There is a mother teacher who is staring at the child's problem and has too high requirements for the child. According to his mother, his child is in his second year of high school and never does his homework first every time he has a long vacation, and he doesn't start doing his homework until the last day. This child had taken a leave of absence before and went to school later. My mother hopes that he can get the first-class entrance exam, because his family is under great financial pressure. Some tuition fees for studying for the second-class entrance exam are more than 20,000-50,000 yuan. Their annual income is only 10,000 yuan. There is a second child in the family to study. I feel that it will be very stressful for him to go to college. Obviously, the mother has high expectations for this child.
When parents expect too much of themselves, they will not have expectations themselves, because your expectations have been fully anticipated for them. Your expectations will never make them unable to adapt to their own rhythm. If you have this idea and thought every day, it is actually creating a problem. I want to ask, what are the people who work now long for the National Day holiday? Will anyone like to take a lot of work? Then go home to work? Is there anyone like this? I don’t think so. First of all, holidays are for rest, so we should also consider taking a break on holiday, right?
If he was in school now, he was in school, and there were no important problems. Then you should see the strengths of your child and constantly encourage him. For example, you can say, "What do you want to eat? There is a lot of food in the refrigerator. How much do you want to eat? What do you want to eat by yourself. If you really don't want to eat, you can order takeaway." Can you not take care of him in every detail? You have to know that he is already in high school now. Can you give him a relaxed environment? Slowly let him relax, and then guide him to think. You care more, he thinks less, you care less, he thinks more.
At the same time, parents should also find ways to make money. The higher your expectations, the higher your disappointment, and the more demands you have, the less filial piety he has. If you care about his mood weakly, his filial piety will increase. As long as he is filial, he will naturally understand your feelings. If you always feel uncomfortable and live in complaining, and saying that making money is not easy to give to him, it will increase the child's guilt. After increasing the guilt, he will increase his negative feelings. So don’t use your complaints about how hard you work to control your children, as this will make you feel guilty.
You can also let him start from the waiter. Is this also profitable? The most important thing for him to bear the responsibilities of his family is not to care about his children's future. If he is really not a material for studying, I think there is nothing more important than being healthy. College is not the only way out, so there is no need to force him to do things that cannot be completed.
should have less expectations for children. They can already go back to school to study, so they should look at the advantages and not always focus on the problems. It is not easy for mothers all over the world to understand.
