Recently, something happened in Shanghai:
An elderly man living alone in , Baoshan District, , left the 3 million yuan property to the fruit stall owner downstairs who had no blood relationship.
Behind the unusual gift behavior of the elderly, there is actually a sad past.
not only exposes property inheritance issues, but also the pension dilemma of 200 million people in China:
After the material needs are met, what should the elderly do for love and dignity? !
The old man's surname is Ma, and he is a retired worker.
In 2012, his wife passed away, leaving him to depend on each other with his only son who was suffering from mental illness.
My son is mentally ill. The most common thing in Grandpa Ma’s life is Xiaoyou, the fruit stall owner downstairs.
In 2015, Grandpa Ma's son suddenly died of illness at home in the middle of the night. He had no relatives to ask for help, so he could only ask Xiaoyou for help.
Xiaoyou thought he was just going to do odd jobs at first, but after arriving at the crematorium, he found that only Grandpa Ma and him were the only two, and none of the other relatives came.
So, the funeral of Grandpa Ma’s son was held by Xiaoyou, a "outsider" who had no blood relationship.
After his son passed away, his relatives never came to visit him except to ask him to write a will early, and gradually he did not interact with these relatives.
One day in 2017, Xiaoyou felt a little worried when he saw Grandpa Ma who would usually come out for a walk on time.
With the help of community staff, I opened Grandpa Ma’s house and found that Grandpa Ma fell to the ground in his pajamas, his whole body was cold.
Xiaoyou quickly sent Grandpa Ma to the hospital. When Grandpa Ma's situation was once critical, he called his sister.
But when the other party heard that Grandpa Ma fell ill, he said that he had a wife at home to take care of him, and said, "I'm going to exercise," he hung up the phone.
Xiaoyou can only take time to go to the hospital to take care of Grandpa Ma in the next days while busy with the fruit stall.
Grandpa Ma's condition relieved and was discharged from the hospital, and invited Xiaoyou and his wife to live in their house with their children.
In this way, three generations formed a special family and spent three special years.
Considering that he was old, Grandpa Ma also specially went to "Yi Ding Guardian":
entrusted his real estate worth three million yuan, bank card password, son's original ring, pocket watch left by his father and other commemorative valuables, together with his own funeral.
Xiaoyou was very surprised, but he also understood the old man's psychology:
He is at his age, and money is already something outside his body. Giving these things to yourself is actually giving your old age life to yourself.
After Xiaoyou promised to be the guardian of the old man, the old man also urged Xiaoyou to notarize the agreement and complete the procedure in 2019.
Although the neighbors were surprised when they found out, they also thought that it was a good person in Xiaoyou who would be rewarded.
In other words, it is his right to whoever he is willing to give his house and is also notarized and supported.
Because of the past ten years of companionship, two people who were originally not related by blood have become "family" as close as father and son.
The story of Grandpa Ma and Xiaoyou has been known by more people through media reports.
But unexpectedly, not long after the report, Grandpa Ma's relatives came out to protest:
They said that they have always been a "happy big family."
Grandpa Ma had Alzheimer's disease. When he was hospitalized, they went to take care of him for two nights. He was picked up first in the hospital.
They did not care about the elderly in the past few years, but they "don't disturb the elderly's life";
They read the news and found out that their uncle gave all the money to the stall owner;
Now speaking out is "for the sake of the elderly's future, they doubt whether the fruit stall owner can support the elderly."
But after the relatives spoke out, everyone doubted their motives even more.
Even the elderly went to notarize the real estate problem. They only learned about it by reading the news. How could this be the saying "a happy family"?
Now, obeying Grandpa Ma's wishes and giving him a warm old age may be the greatest respect that relatives who have already let go can give him.
Family affection requires actions to maintain.
We will not become a family that loves each other simply because of blood relationship.
From this perspective, if Grandpa Ma’s nephews and nieces have been like Xiaoyou in the past few years, giving the elderly more care and company, wouldn’t there be any disputes today?
There is another news about elderly care recently, which makes people feel uncomfortable:
Suzhou Grandpa Cao, a 99-year-old man from Grandpa, is a teacher and a calligrapher.
and his wife have four children and two daughters. When they get older, the two of them mainly rely on hiring nanny to take care of their lives.
In the past few years, the couple has changed six or seven nannys. It was not until they met Nanny Hu more than two years ago that they did not change again.
In Grandpa Cao's words, Aunt Hu can be her own book boy and is hardworking, and both the couple are very satisfied.
Grandpa Cao had an operation last year. During his hospitalization, he gave the nanny 8,000 yuan, hoping that if he left, she could continue to take care of his wife on his behalf.
I didn’t expect fate to make people think of it. At the beginning of this year, Grandpa Cao’s wife walked ahead of him.
Grandpa Cao finally survived the pain of losing his wife, but his children fired the nanny.
The reason is that the neighbors are gossiping and think that Aunt Hu is kind to Grandpa Cao because she is attentive.
The old man wanted to invite the nanny back, but was unanimously opposed by his children.
Grandpa Cao was very sad because of this and cried to the camera:
I have never been so lonely in my life.
When I was young, I didn’t like to cry, but now I want to cry when I think about it.
"How did I know that I would be at this point!"
Grandpa Cao said that he had not asked for a penny with his children in the past 32 years.
Now I am lonely in old age, and I spend my own money to hire a nanny.
Want to ask your children what mistakes are there!
Grandpa Cao's loneliness makes people sad, but what makes people feel more uncomfortable than loneliness is the children's incomprehension of him.
On the one hand, he was afraid of gossiping and forced to fire the nanny.
On the one hand, we cannot always be with Grandpa Cao, so we can give him the care and care he needs.
"Decently, without causing trouble, without letting people gossip", may be the biggest expectation of children for Grandpa Cao, and the attitude of many families towards the elderly.
But such expectations are too cruel for the elderly.
We will also have a day of old.
Are we destined to live like this day and day, occasionally seeing our children and waiting for death alone?
In an era where basic material needs can be met, nurturing is not only the elderly’s food and clothing, but also the elderly’s heart.
According to reports, in 2019, the population of China over 60 years old was about 250 million.
allows them to have a place to rely on and have a rich life for retirement. It is not only the responsibility of their children, but also the challenges that our generation will eventually face.
But at the moment of rapid development of technology, the younger generation has dominated all aspects of society and often ignores the real needs of the elderly group.
Whether it is the construction of community nursing homes, or the design of social nursing facilities and design, there is room for improvement.
For example, from online payment, intelligent recognition, to subway QR codes, bus QR codes...
These technologies have greatly facilitated the lives of young people, but have made traveling in some elderly people more and more inconvenient.
For example, if you can't scan the code to take a bus, you are refused to load by the bus:
Don't know what the health code is, you can't get on the subway:
went to pay medical insurance in the rain, but did not pay online, but was rejected for cash...
is not their fault that it cannot keep up with the development of technology.
The helplessness of these elderly people should not be arrogantly ignored by young people.
Fortunately, society has gradually realized their inconvenience.
The good news is that the National Health Commission has announced that they will coordinate various departments and use technical means to combine the health code with the common bus cards, citizen cards, elderly cards and other documents for the elderly, greatly facilitating the travel of the elderly.
Recently, the State Council also explicitly ordered that all units and individual business entities cannot refuse to accept cash.
cannot allow intelligent technology to become an obstacle for the elderly to enjoy their due social services.
includes this Shanghai elderly gift real estate incident, and is also promoting the society to improve the legal process of [intentional guardianship].
allows elderly people without children to choose their guardians in a healthy and sober situation according to their own wishes.
Only in this way can we see the real needs of the elderly.
Finally, for families with elderly people at home, you might as well start with the following 9 tips to improve the quality of life of our elderly.
takes them for physical examination every year;
patiently teaches them to surf the Internet;
teaches them to use smartphones;
makes their phones large font sizes;
often take photos with them;
stay patient with them;
often call them;
often call them;
remember to go home often to see them;
hold hands, hug, and remember to express love.
The last, I hope everyone understands:
The elderly are also humans.
The life of the elderly is also life.
People need love, warmth, respect, and company.
is life, and it requires expectation, fun, and hope, rather than waiting for death day by day.
is watching the sharing, I hope that the elderly today can be treated gentlely by society.
May our rolling forward era not leave the old people behind.
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