text / Vic Yang Picture / Internet source: New Oriental Family Education (ID: xdfjtjy)
In the game "Silent Hill", there is such a setting. Compared with the daily world we live in, there is also a "internal world": reality is bright and orderly, while the internal world is dark and disorderly.
It is difficult for people living in the real world to notice that under the calm appearance of daily life, there is still a B-side of a life that is surging.
Is this just a setting in the game?
Last week, a video on the video website Bilibili accidentally triggered the butterfly effect, which made us realize the "inner world" that we have ignored.
The thing is like this:
Someone uploaded a video of a little girl dancing on B station, which lasts 3 minutes.
At first glance, there is nothing wrong with this video. It is just a girl who looks like a high school student dancing. But soon, netizens with great powers recognized that 's 3-minute video is a "green clip" captured from a 20-minute video.
The content in the video is very unsightly: In the park, the girl danced in public, while smiling and lifted her skirt to the camera to reveal her lower body , not afraid of the eyes of passers-by, and soon she took off naked in the middle of the road and started dancing...
This is a video that cannot be passed on any formal video website in China.
What’s more coincidental is that the girl in the video just went on the hot search on Weibo in June. Why is
a hot search?
Because she is dressed in a strange outfit, she wears a Lolita skirt to take the college entrance examination.
In the interview, she claimed to be 16 years old and hoped to "take good grades to bring honor to her parents."
said in her mouth that she took a good exam to bring honor to her parents, but in a blink of an eye, she "told herself" on the Internet.
I can't imagine how collapse it would be if the parents who have worked hard over the years knew that their daughter "showed off her youth" on the Internet. What is more serious than nudity is that this is a "paid nudity".
A netizen once left a message saying that this girl is a "wealth girl". This video was specially customized by someone who spent 1,500 yuan to find her.
In Japanese, "Ji" means princess, while welfare Ji refers to girls who wear anime character clothes to imitate two-dimensional characters and sell their own large-scale photos and videos to earn money and reputation.
Yes, girls selling these videos have their own exclusive names, and they are far more people than we think, and a large part of these girls are minors.
Some people even said in Zhihu's answer that if you can't get into college, you will become a welfare girl.
These girls all have a common label: imitating the two-dimensional world.
Many welfare girls started out with cosplay (role play). They like to imitate the dressing style of characters in cartoons and even their words and deeds. Normal cosplay is a hobby. However, many children who are not well-educated in the world are getting more and more deviant in this process, and regard this imitation as a means of "making pocket money."
As Zweig said: She was too young at that time and didn’t know that all the gifts given by fate had already secretly bid for the price!
You may be able to make money by taking photos, but it may be easy to wear the clothes you take off and then wear them.
also makes me feel heart-wrenching, and there is a news that happened last week.
"Dad, will I die?"
"Sister, have I been disfigured? Don't worry, I will hold on!"
This is what Zhezhe said to his father and sister when he was just sent to the hospital and was a little awake.
Last week, when a 14-year-old girl Zhezhe and her 12-year-old neighbor Xiaoyu were watching short videos on their mobile phones, they found that a blogger was teaching how to make popcorn in cans.
According to the blogger's demonstration, this method is easy to operate and the ingredients are simple, so the two girls were moved.
They found the material in the video at home, but unexpectedly, during the operation, the alcohol used as the heating source suddenly exploded.
According to the video taken by parents, the family was in chaos after the explosion
Both girls were injured to varying degrees due to the explosion, and the area of Zhezhe burns was as high as 96%. According to Zhezhe's sister, her sister was diagnosed with a severe burn by the hospital and is still receiving treatment in the ICU and is not out of danger yet.
In recent years, news about children's accidents due to imitating TV programs has been frequently seen in newspapers.
In 2012, it was the time of the popular time-travel drama, two primary school students in Fujian jumped into the river to commit suicide. In their suicide note, they wrote "I hope to travel through time and space"; in 2013, an 8-year-old child from Jiangsu imitated the plot in the cartoon, tied his friends to a tree and played the "kidnapping roasted sheep" game, which resulted in severe burns from the tied child; in 2016, when the sisters in Shaanxi Province imitated cartoon characters, the sister accidentally sawed the face of the 5-year-old sister with a chainsaw. When she was sent to the hospital, her sister "had her nose and right face were sawed open". Even if she healed in the future, she would leave deep scars."
Bluntly said that the Welfare Girl imitated anime "need money", while these dangerous imitations of children are "deadly".
These imitations not only ruin the child's life, but also push a complete family into the abyss.
Does children really not be able to distinguish between virtual and reality? Why do they love imitation so much?
Imitation is human instinct, and imitating others is the main way for us to acquire acquired knowledge and skills.
Especially for children, constantly imitating things they are interested in during their growth is a necessary process for them to form their own values and improve their knowledge structure.
Imitation is like repeating, and it is an important factor in forming habits. This behavior itself is not wrong.
It can even be said that children who like to imitate are the manifestation of intelligence. Imitation helps children learn and adapt, and is conducive to children understanding other people's emotions.
behavior is correct, the wrong thing is the imitation object.
As early as the 1960s and 1970s, American psychologist Bandura conducted a series of experiments. Through experiments, he found that many of the extremely negative factors in children's personality come from intentional or unintentional imitation in life: the object of imitation can be plots in movies and cartoons, or it may be relatives around him.
Experimental video screenshot
Therefore, the first thing parents should pay attention to is to understand the content of the media they are watching.
German educational institutions and media research institutions advise parents not to let their children play games and watch media programs alone before the age of 13 to 14.
On the German Youth Media Guide website, the first item of "What parents can do" is: Parents should understand the media content their children receive!
Some content involving violence and pornography will inevitably arouse children's curiosity.
In my country, where the film and television work rating system has not yet been implemented, it is more important to understand what children are watching.
Secondly, according to Bandura's research, what can really affect children most is not the speech and empty truth, but the behavior of adults.
Chicken soup often says that whether a man loves you or not, don’t listen to what he says, but depends on what he does for you. The principle of
is actually the same when it comes to parenting: what can really affect children is not what parents say, but what they do.
a few days ago, Dong Mingzhu was on the hot search again. This time she said generously that she would not want the 1 billion yuan she won by betting with the Xiaomi president before.
This Gree Queen worked hard all the way from an ordinary salesperson to the chairman with a net worth of over 100 million.
It was witnessing the struggle of his mother that Dong Mingzhu's son Dongdong refused the family's support when he grew up. He said:
"Mom can start from scratch, so can I."
Just as Dong Qing said, what kind of person do you want your child to become, you must be the first person.
Want your child to be active and motivated, at least you can’t slump on the sofa and play with your mobile phone after get off work; if you want your child to be obedient and filial, how can you ignore the hard work of the elderly at home?
Parents’ words and deeds are the fundamental way to correctly guide children to imitate behavior.
Just like the children's educator Mr. Chen Heqin once said:
"If the family's actions are elegant, his (children's) will probably also be elegant; if the family's words are crude, his words are rough. Therefore, parents have to be cautious all the time to ensure that they can have the value of example."
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