Some time ago, the topic "The Ministry of Education's response to the proposal to prevent the feminization of men and young people" rushed into the hot search list.
It turned out that Szefu, a former member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference and chairman of Harbin Electric Group Co., Ltd., put forward the " proposal on preventing the feminization of male youth ".
He said in the proposal that he found through observation that Chinese teenagers now have weakness, low self-esteem, and timidity. They are pursuing small meat-style butter niches, which is the " femininity of boys" ".
The feminization trend of Chinese youth, if not effectively governed, will inevitably endanger the survival and development of the Chinese nation.
In response to this proposal, the Ministry of Education issued the "Letter on the Reply to Proposal No. 4404 of the Third Session of the 13th CPPCC National Committee."
said that the problem will be solved by strengthening the allocation of physical education teachers, strengthening the top-level design of the school physical education system, in-depth health education and strengthening research on related issues.
also mentioned that the next step will focus more on the cultivation of students' " masculinity ".
This incident was like a smashing wave, which caused heated discussions across the Internet.
Some people think that Chinese boys do lack masculinity .
Some people also equate masculinity with being able to fight, saying that men should be advocating force .
And some believe that the proposal attributed derogatory words such as "softness, inferiority, and timidity" to femininity, and is not only a gender stereotype,It devalues women even more.
There is another suggestion that it is better to let the father take the child , and the father will be a full-time housewife to ensure that the child becomes masculine.
In our society, calling a boy a "mother" is undoubtedly belittling him, and talking about girls saying that she is a "female man" is more complimenting her. Is it that in everyone's subconscious, men are superior to others?
And in such a social context, what will our children encounter?
In fact, in our country, advocating "masculinity" is already a common topic, and there are many related papers on Zhinet.
As early as 1989, there was an article in "Early Education" that said, "Strong5strong In order to strengthen the national spirit, we must protect the male consciousness of boys from childhood ."
In 2019, Zhang Xingui of Tsinghua University published a paper "On how to cultivate the "masculine spirit" of feminized boys in physical education"
He mentioned that most boys on campus currently have more obvious feminine characteristics , which are specifically expressed as:
"shrinking and dependent on doing things Strong sex, personality likes to be static, afraid of movement, timid, lack of adventurousness, courage and exploratory spirit, lack of self-confidence, etc."
This series of derogatory words was again classified as female characteristics, and these characteristics are difficult to give our country Cultivate future people with creativity, imagination and hands-on innovation.
These articles are full of anxiety and worries about the "feminization" of men .
In addition to them, there are also many parents of boys who are worried about this. In order to stimulate their children's masculinity, they can even mercilessly send their children to training institutions that cultivate masculinity.
mentioned in this article of Sohu News,In the eyes of 8-year-old boy Zhang Yue's mother, her son loves to cry, is afraid of tiredness, and is timid. He is not at all like a man and needs to be reformed.
So she sent her son to a training camp for men with true colors, where the child can't cry if he wants to cry, otherwise he will be punished severely.
"Boys will express resistance by crying, making trouble, and running away, but they can always be offset by the coach's method. The remaining children choose to obey, and a little bit by parents and coaches put into the model they want in their hearts."
However, under this kind of education, children will gradually develop the habit of suppressing crying, emotions, and fear, will not dare to express, and will be prone to depression, which will cause negative effects on the child’s future personality shaping, mental health and even future intimacy influences.
is as described in the documentary "Inside the Mask".
Boys have been educated since childhood, not to be emotional, but to be like men.
You cannot shed tears, cannot be sissy, and cannot let women dominate their lives.
Only by showing extraordinary masculinity can you win the appreciation and love of your parents.
One of the interviewees told his story. He said that he had been asked by his grandfather to possess masculinity since he was a child, and he must be taller and stronger.
However, I grew up with very long hair, a high-pitched voice, and a little clumsy.
When he was young, he was a member of the choir, and he played the clarinet, played rugby, and did all kinds of things he liked.
However, everything changed when he was in middle school. The classmates bullied him and insulted him as " sissy, gay, coward ".
Just because he doesn't look man enough.
That was the first time he felt the pressure of society .
So he cut his hair, changed his clothes and lowered his voice. He didn't even know when he changed his voice.
He participated more in sports, joined all the teams, and dated the cheerleader, alienating those who were less masculine than him.
He even broke off with his good friend, because the friend looked weak and not masculine enough, and he was more bullied than he was.
school became his training ground and taught him to be manly. He stayed away from ridicule and insults from his peers, but his heart was and lonely .
There are many boys with these experiences, and they will be rejected because they don't want to fight.
I don't want to have promiscuity with all kinds of women and then drink to show off and be despised by others.
Over time, boys who try to suppress their natural integration into the group will become more depressed and lonely, some even suffer from depression , some have suicidal tendencies, and some Use violence as an outlet for venting.
And what about the boys who are always rejected?
A song by Jolin Tsai, "Rose Boy", commemorates a teenager who suffered from campus bullying to death because of his feminine behavior.
His name is Ye Yongzhi. He is gentle and considerate by nature, careful and well-behaved. He likes playing house and cooking. He also helps his mother massage.
However, because of this, I was bullied by in school.
He was blocked by his classmates in the school toilet and took off his pants to check his gender,He was called "sissy" and threatened to beat him.
Ye Yongzhi even had to tremble when going to the toilet at school. He could only stop a few minutes early or wait until the school bell rang until no one used the female toilet or the staff toilet.
Just because he dared not go to the toilet when there were people, when he went to the toilet and fell in a pool of blood that day, there was no one to rescue him.
Tragedy is brewing.
And these tragedies are undoubtedly related to society's insistence on masculinity. Limiting the characteristics of both sexes will only bring more conflicts.
Gender stereotypes, invisibly hurt everyone.
"Within the Mask" mentioned that boys and girls are essentially human beings, and they have more similarities than differences.
A study showed that if you give 50,000 girls a psychological test, you can get a bell-shaped curve, and if you give 50,000 boys a psychological test, you can get a similar curve.
90% of the two curves overlap .
Boys and girls are by no means opposites.
Resolute, strong, courageous, confident ... These beautiful qualities are not only for men, women can also have them.
Similarly, is gentle, considerate, compassionate, and empathetic. is not only for women, it is also a beautiful feature for men.
As for 's weakness, timidity, and selfishness ... these are not just the characteristics of a certain gender, but the weaknesses that human classes may have .
Back to the word "masculinity",Baidu Encyclopedia explains it like this:
means a positive spirit, a generous, open-minded and tough-minded attitude, adherence to correct principles of conduct, and righteous words and deeds.
If the term masculinity does not limit men and women, then this initiative of the Ministry of Education naturally has its meaning.
"Guide students to develop good exercise habits and healthy lifestyles, temper a strong will, and cultivate a spirit of cooperation"
"To ensure the physical and mental health and physical fitness of young people, as a major event to strengthen the country, strengthen education, and benefit the country and the people, always pay attention to it."
Whether it is a boy or a girl, it is undoubtedly a good thing to have a positive spirit, a strong will, and a strong physique.
Just like the CCTV news said, masculinity does not mean simple masculine behavior. Education should focus on cultivating people's responsibility and sense of responsibility .
There is no need to put the shackles on gender, so that children, men and women, can learn to be responsible, responsible, and strong in heart without fear and setbacks. This is what everyone should pursue.
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