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- Part of this article comes from the book "Burn to death"
Shu Yade's second half of his life was given by a European lady named Jia Guilin.
Ms. Jia Guilin is a staff member of a humanitarian organization called "Our Land". She lives in the Middle East for many years, running between major hospitals, looking for disabled, abandoned, or malnourished children. Because she cooperates with the International Red Cross, she has had many contacts with Arabs and Jewish .
Before meeting Shu Yade, Jia Guilin had been working in the Middle East for seven years. She heard others talking about young girls killed by their loved ones, which was incredible to Jia Guilin, who grew up in Europe, and usually everyone was saying "that poor parents."
She heard the news at a volunteer who was responsible for caring for the child: a girl became pregnant because of misbehavior, so her parents set fire to her and heard that she was in a hospital.
When Jia Guilin found Shu Yade, Shu Yade had been in the abandoned room for about 15 days.
During the past 15 days, the hospital did not treat her wounds at all. There was another girl who "falled into the fire" around her. It was in this abandoned room that Shu Yade gave birth to a baby.
The baby was quickly taken away by the doctor. Shu Yade was drowsy and saw a person standing by the bed, saying something to her, probably because he explained the baby's condition to her and turned around and left.
20 years later, Shu Yade recalled that terrible experience again. Because burned , she could not get up, nor could she pick up the child. She felt that the child was at her feet. She didn't know whether the child was a man or a woman, nor did she know the specific date of the child's birth. She only remembered that the lights were on in the corridor outside the door.
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Nurse pointed at Shu Yade and said that this was the burner who gave birth to a child. What about the other one? The nurse said expressionlessly that she "falls into the fire".
The girl who "falls into the fire" has been in a coma and is in a bad state. Shu Yade is awake and confused. This is the first time Ms. Jia Guilin faced the victim of "family honor crime". She sat next to the two girls for a long time and did not wait for a doctor or nurse. She walked out to find the chief doctor in a daze, hoping to understand their situation.
Chief doctor said: Both of them are going to die, you should not care about them.
When Jia Guilin came to this abandoned room for the second time, the hospital bed next to Shu Yade was empty, and the girl who "falled into the fire" had already died in the middle of the night the day before.
Jia Guilin really wanted to talk to Shu Yade. Shu Yade's eyelids closed and raised slightly, and she didn't look very clear. Jia Guilin planned to find a doctor again.
This time she met an Alestine doctor named Ashan. He looked about thirty years old and had studied in the UK.
Ashan, who has studied abroad, respects Jia Huilin very much. He told Jia Guilin that this girl was involved in a family dispute. Her family needed her to die to cleanse her family's reputation. Although her parents were banned from visiting, no one could take her away without her parents' consent.
Ashan finally told Jia Guilin that if he tried his best in medical treatment, Shu Yade's chance of survival was very high.
Jia Guilin was very happy to receive this news. She said that as a member of the humanitarian organization, her responsibility is to save those abandoned and isolated people. She wanted to save Shu Yade, but she needed Ashan's help.
Ashan has received many years of education, and his overseas life has made him a doctor who looks like an Arab man but has conflicting beliefs in his heart. He really cannot let a burn girl die in such a way. After three visits by Jia Guilin, he decided to take Jia Huilin to the village where Shu Yade lives and find Shu Yade's parents.
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Ashan and Jia Guilin went to the village that was only 40 kilometers away from the city. There was no asphalt road for cars to drive there, nor did they have policemen - there was such a lawless place beyond such a short distance.
Ashan's Palestine Male identity made Shu Yade's father remove the guard in his heart. After several cautious visits, under the big tree in front of Shu Yade's house, Ms. Jia Guilin carefully mentioned whether there was a girl in their family who "destroyed the family reputation."
Shu Yade's father was very sad. He said that after Shu Yade died, he would hold a funeral at home, so that the whole village could see that the girl who shamed the family was dead, and their family's reputation was completely washed away.
Jia Guilin and Ashan proposed that if he signed several documents and handed Shu Yade to Jia Guilin, Shu Yade's father could immediately announce to the villagers that she was dead, and that he would never see Shu Yade's body because she would die far away from here.
"Die far from here" moved Shu Yade's parents. They did not feel sad about murdering their daughter, but they still shed tears. There were prisoners of "family reputation crimes" everywhere in this village. Their only demand was to continue to live in that village.
It is a good thing for them to throw Shu Yade's burden to others.
They decided to do so.
Jia Guilin won the trust of Shu Yade's father. She took Shu Yade's parents to the city hall in Jerusalem and signed Shu Yade's ID and travel documents.
At this time, more than two months have passed since Jia Guilin first met Shu Yade. With the help of Dr. Ashan, Shu Yade received very basic medical care, and she miraculously survived. After
Jia Guilin took Shu Yade and her child Maluan on the departure plane together.
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Shuyad's first stop in Swiss . She received meticulous care in the hospital in Lausanne. She underwent 24 skin grafting operations. A year later, she was discharged from the hospital. She came to the rescue center of the "Timely Rain" Foundation with Maluan. Four years later, she followed everyone's advice and entrusted her children to the couple in the rescue center and began to slowly start a new life in Europe.
Shu Yade's life later was very difficult and warm. She began to learn literacy and learn French (to protect her, her specific location was hidden in the book), she came from the inner Jordan , and her family did not teach her even a manner of dating with others. She would just lower her head and say yes to others' requests.
Slowly, she started working, moved from assembly line to backstage, she slowly learned to use the computer, and her salary could support herself.
She met an Italian man named Antonio. They held a wedding after living together for 7 years and she also gave birth to two daughters.
The experience of Jordan has become a nightmare for her life. She cannot eliminate her fear of fire. Even the scenes broadcast on TV make her unbearable. She hates summer. Even if the temperature is 30 degrees, she still has to wear a long-sleeved shirt. She hates the swimming pool. Her skin has scars that can never be restored. The skin on her calf is not burned to the point of skin grafting. She has no inch of her skin to be exposed.
Her husband and daughter gave her a lot of warmth, but she still had too many nights to fall asleep. The hatred and fear of the Jordanian family and the pain of losing her skin made her think of suicide. One afternoon she swallowed a lot of sleeping pills. After being rescued, she was diagnosed with depression . For a long time, she was receiving psychological treatment.
Later, she and her son Maruan recognized each other. In the first few years after she came to Europe, she was anxious to be independent and could not live with her children. Although she understood that giving Maruan to others was the best arrangement for him, this incident still made her very guilty. She returned from hell with this child, but she chose to abandon him for her life.
At that time, Ma Luan, who was already 20 years old, slowly opened the knot with her love. Later, with the encouragement of Ms. Jia Guilin, Shu Yade was invited by the "Timely Rain" Foundation to start some offline seminars to share her first half of her life experience.
Ms. Jia Guilin did not stop her rescue. She returned to the Middle East again and continued to pay attention to the girls who were murdered by their relatives for the "family honor crime". She went back and forth in hell and earth, sometimes returning in triumph, sometimes in vain.
Shuyade later saw many victimized girls who were rescued and transferred to Europe. Some of them were tied to the railroad tracks by their relatives and lost their legs, some were cut to death by their knives and then thrown into the trash can, and some were thrown out of the window by their mothers and brothers, causing paralysis.
. Only Shu Yade survived the fire. 20 years after she was burned, the people there are still silently guarding the ridiculous "family reputation". Even a few gossips may kill a girl's relatives.
is what I have experienced and seen with my own eyes that led to the publication of Shu Yade's oral autobiography "Burn to death".
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This year marks the 18th year of "Burning to Dead" in Taiwan Province.
Shuyad was burned by his relatives in his hometown on the West Bank around 1978, and 40 years have passed.
Shu Yade's signature in the book says that she is somewhere in Europe and hopes that she will be safe and happy for the rest of her life.
So is the world today better than 40 years ago?
In 2017, the Jordanian parliament voted to abolish Article 308 of the Criminal Law, which stipulates that the "rape law" widely circulated in Middle Eastern countries, generally meaning that if the rapist is willing to marry the victim, the rapist can be exempted from criminal liability.
In 2014, three years ago, Jordan's first female coroner, Tawabe, said that Article 308 stipulates that it is necessary to exist. If the raped girl does not accept the marriage arrangements of the rapist, she may face liquidation of her family.
She may be killed by her parents or relatives for destroying her "family reputation".
Yes, it is better to marry someone who rapes you than to be killed.
In July 2020, on the streets of Jordan, a girl was beaten to death by her father with a brick. After that, her father sat leisurely next to her daughter's body, smoking and drinking tea.
Before this, the girl had repeatedly asked the police station for help due to the abuse of her father and brother. Her mother remained addicted to her experience until she was beaten to death by her father in the street. Neighbors near
took photos of this horrifying incident and uploaded it to the Internet. A large number of girls took to the streets to protest the violence against the girls in their families.
original news address: https://gulfnews.com/world/mena/father-kills-daughter-and-drinks-tea-beside-her-body-in-jordan-1.1595164364536
Today's West Bank no longer belongs to Jordan, but life continues.
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