry point, instead of just asking "Did the bees sting you?" and ending the topic sloppy.
They always have endless things to say and endless topics to talk about. At the end of the conversation, they almost forget what they were talking about.
To be honest, seeing this, my envy and emotion are about to overflow the screen.
For me, education is like an exam, and children are my subject.
In addition to considering how to raise her with full food and clothing, she also needs to study how to teach her rules, how to urge her to learn, and how to communicate with her...
But here in Doris, she can naturally become friends with her daughter, explore and carry forward her daughter's talents, and move forward side by side with her daughter on the road of growth.
I sighed and expressed the same emotion as tens of thousands of netizens in the comment area:
Dora is fortunately not raised in our family, otherwise she would have been buried in her talent and would have no chance of being amazing.
My daughter has also experienced it.
She will paint the river water with pink, the flowers and plants grow taller than trees, the fish fly in the sky, butterflies swim in the water...
But I didn't see the beauty of her creation, but instead thought that only "like" painting is good painting.
I always buy her a lot of painting supplies, and then correct her worriedly:
"Baby, you have to observe life more, do you think you are painting like this reasonably? Can it exist in reality?"
My daughter was not as tall as my waist, but she began to disgust my fingers and frowned and refuted me:
"Drawing is not reality. Am I wrong to draw like this?"
I couldn't tell her, so I enrolled her in various painting classes and asked the teachers outside to correct her.
Gradually, my daughter's paintings were on the right track, and began to become more and more decent pictures, and became more and more in line with the templates given by the teacher.
, but my interest in painting is getting lower and lower.
finally arrived in junior high school, and her schoolwork was getting more and more, and all her painting supplies were thrown into the cabinet and never taken out again.
I was browsing the daily life of the Dora family, but I couldn't help thinking in my mind:
My daughter also had a charming imagination and creativity, but when did these disappear? Did it happen when I started to correct her?
Doris said that once he accompanied his daughter and her classmates to the museum to draw painting, and the children painted penguins, polar bears and pirates.
My daughter's paintings are "very clumsy" and not exquisite, but she likes to see the clumsy taste in her daughter's paintings.
Look at the classmates' paintings again, but they are actually much better than Dora's paintings. However, the classmate's mother said in surprise that the paintings are not good.
Doris is very confused:
"Do you have too high requirements for painting?
After all, Picasso has been pursuing how to draw like a child all his life."
Yes, I finally discovered the gap between me and Doris' education.
When I found out that my daughter was interested in painting, my first reaction in my mind was to cultivate painting into her specialty.
is best to be able to test and grade, and to achieve the national unified "excellent" standard, becoming her support for her future success.
I turned the love that should have made her feel relaxed and happy into a lifeless pressure and burden.
"forced" her with a strong "smash" may make her achieve something. But if you go against your child’s nature, you will only help you grow up, lose your own nature, and become like everyone else.
and Doris regards imagination and creativity as valuable assets for children to understand the world and love life.
When all the inspiration suddenly appears, all the confidence and ideas receive active responses, and all efforts and efforts also gain a rich and happy ending -
How can a child’s hidden talent not be inspired?
As psychologist Adler said, All children are born with an intrinsic motivation to pursue excellence, it depends on whether parents will awaken them with appreciation and expectation.
Educator Sun Ruixue said:
"The responsibility of parents is to provide children with a safe environment with love.
But as for how to explore the world, it is the freedom of children."
As parents, when we lead a little life to the world, we are always full of expectations and fantasies.
But I forgot that we can never live our lives on behalf of our children. The more parents interfere, the less children can live their own lives.
We must understand after all:
My children are not my children, nor are they tools for us to find a sense of value and achievement. They have their own ideas and missions.
And what we need to do is to get rid of obsession, learn to accept children unconditionally, trust children extremely firmly, and wait for children patiently forever.
Only by trust can we lead children to find their own track;
Only by support can we give children unconditional love;
can we wait, so that children can follow the nature of growth, regain control of life, and dominate their own life.
Education is actually the process of making us from hope to despair, and then to rebuilding hope.
But fortunately, we will not forget: being a parent is a rebirth of breaking out of the cocoon and becoming a butterfly, and every hardship is our due practice.
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