This is the 976th real person we tell
My name is Yao Da
(when I was a child)
When we were young, our family was very poor and lived in earth cave . The land was barren and no crops were grown. I often had to eat the meal last time and worry about the next meal. In order to give my family a full meal, my grandfather went down the coal mine to earn money, and even called my uncle, aunt, uncle and uncle to work in the coal mine. After graduating from high school, my father also became a coal miner.
My family is a nest of "coal blackspots".
The only mother, grandma and me are left in the family. My mother became the pillar of the family, taking care of all the housework to take care of grandma and me. She was very angry and had a strong temper. As long as someone bullies me, she would be angry and spit out flames. She told me, "It's not possible to be strong, no one can help me!"
(When I was in college)
I was very naughty when I was a child. Once I followed my older child to steal melons and didn’t go home for a day. At that time, a child in the countryside was abducted by human traffickers. Grandma and aunt were so anxious that they didn't see me late. When I came back, I was beaten up hard, making me run around.
Grandpa only earns a few dollars a month when going down the mine. Every time he eats in a restaurant in the mine, he will bring me some delicious food.
Because my father had a high school degree, he could have been in administrative management in the mine, but in order to make more money, he took the initiative to apply for underground coal mining, and later became the captain of the district team. Every month's salary, I have to take half of the money to buy milk powder for me.
(Family photo, I wear glasses in the last row)
My father taught me since childhood that I must be honest, honest and trustworthy, not take others one stitch at a time, and set an example by example.
Because of the captain's position, many people brought cigarettes, wine, tea and other gifts to their homes in order to mobilize work and promote, and their mother wrote them down in detail in a small notebook. After my father came back, he took me to return it from house to house.
Later I moved, I also saw those notepads and a thick stack of notepads.
My father is upright and loyal to his beliefs and career. He hopes that I can inherit his morals and career like him. Therefore, he made a good life plan for me.
In 2008, I took the college entrance examination to fill out my application and went home to solicit opinions from home. My father said to me, "Our family is all in a coal mine to make a living. You can choose a mining major. You are familiar with it and it is easier to find a job. Besides, it is a state-owned enterprise at least, it is an iron rice bowl."
(2013, when I came from the hole)
When I heard this, I quickly answered him, "But I have always studied liberal arts in high school! Coal mining belongs to science majors. I want to apply for marketing and business administration majors."
My father said calmly: "Don't just focus on popular majors. The key is to see if you can find a job. No matter how popular major is, it is equal to zero if you can't find a job, this is the hard truth."
My father also told me that at that time, Henan University of Science and Technology signed an internship agreement with their coal mine, and whether you are a liberal arts student or a science student, you can apply for the coal mining major in that school.
I thought about it carefully and my father made sense, so I applied for the mining major at this university.
studies this major and needs to go to my father’s mine for an internship. In 2010, I went downstairs for an internship for the first time, which was unforgettable for life.
(When I was working underground)
That morning, I went to get the mine lights and clothing. After changing his clothes, he was wearing a three-pound mineral lamp on his head and wearing a protective suit, looking strange. Although I have been used to seeing miners with white teeth and black eyes since I was a child, I feel very scared when I think that I am about to go down deep underground.
My father looked at me in the office and gave me a loving and encouraging look, which gave me some confidence and a little more confidence in my heart.
followed the master to the mine. The moment stepped onto the canned cage truck, although I cheered myself countless times, my heart was still pounding.
huh-- can cage fell rapidly, and the wind blew in his ears. As he fell deeper and deeper, the pressure increased, and his ears seemed to have cried cricket constantly, and the wind was getting smaller and smaller. Then he entered a terrible and long darkness, and a sense of terror that was isolated from the world came, as if he had reached the end of the end of the world.
(23 years old, just graduated from university)
finally went down to the bottom of the well 800 meters deep, and the lights were bright around it. Only then did I feel like I returned to reality, and I breathed a sigh of relief.
got off the can cage truck, and I followed the master to the three-kilometer working face, walked through rows of tracks, and the tank truck drove by the workers who were off work, and my heart gradually calmed down.
When it arrived at the working surface, the huge roar of coal mining machine was deafening, and the flying coal dust obscured the lights, and nothing could be seen clearly. The horror came again.
My master and I carried out mechanical and circuit maintenance, shuttled under rows of hydraulic brackets , kowtowed and worked hard.
(drink with the miners, the fourth on the left is me)
We didn't come to the well until 10 o'clock in the evening. My body was covered in oil, black and greasy, so I jumped into the bathhouse and rubbed it hard with shower gel and shampoo , but I couldn't wash away the oil on my body. The master handed me a bottle of dishwashing liquid, and I was washed away. At that time, I felt a little uncomfortable.
During my internship in the mine, I worked in dredgers, grocery workers, mechanics and other positions. When was silting, 6 or 7 blood blisters were ground out on your hands in one night. After drinking the mineral water, you directly drank the hydraulic water with emulsified liquid. The hands were covered with coal ash and oily, and they also ate it with relish.
However, hardship always pays off.
In 2012, after I graduated from university, in the 300 recruitment exam, I became a formal miner with 7th place, and was assigned to my father's mine, becoming the second generation of mine, and later became a technical backbone.
I work rigorously and meticulously in the face of design and production. Every time I design the drawings in , I have to go down to the well to check them carefully. You must know that even a small error will cause millions of economic losses.
(My son was six months old)
Day after day, I have been working in the mine for three years. Because I have been in the office for a long time, my weight has increased from 120 kilograms to 180 kilograms.
Looking at my growing belly, coupled with the company's efficiency has greatly reduced, sometimes I can't pay my salary for two or three months. I have had a fierce ideological struggle with myself. Should I obey my father's arrangements for a future that cannot be seen? I often ask myself this repeatedly after drinking.
I finally decided to quit and go out for a while.
Before resigning, I thought of my father. My mother said that when I first went down the well, my father was so nervous in the office. Seeing that I hadn't come up to the well for a long time, I called me to look for me down the well.
Although fatherly loves like a mountain, which makes me respect and be grateful, my father cannot care about me for the rest of my life. I still have to have my own thoughts and plans. I decided to talk to him.
(Four Generations Are in the same family)
"Dad, I want to quit my job and go out for a while." "......" The father was silent. After a while, when I asked him again, he said, "Don't regret it if you choose. We respect your choice." I could hear that my father's words contained too much reluctance.
I am the eldest in the family. My father always hopes that I can inherit his career. He is now a mine manager, but his son is unwilling to be a miner, which has also caused a bad impact on him. At the same time, he was worried that I would go out and have a future that was uncertain and my future was worrying.
But I am already an adult, and he can't ask me for it like he did when he was a child, so he said that. I understand my father's deep love, but I cannot lose myself.
In March 2016, I took a 20-hour train from Luoyang to Shanghai.
When I arrived in Shanghai, I was completely confused. In the jungle of steel and concrete, I couldn’t tell the difference between the east, south, west and north. I felt very small, like a grain of dust, drowned at any time.
It’s okay, I contacted a classmate before and he came to pick me up. We took the 11 subway line together. When we arrived at , Huaqiao , we left the station, he hinted that I followed him to learn. He jumped through the gate and went out while the security guard was not paying attention. I hesitated, my heart beating like a deer bumping around, and I was very glad that I was not caught.
(When I first arrived in Shanghai in 2016)
I followed my classmates to a rough house not far from the subway station. The classmates introduced me to his 5 friends. That night, 7 of us slept on a hard bed. I tossed and turned, unable to fall asleep, missed the warm and comfortable bed at home, and spent the first difficult night in Shanghai.
I ran to Qingke Apartment in Jiading New City and rented a house worth 1,800 yuan a month. My classmate asked me: "Have you found a job?" I shook my head, "Then let's sell the house with us and solve the problem of eating first."
I am new to him and I am not familiar with the place, so I have to listen to him.
We carried a stack of sales advertisements to the subway car to distribute. Not long after, we were caught by the security guard and sent to the Hongqiao Airport Public Security Department for education for a long time.
When I got home, I pressed the address book to call the sales office one by one. I was often scolded by the other party and was so angry that I couldn't eat. When my classmates saw that I was fat and had a boss, they asked me to pretend to be a customer who bought a house and cheated the property owner of the property owner. After being discovered by the property owner, they chased me for several streets.
Such a wandering life is really annoying, and I can’t see hope. After working for a month, I ran away.
(When I was working in Shanghai)
The major I studied in college was "digging coal", and the only job I have done after graduation was "digging coal". Faced with all kinds of recruitment information in Shanghai, it is difficult to find a job that suits me. But you can't go home, right? I was so anxious that I opened my mind. Since it was so difficult to find a job, why didn’t I try a platform for helping people find a job?
, let alone really work, I really found a human resources company and applied for a salesperson. However, everything is difficult at the beginning, and it is even more difficult for a person who only knows how to "diggle coal" and knows nothing about sales!
As planned every day, I get up early and go to bed late to visit customers, and communicate and negotiate with them one by one.
The daily subway commute starts at least 150 kilometers. In the hot summer, the clothes are wet and dry, and wet. Every day I get anxious and get angry, and my lips will bleed when I suck it gently. However, after working for three months, I didn’t even issue a single order.
(receive bonus when working in Shanghai)
The boss gave me three dismissal warnings at the conference, and the third time was already an ultimatum!
My monthly basic salary of 3,500 yuan is deducted from , five insurances and one fund, and , and then paying the rent, only a few hundred yuan is left. Once, after charging a 200 yuan subway card, I only had 25 yuan left on my body, and there were still 4 days left before the salary was paid. I counted the only 25 yuan, only had breakfast every day, and survived it day by day. Looking back on this incident, it still makes me sigh.
Perhaps as the ancients said, those who succeed must "hard their minds, tired their muscles and bones, and hungry their bodies". Let you cherish the sweetness of your suffering. Fortunately, before the boss asked me to "built the bed", I finally signed a life-saving order of 50,000 yuan, and my job was saved.
is like breaking through the most difficult first level. I started cheating all the way, with smooth sailing, more and more customers, my reputation is getting better and better, and my position is constantly improving.
may be a superposition effect. It’s really a money to stay at home. Compared to the time when I couldn’t make a single order in ten days and half a month, it was simply the difference between heaven and earth.
(When working in Shanghai, I was at the sharing speech)
In 2017, I became the sales director position, with my income stable above 5 digits. I no longer have to evade tickets, nor do I have to count dozens of dollars to live.
At this time, I remembered that once I was in the corridor of the company's office with the supervisor. Through the glass, the supervisor pointed to the distant Global Port and said, "Do you want to go there to spend?" I said, "I think so, but there is no money." The supervisor of
patted me on the shoulder and said, "Do you do it well. If you don't have a monthly income of 10,000 yuan, you are not qualified to go there to spend. It is the largest shopping center in Asia, and you have everything."
At that time, I was still working hard to run orders. Not to mention going to Global Port, I had to count the money in my pocket even when I went to a general supermarket.
Now I am qualified and my income has long exceeded 10,000. Why not go to Global Port to spend? So I went there for a retaliatory consumption and bought a whole box of food, clothing and use for my family, which was a response to the supervisor.
Later, I resigned from this company and switched to venture capital consulting and Internet marketing, and my income was stable at more than 5 digits.
The workplace has been upgrading and fighting monsters, which is quite smooth. Four years have passed in a blink of an eye, and I have gradually integrated into the fast pace of the metropolis, and imagined that I will develop further to the next level in the future.
(a family of three is under the bridge)
But not long after, I heard the news that several relatives at home died one after another. I suddenly felt that when I spent time with my family suddenly became less and less, and my relatives I hadn't seen for a long time left me like this.
Time is ruthless, life is short, and I began to seriously think about my future life. It is said that if you have money, you will have everything. Can money really represent everything? It is said that money is omnipotent, but can money control birth, old age, sickness and death? I am thousands of miles away from home. My grandparents are old and sick, and my parents are getting older day by day. All they need is my monthly payment?
But my mother often said, "Our family doesn't have big money, but we keep doing small money, and you'll be content if you can live." When I resigned and came to Shanghai, my father's parting words contained too much reluctance and sadness.
What they want is family affection rather than money.
For me, now I am striving to make money, but my health is getting worse and worse. Can money keep health and life?
I am influenced by my father and grandfather. I have been a family lover since I was a child. Now I am at 30 and still wandering around.
money is not omnipotent!
(The flower of love I gave to my wife on Valentine's Day 2022)
"My parents are here, not traveling far away", after careful consideration, I decided to go home. I resigned from my boss’ position in the company, ended my four years of life in Shanghai and returned to Henan.
Three months after returning home, one day I suddenly received a call, a very familiar girl's voice, she said, "I am Xiao Gao, have you forgotten?" I quickly replied, "No, no! Is there anything wrong with me?"
"I want to play with you, is it convenient?" "Yes, if you want to come, come here, it just so happens that I haven't started working yet, so I can take you to see the mountains and rivers here."
She was an employee I recruited in 2018. At that time, I served as the political commissar of the company's marketing department and wanted to recruit marketing specialists. She had just graduated from college and felt pretty good and smart, so she hired her.
She learns very quickly and has a strong sense of responsibility. Later, I trained her to be the leader of a team. As a boss and subordinate, I never had any inappropriate thoughts. I just appreciate her, but she admires me a little, that's all.
(We are getting married in 2021)
Unexpectedly, after I left the job, she took the initiative to call me. Happiness is like a tornado, it comes too fast! Later I found out that she resigned and came to Zhengzhou to find me.
Those days, we opened our hearts and chatted with each other while watching the scenery.
Let’s talk about the daily life we worked together, the family members, and the life we yearn for. I found that we have many things in common, and we knew very well when we were working and getting along. The flame of love became stronger and stronger, and Cupid's sword was about to break out.
With the motivation to love, I started to work hard again. Based on my accumulated experience and professional expertise in the workplace in Shanghai, I found a job in Zhengzhou to do the Japanese cross-border e-commerce supply chain.
At the beginning of 2021, our love has also reached the season when the melons are ripe and has naturally entered the palace of marriage. In June 2021, we had the crystallization of love again, and our baby son became a member of the big family.
(a family of three rushes to the sea)
Now, I work in Zhengzhou, and my wife takes care of the children at home. My parents often come to help take care of the children. I drive home on weekends. Seeing the laughter and joyful scenes of the three generations of grandparents and grandchildren, I think this is probably something I can’t buy if I can’t buy it for much money.
In the first half of my life, I walked out of the mine in a small town, and walked around the modern office buildings in the bustling Shanghai, and changed from "coal blackspots" to "golden collar".
Now, from a fashionable and modern metropolis to a small town, from a "golden collar" to a "white collar". Perhaps, in the future, it is possible to change from a "white-collar worker" to a "blue-collar worker". Is this considered a life of trouble?
But along the way, I gained the skills of survival and realized the philosophy of life. I gained friendship, love, family affection, and finally returned to my family. I have no regrets.
Johnson said: "The happiness of home is the ultimate goal of all ambitions and the end point of hard work in all careers."
So, home is the harbor for everyone's return. So, my name is "Yao Da after get off work".
Because, after get off work, I want to go home!
[Oral: Yao Da]
[Editor: Liangbi]
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