me, Iranian girl, studied Chinese for five years and married a Chinese husband, dowry 3 kilograms of gold, gave birth to two mixed-race babies
narration: Kaka
compilation: Mr. Xiao Han
picture: from the Internet, infringement
When I was a child, my parents often said that I was a wild girl, because I was too naughty, which made my parents a headache. In Chinese, you can lift the tiles on the house and fish in the river. You can do everything. Maybe I am the only girl at home. I have been spoiled by the whole family since I was a child. My three brothers even took care of meticulously, so that I felt that I was a princess and could enjoy the love given to me endlessly by the whole family.
As I grew up, I gradually realized that girls should not be too popular, especially in Iran. After 12 years old, many things need to be paid attention to, and I am no exception. Even if my father is very rich, he cannot destroy the customs. At that time, I felt completely bound. This kind of bondage was not a family, but perhaps more of a tradition that has been around for thousands of years.
When I was 18 years old, I finished middle school and chose to study in China without hesitation. Because in the middle school history textbooks, the exchanges between Iran ( Persian ) and China have a long history, and China is now booming, and there is no need to wear a headscarf, and there is not much attention. Therefore, despite my parents' opposition, I came to China. I studied in China for five years and studied Chinese major. When I was about to graduate, I married a handsome gentleman Chinese husband. Now, I am a mother of two children.
My name is Kaka. I was born in 1991. My hometown is in Isfahan City, Iran. My father is both a civil servant and an entrepreneur. We have four children in our family, three of whom are boys. I am the youngest at home and the most favored child by my parents. Mom is one of the few Iranian women who have read books, but after getting married to her father, she began to live a life of giving birth, taking care of children, and doing housework. Sometimes the mother feels unwilling to give up, but who can change this situation?
In ancient times, Iran was called Persia, and the legend of "Persian beauty" was circulated in China. In fact, for me, no matter which country it comes from, it has one nose and two eyes. If you like it, it will be beautiful; if you don't like it, it won't like it no matter how you look at it. My hometown is very beautiful, with blue sky and white clouds, almost no pollution, and whether in the city or in the countryside, there are bright flowers everywhere.
When I was a child, it was probably different from most girls in Iran. Parents of other girls would teach her how to be a virtuous woman. I was a free-range woman. My parents didn’t care what I did. As long as I was happy and did not violate some traditional customs, everything would be fine.
When I was young, I did some crazy things, such as putting the books collected by my father into the fireplace, applauding, such as throwing the urn of my neighbor's house into the trash can, and then watching them search anxiously... I have done too many such things, and my parents are sometimes helpless, and can only say angrily that I am a wild girl and wish I could grow up and get married soon.
has been an extrovert since childhood and learns knowledge very quickly. He can speak fluent English at the age of 7. It may be because of interest or talent. I especially like to learn different languages. From the age of 4 to the time I graduated from college, I actually learned 8 languages. How incredible it is.
In addition to learning language, my painting skills are also quite good, and I can sing and dance. My father often says to me: "You are my most precious gift, and my children will definitely be happy for the rest of their lives."
In fact, my father is really an dual personality . He is very strict with my three brothers, but he is very gentle to me. No matter how willful he is, he will be forgiven by his father. When I was in middle school, my father sent me to a private school, but the boys and girls here were in the same school, so my father was very worried that I would fall in love early and even secretly followed me.
In fact, I have discovered my father's little moves, and I did not let my father lose face. Later, I took the initiative to talk to my father and said that I would definitely not be in love because I was not interested. Besides, I was too young and did not want to get married like many Iranian girls, which made my father completely relieved.
When I was in middle school, in a history class, the teacher talked about the economic and trade exchanges between ancient Persia and China affectionately. The two countries have good historical and cultural characteristics, and each other has their own strengths and achieved remarkable results.
This is the first time I have learned about China so carefully. After checking the information, I found that China today is not only developing rapidly, but also being a very inclusive country. My neighbor is studying in China. He later told me that China is open, free, inclusive, and has a very developed education. It is a country worth going to.
I told my father: "I want to study in China and learn Chinese culture."
In fact, my father agreed in his heart, but since I was the only girl in the family, he couldn't bear to let it go, so he began to object with various reasons. But in the end, I was still very stubborn and threatened not to study. My father had no choice but to let me study in China.
I originally wanted to learn Chinese medicine, but after studying Chinese for a year in Xi'an, China, I found that learning Chinese was particularly challenging and interesting. Each Chinese character is like a painting, square and varied. I gave up the major I chose before and plunged into the world of Chinese characters, hoping to get more interesting historical knowledge here.
Learning Chinese is a very profound process. Although you can learn unfamiliar Chinese characters every day, the polyphonic characters and polysense characters are not easy to understand.
When I was in the third grade of college, I met a handsome and gentlemanly Chinese boy. He was very enthusiastic and took me to eat hot pot and mutton soaking buns that only local people in Xi'an knew about. We established an intimate relationship in a very short time. He is 6 years older than me, and there is no generation gap between us.
When he was about to graduate from college, he proposed to me. It was the proposal ceremony I like, including flowers, diamond rings, enthusiastic friends...
At that time, I couldn't wait to be a Chinese wife, but my parents were very surprised when they heard that I had found a Chinese boyfriend. They did not agree to marry a foreigner. When I brought my fiancé to Iran, my parents changed their attitude after seeing her fiancé's performance and felt that the Chinese boy in front of me was very polite and smart.
When we got married, my parents and my second brother came to Xi'an to wish us a blessing on the spot. My father even gave me 3 kilograms of gold. This is a traditional custom in Iran. For wealthier families, they mainly use gold dowry.
After marriage, my husband worked hard outside. I practiced painting at home. Within 6 years, I gave birth to two children for my husband. They all said that mixed Chinese and foreign races are good-looking and smart, and the same is true.
I wore fashionable clothes and high heels in China, and ate a lot of delicious food from Xi'an. When I got married in China, I had no pressure and was very happy. My husband and parents-in-law were very nice to me, and my sister-in-law even took me to the mall every now and then and I was really a very loving person.
