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saw a question on Zhihu: "When it comes to marriage and decoration of the wedding room, am I too pretentious or is my boyfriend unreasonable?"

The subject of the question said that after she and her boyfriend met through social software, they had already reached the stage of pre-marriage preparations, but they did not expect that a quarrel broke out. The cause of the

incident was simply that when it came to decorating the house that my fiancé had bought, he denied the outcome that the two had agreed upon when he started decorating it.

From the perspective of girls, a boy's failure to make an appointment means that he does not pay attention to himself; but from the perspective of boys, it is his own freedom to look like his own house.

1. Being emotional cannot solve anything.

For many couples, it is the biggest problem between them, and it is even said that it may be an important reason for them to break up in the future.

It is too easy for them to fall into an emotional feeling, and then use this emotion to kidnap the other party.

The simplest example is the newlyweds who have agreed to decorate the study room according to the opinions agreed upon by both parties.

Are they wrong? In fact, no, they just stand in their own opinions and criticize the other party for not thinking about themselves at all.

can do this, but the final result must be that it will not solve the problem, but will also have an impact and harm on the relationship between the two people.

Because the grievances they think they feel are just a harsh criticism in the eyes of the other party, and they cannot think from their own perspective.

The probability of falling in love is different from that of life, because what needs to be considered in love is only love and flowers, while marriage has to face real life.

2.What is the promise?

What is a promise? Simply put, it is an emotional agreement, especially when people make major choices in life.

Some people will promise that starting from tomorrow, they will lose weight for health; some people will make a vow of eternal love when proposing.

But in fact, how many people's promises will be fulfilled? Very few. Because that is just an agreement and does not mean anything.

Just like when we were children, almost all of us promised our parents that we would do well in the exam next time and not be careless next time.

However, many of these things will be thrown out of our minds in just one day. This is our nature.

The same thing, when it comes to relationships, is every promise credible enough? Of course not, so never choose for the sake of commitment.

When you meet someone you think you can hold hands with until old age, don't listen to what he says, watch what he does. Giving is always more meaningful than committing.

3. Be a lover who knows how to communicate.

When two people encounter problems or conflicts, the best way is not to blame each other, or even to attack and insult each other.

Especially for couples, you know each other too well. Therefore, many words without thinking will be more lethal.

What you need is a way and method to solve the problem, not one more reason to destroy each other's feelings and lives.

Therefore, at this time, what you should think about is the reason and reason for the other party's behavior, and treat and handle it with a positive attitude.

Instead of blindly accusing the other person of not thinking for you, no one can empathize with you, even if the person opposite is your family or lover.

Of course, the premise of this way of discussing and solving problems is that the matter is a small matter in life, not a matter of principle.

If the other party has committed betrayal, physical or mental harm, then what you need is not to solve the problem, but to stay away from the other party.

4. Marriage is an advanced version of life

In the past, we had the support of parents, teachers and other elders. They would use their own experiences and things they had seen to give us advice.

But not all of these suggestions can be listened to. After all, it must be an ideological concept with personal ideas.

Now, when we face feelings, what we need to do is coordination, thinking, problem-solving and attitude towards problems.

Marriage is actually a life in which trivial things accumulate one after another. It won't be as perfect as people think.

As for your significant other, don’t think that he should accommodate you in everything. You are both the babies of your parents, and you should not just compromise for love.

and above, I wish you sweet dreams and good night.