Life is like the Beiyi Highway. When you encounter a mountain, you will move forward in a circle. After nine bends and eighteen turns, you will climb up the mountain, then cross the mountains and ridges, and finally reach your destination.

text/Du Mou

"I hope every person who grows up can find a place to place his soul"

The meaning of growth

Life has been constantly learning and growing since its birth. Through learning and adjustment, the mental strength is enhanced and the mind is becoming more and more developed. Everyone uses their mind to face their own experiences. The challenges of survival bring more growth and wisdom. Life is like the Beiyi Highway. When you encounter a mountain, you will move forward in a circle. After nine bends and eighteen turns, you will climb up the mountain, then cross the mountains and ridges, and finally reach your destination.

What happened today made me clearly realize: is almost a blink of an eye, and I realized that I am an adult!

Growth

I believe that most of the people who read my article are adults or even middle-aged people. I want to ask: When did you realize that you are already "adults" in the eyes of others?

. Is it when parents talk to you in a negotiated tone?

2. Is it when you have independent financial ability?

3. Is it when I get married?

4. Is it when you have children?

5. Or when you are alone in your work and life?

Now, in 1998, I have entered the age of 22 with the ringing of the New Year’s Eve bell in 2020. In recent years, I have changed too much, too fast and too big. Now I can't remember the words I blurted out a few years ago without thinking.

And today, I was looking at the shop for my relatives. A 9 or 10-year-old girl wanted to buy something. When she stood in front of me to pay, she shouted loudly: "Uncle" !

When the sound of the two words "Uncle" came into my ears, I was confused .

I immediately asked:

Me: Kid, why do you call me uncle?

Little girl: Because you are very tall!

Me: Are you the uncle who is tall?

Little girl: No, because you still have a beard.

(I subconsciously touched my beard that I hadn't shaved for a few days)

Me: Is there any other reason besides this?

Little girl: You are still wearing leather shoes!

(I was speechless for a moment)

The conversation ended here, and I looked at the little girl, but I was still a little confused. At that moment, I seemed to realize something?

Adult's logo

We almost forgot. When we thought that the logo of Adult slowly appeared on us one by one , we almost didn't notice it, just let it go , and happily accepted it. It seemed that all this was so reasonable and reasonable, and there was nothing wrong with it.

. Everyone around you see all the changes in , but because everyone is at the same level, growing and changing, everyone is happy to accept it. We slowly assimilate and continue to change.

Until a long time later, because of something, something or moment, you suddenly realize (very clear discovery): your years have passed, and your youth is no longer there.

years passed, youth is gone!

After the little girl left with her stuff, I thought for a long time.

When we were young, we wanted to grow up because adults always said: This thing cannot be done now, and you can do it when you grow up! But at that time, both ourselves and the people around us agreed that we were still far away from growing up, very far away.

So we began to look forward to growing up and long for growth. didn't know that the time of growth was as described in the book, like "a flash of time passed by" in a flash . In a blink of an eye, we have reached our current age, neither too old nor too young, which is difficult to understand.

This is a realistic, extremely realistic thing. It makes us ignore one thing, that is, those who told us what we can do only when we grow up, and are also growing and are parallel to our growth rate.

The real slap on our faces again and again, and the "surge" "face" hurts. The things in front of us always catch us off guard. The heavy reality made me feel another emotion from the lyrics of Lee Zongsheng Senior "Song of Myself" :

"Song of Myself" part of the lyrics

I think one sentence: "Thinking but not getting what you can do in life" expresses all my current thoughts, not because of emotional frustration, but because I feel helplessness and passivity.

"When you find that time is a thief, he has already stolen all your choice!"

Our growth is not obvious. may just be because of someone else's words "uncle", because others think that we are wearing leather shoes, tied or bearded , which is enough to make us recognize ourselves. It is really "A word awakens the dreamer" .

but it is unattainable. What are you doing in life? thought in a blink of an eye, at least I have discovered this "fact" now and will not passively accept this reality in the future, right?

Think carefully, have we really grown up?

I don’t think so. has many shortcomings in . What we see now is only superficial and superficial. may be just age growth, or physical growth!

, I still have time , we still have energy , we also have energy , we can also spend a lot of time to improve our growth and lack of . Therefore, we have a lot to do: learn to enrich ourselves, exercise and improve ourselves, and strive to accumulate experience .

Learn to enrich and improve yourself

In this way, we at least get rid of the embarrassment of not being prepared to "grow up in a hurry" and quickly integrate into the role of "uncle" in the little girl's mouth. It is also a different experience.

We missed a large part of our growth experience because of ignorance and unconsciousness. So when we recognize the reality of , should be based on the present, look to the future, and no longer be disturbed by trivial matters around us, so as not to lose experience and leave regrets.

is now 2020. I hope that our 2020 is not what we used to say, "end of the world" , nor is it the time when "only set up flags, not put into action" , nor is it the time when , it is not what the elders call "mixed society" . I would rather welcome the dawn of hope for the future with a passionate state of 18 years old.

Go forward! Don't look back!

Time is a road with no return, only ahead, no look back, in the past years, whether happiness or sorrow, it is the past.

I hope everyone will be in a good mood, throw away old worries, put on new clothes, and set out again; I hope that everyone in the future will be happy with a smile and live a bright life.

I wish everyone has stars in their eyes and sunshine in their hearts! ! !

*Author profile: Du Mou, a veteran enthusiast of improper psychology, ACI psychological counselor, a Northwest man of 1.83 meters, likes to write.

When did you clearly realize that you have grown up? ? ? Multiple choice

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parents speak in a negotiated tone

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use independent financial ability

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When getting married and having children

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When you are alone

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