Recently, I saw a chat record on the Internet, which was very popular. The content of the chat was about a 23-year-old female student studying in Spain.
The father gave his daughter 10,000 yuan in living expenses every month. Once, the father found out that his daughter had swiped a credit card and asked her a few questions.
The father just wanted his daughter to be sensible and not spend a lot of money. He also said: "Dad is 51 years old. He is already old and has no ability to support you."
The father's sincere words not only made his daughter not I understand, but I also argued that the remittance for living expenses for the month had not been received yet, and I had to spend money to live, so I used credit card money.
I thought this matter would just go away, but I didn’t expect what my daughter would do next, which was jaw-dropping.
The daughter not only posted the chat records between herself and her father online, but also posted a message calling on everyone to violently abuse her father online.
In order to make netizens sympathize with her, she said on the Internet that her father did not give her living expenses when she was studying in college. Now that she is studying abroad, he is trying every means to reduce her expenses, and even said, "I can't raise this fairy." Don’t give birth to ”, such a bastard.
In the daughter’s opinion, the person who was wrong in this matter was her father, and she wanted to let everyone on the Internet know how “stingy” her father was towards her.
Did her father really treat her badly?
Some netizens saw this chat record. Many people studying in Spain said, " The living expenses of 10,000 yuan per month have already met the living expenses of a middle-class family."
What is hateful is that, She also directly exposed her father’s real name and contact information.
You must know that this father, who she considers inhumane, has given her 10,000 yuan for daily living expenses from his monthly salary of 13,000 yuan.
My father’s dinner was just a bowl of millet porridge and a side dish.
In fact, such things are not uncommon. On August 8, in Changchun, Jilin, a 15-year-old girl asked her mother for pocket money. Her mother did not give it to her and beat her mother in public.
What is the reason that makes children become like this?
1. Excessive doting, easily satisfied
Chinese-style parents cut back on food and clothing, and devote all their resources to giving their children the best. Parents are almost always responsive to their children's requests.
A child’s mentality will produce a feeling that no matter what I want, my parents will help me do it.
As time goes by, if the parents disagree, the children will lose their temper, cry, and negotiate conditions to get their parents to compromise.
"Let me play with my mobile phone for another hour!"
"If you don't buy this toy for me, I won't eat!"
When children make unreasonable requests, parents should not easily agree. For those who are unrealistic and unrealistic, Unreasonable requests must be rejected firmly and clearly, and the reasons must be explained to the child to let the child know that it is wrong to do so.
2. Failure to establish a correct view of money
Many families nowadays pay attention to the cultivation of children's cultural classes, but have never talked about money-related topics with their children, in order to guide their children to establish a correct view of money.
It can be said that in China's family education , financial and business education is a shortcoming of family education.
Some people will say: “Children don’t need money, they have everything at home."
Some people may also think: " If you talk about money and calculate money with your children at such a young age, will you train your children to become people who fall into the "money eye"?
I think this is something that many families have in common. Due to the lack of financial education for their children, their children have no concept of money. In their eyes, money is just a few numbers and a few QR codes.
It is precisely because of the lack of education about money that there have been many incidents of "naughty kids" spending tens of thousands of yuan on recharges playing games, and giving huge rewards to anchors.
So as a parent, how should we guide our children to establish a correct view of money?
. Create more opportunities for children to learn about money
In daily life consumption, we are all used to online payments, but when teaching children to learn about money, paper money must be used.
You can give your child some 1 yuan, 2 yuan, or 10 yuan banknotes, take out the toys he usually likes to play with or the food he likes to eat, and let him use the money in his hand to exchange for the toys and food in our hands.
For example, 2 yuan can only be exchanged for a piece of cake, and 50 yuan can be exchanged for a toy car, etc. This will deepen children's understanding of money and numbers in daily life.
. Cultivate delayed gratification and teach children to save
When going to the supermarket, you will often hear children say: "If you want to buy this, which one do you want to buy?" Some parents will buy it for their child immediately. If they don't buy it for him, they are afraid of waiting for the child. Crying in public.
This will make the child feel that if he wants something, he can get it immediately as long as he tells it.
They do not understand that some things in reality require hard work for a period of time to obtain.
Therefore, you might as well cultivate children’s sense of delayed gratification. For example, you can tell your children that if you save 1 yuan a day, although you can’t buy what you want now, you can put it in a piggy bank. After day after day of storage, a period of Toys can be purchased after a certain amount of time.
Parents can take advantage of this opportunity to let their children learn to keep accounts. My family uses the baby financial ledger . I usually keep accounts with my children to record their daily pocket money income and how to use their pocket money. What did you buy so that your children would understand how much money is left in their little coffers?
In this way, children can not only exercise their willpower, but also experience the fun of saving money and keeping accounts.
. Cultivate children's awareness of working to make money
Many children do not understand the hard work of their parents to make money. They clearly have some at home, but they clamor to buy them, extravagantly and wastefully, and have no concept of money at all.
We can tell our children how much money they can earn if they clean the room and wash the dishes every day, so that they can realize that money can only be obtained through labor. With money, you can buy the items you like. Making money is not an easy task. , and at the same time, it can also indirectly encourage children to help with housework and exercise their hands-on skills.
3. Not being grateful
The father tried his best to cut back on food and clothing, and only provided the best material conditions for his daughter. However, he did not know that he had raised his daughter to be a white-eyed wolf who only knows how to ask for things and is not grateful. Instead, he said that his father should Heartbreaking words.
You must know that our parents have spent their whole life for us to bring us up. When we grow up, they are gradually getting older, and every wrinkle on our forehead hides the long and long years. Vicissitudes of life, so, we must know how to be grateful to our parents, thank them for giving us life, and thank them for their selfless dedication over the years.
Children's education is a subject that every parent must learn throughout his life. At the same time, we must also understand that parents can only accompany us on a journey. The rest of the journey must be walked by ourselves. We need to learn to live independently and be grateful to our parents. , after all, every encounter in life is fate; every time we see you again, we may never see you again.
