Artist: Nicholas Roerich
Courage does not mean being afraid at all, courage means keep moving forward despite being afraid. --Preface
Fear and worry occur in all stages of life.
Moreover, the more you face life, the more fear and worries you are.
is not because we are afraid of something, so we are afraid of doing it; but because we are afraid of doing it, so we are afraid of it.
When we choose to take responsibility and face various changes in life, worries will always come with us: Will we fail? Will there be more difficulties tomorrow?
clearly knows that worrying is useless and it is useless, but then it has nothing to do with it.
How did the author do it in the face of fear and worries?
takes out a list.
What I want to discuss in this article is how to make good use of this list of control of fear:
1. I immediately read this list of practical significance, read it from beginning to end, and then immediately put the content that suits me the most.
Find one or more content and constantly give psychological hints to yourself, which will have different effects.
2. I know that everything I've done so far is going well. I can successfully complete the next task.
Yes.
So far, I have achieved a lot, owned a lot, and walked a lot of roads. I understand what I should learn and who my friends are.
I have done a lot of success.
3. Ask yourself: How did my past fear end up like? How many of them really happened?
96% of worries will not come true.
Many bad expectations just happen in our minds.
These worries that happen in our minds are really consuming our energy.
The most popular word nowadays - internal consumption, probably refers to this situation.
The highly active thinking has no effect on the progress of things and is just consuming our huge energy.
As the author said:
Basically, the fears we have had in our past experiences have not come true;
Even if it comes true, we have almost overcome all the troubles.
Even if it is a very difficult problem, we have learned a lot from it.
Then what's there to be afraid of?
4. I made the decision as fast as possible. I never say I "may" or I "must" do something, I just decide whether I do it or not.
Now I'm going to start doing this.
No matter what the direction of things is, it is better than not doing it.
5. I never worry when I can’t change anything yet, or when I can no longer change anything.
Never worry about things that cannot be changed, because it is like the engine is idling.
's only value for things that cannot be changed is to provide lessons learned from similar things.
action is the best way to fight worries.
When we concentrate on acting, we don’t have much energy to worry.
6. Why can't I complete one more day of tasks and then another day of tasks? Because I know: I can do one day's tasks and complete every day's tasks. So I divided my life into compact blocks of time.
always only goes forward, it is not difficult, and then go forward, and it is enough.
Do your daily things every day, after all, tomorrow is a new day.
When I first watched "Gone with the Wind", this sentence was my favorite:
Tomorrow is another day.
Focus on daily work, and then at the end of every day, we can ask ourselves:
Are the most important task today completed?
If done, it feels very good.
Tomorrow, the same is true.
7. I asked myself: "What are the things that made me feel particularly good in the past 24 hours, and what have I done successfully?" This is to train myself to focus on the positive side of life.
success log is a good way to increase enthusiasm.
In the success log list, we can ask ourselves these questions:
What makes me happiest in my current career and personal life? What is the biggest motivation for me to be
?
What am I most grateful for?
Who loves me?
What am I good at?
What did I do successfully?
What do I know?
When we often look at the positive aspects of life and focus on the focus of life, then negative and negative things will be getting farther and farther away from us.
8. I have considered the worst possible situation and tried my best to avoid it.
When the worst thing can be dealt with, there is nothing to worry about.
is like every time I encounter something, I always get used to thinking about the best and worst sides. If the worst is acceptable, then there is nothing much to think about.
Life can continue anyway, and the worst can be dealt with, so there will be more strength to succeed.
9. When I encounter a fence, what I see is the possibility of victory. When I can’t see the possibility of victory immediately, I ask myself, “What is the solution? How to continue?” I find the solution in this way.
When encountering problems, attention should be on the solution, not on the problem. The emergence of the
problem is the key to getting out of our comfort zone. The
environment is neutral, the problem is neutral.
The so-called positive and negative are just our own opinions.
encounters obstacles, we should ask ourselves:
How can I succeed? What can I learn from it? How can I grow from it? What other efforts can I do to make myself better and stronger?
We ourselves have created our own world.
10. I will never, never, never give up.
This is a sentence from Churchill.
is the essence of his life and the most important criterion in his life.
Whenever we think something is hopeless, there will be a ray of dawn coming in.
If you want to see the dawn, you must persevere.
11. I never worry about other people's words, I never listen to wrong voices, I will only consult with my role models.
The author says that failures like to give advice to others even if no one asks them for help. A truly successful person will only give advice when he gets a help signal.
When we encounter problems, what we need is the positive and positive voice from successful people.
12. The bigger the goal, the smaller the problem looks. Because everything is relative. When I encounter problems, I tend to set my goals a little wider.
problem always exists relative to the target.
If the goal is ambitious enough, the problem becomes a task and a stepping stone under our feet.
has nothing, it can really scare us.
13. When I get frustrated, I will take action.
If you are in poor condition, then do some small things, such as exercise, tidying, walking, cleaning, etc. As long as you move, you will bring courage to yourself.
14. I remind myself: Everything is just a matter of concept. If I had known everything, I might not have had any worries. I asked myself, "What is the situation in my question in 5 years?"
Many times, happiness is really a question of concept.
In the same case, some people are happy and some are sad.
It is a blessing to have a loss.
encounters a difficult thing, how do Americans do it?
They simply don’t consider the problem, accept it directly, and do not comment.
Because, they believe that: your security exists in the quantity and the law of average.
15. Worry can't bring benefits at all. Instead, I should develop positive ideas for myself. What are the concepts of
?
I have achieved my goal.
Imagine what my life will have to last for a hundred years.
imagines the feeling of achieving goals.
16. When making every plan and setting every goal, I will ask myself: "Why can I do it?"
Pay attention to the positive, bright and successful side of my personality, and it will become stronger and stronger.
Write down what I succeed every day and find a secret: " I can do it. "
17. When I feel frustrated, I will immediately do something to improve myself.
When you feel frustrated, you can listen to beautiful music, go for a walk alone, immerse yourself in your favorite movies, or just lie down and bask in the sun.
Doing things that make you better will make you feel that the world has changed.
18. I don’t expect myself to remain optimistic and positive all the time. I know that negative emotions are also part of my life.
19. I know that most of the time everything goes well. Whenever I set out to do something within my ability, I always find opportunities.
20. I gain growth from difficult tasks, just like muscles gain growth through weight training. I know: Every growth requires sunshine and rain.
It is meaningless to focus your energy on the problem, and your energy should be spent on finding solutions.
