Everyone knows that people need to be tactful, but not everyone can do everything. Only after experiencing many setbacks or similar experiences can they understand how to think from others' perspective, but it does not mean that everyone can do this. For some people, for things they don't like, they prefer to be perfunctory instead of ruthlessly rejecting them, even if the perfunctory performance is very obvious and already has a cruel feeling. However, anyone with a discerning eye should stop it in moderation. Since perfunctory is already so obvious, why not have a quick and cruel rejection? Wouldn't it be better?
Take care of other people’s feelings. In the face of feelings, some people will always send out some wrong signals, making people think that this is love, or that this is some kind of signal. Your repeated perfunctory rejections have made it possible for him to get lucky. But why don't you refuse cruelly even if it's like this? This is because we need to take care of each other's face. Some people's psychological endurance is not that good. If they refuse too decisively, they may go to extremes and may also embarrass each other. Therefore, generally speaking, people will choose to be perfunctory, especially in face-to-face situations. It is even more important to learn to be perfunctory. As long as you can survive it, you can refuse no matter how much you want, otherwise it will be difficult to prevent embarrassing things from happening.
Express your rejection tactfully. If you meet someone who knows how to stop, you will roughly understand what the other person is saying and won't get entangled too much. However, if the other person never understands the meaning of your words and keeps choosing to get entangled, then it may cause greater trouble. Therefore, when someone is perfunctory with your answers or expressions, they are often rejecting you tactfully, not because you think the other party may be inconvenient right now, or for whatever reason. Although this perfunctory method is relatively euphemistic, it is still quite scary for more stubborn people. After all, some people are always too persistent in what they like and will not give up until they achieve their goals. At this time, you need to use appropriate methods. It is best not to express your rejection strongly face to face. You should understand what it means.
does not understand the ways of the world. Not everyone can understand other people's feelings, and not everyone can understand other people's good intentions. Maybe your starting point is for the good of the other person, but you are in the wrong position. Caring for others in your position is an act that crosses the edge and is easily offensive. It's like you are just colleagues, but you care for others in the same way as a couple. How can others tolerate this, and how can people not be disgusted by it?
Therefore, no matter what angle you think about the problem, you cannot measure this concern or love from your own angle. You have to think about the other person's position and the relationship between them. Sometimes the relationship is not in place and caring too much will only make the relationship go backwards. This is true. Therefore, if you want to care more, you must first learn to deal with some things and make progress in others.
There is nothing wrong with dealing with people you don’t like, and there is nothing wrong with rejecting others cruelly. However, at least enough should be enough after waking up several times. Ignoring or clearly rejecting the relationship is the best outcome for the relationship between two people. Otherwise, being perfunctory will not get the job done, and rejection will not make people despair. In the end, it will still be in vain.
