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Conflicts rarely occur between strangers, and even if there is a conflict, it makes sense. The closer the relationship between people, the more likely it is to conflict, and once this contradiction occurs, there is no reason to be said.
It is not uncommon for the husband to say that the husband has reason to say that the husband has reason in life. Two people who originally had a good relationship turned against each other after something happened and used the most vicious words to attack the other party's weakness. This is the evil of human nature.
The ancients said: "Raising rice to raise grace, and fighting rice to raise grudges." Logically speaking, the more you help, the more you should be grateful, but the fact is that the more you help, the more you make mistakes.
Greed is human nature. There is no trick to get along with others that can effectively prevent the other party's greed, so don't show your "assets" easily.
In life, you are destined to be unable to be liked by everyone. No matter how you do it, there will always be a negative voice in the crowd. Smart people will not argue with it, but will do what they should do silently.
Wise people have always understood that "gratitude is as great as hatred", so they will take self-protection measures before performing grace, and then they are willing to extend a hand to help.
Hiding one's own strength
Zhangyang and low-key can be said to be two extremes. Zhangyang people are always willing to exaggerate their abilities, while low-key people often subconsciously hide their own strength.
As the experience increases and the accumulation of social experience, people will gradually understand that the vocalists are not necessarily trustworthy, but those with outstanding auras and calmness are more meaningful to explore.
Whether in life or in the workplace, the more powerful people are, the less they talk.
Excellent people know that achievements are hard-won. They will try their best to avoid excessive display in front of others, and are even more worried that they will attract unnecessary jealousy.
Not showing off one's strength is a person deliberately hiding his strength. In this world, it is better to have less than more things.
The less capable a person is, the more willing he is to make a big fuss before doing things. On the contrary, those with outstanding abilities will choose to solve the problem silently. Hiding strength is the simplest type of self-protection.
Avoid helping
In interpersonal communication, wise people rarely help if they don’t show off. Some people may think that such people are really cold, but how many ultimate successful people are still full of enthusiasm and their minds are hot.
Indifference and calmness and clarity are completely different things. Indifference means not saving you when you die. No matter whether you have the ability or not, you refuse to help. Calmness means weighing the pros and cons before deciding whether to save you. Being clear is to understand how to grasp the right position after deciding to save you.
To give a simple example, if a person is walking by the river and sees someone falling into the water, he happens to be able to swim again, but he doesn't swim very well. At this time, the cold-hearted person may have to pretend not to see it and walk away directly, while the arrogant person will jump into the water without thinking.
is obviously a selfish person, but why are those who jump into the water also selfish? Even though you know that your ability is not enough to support two people to get ashore, you will only cause trouble for those who are able to save others later, and even take your own life.
The truth that wise people understand is that they must protect themselves before helping others. It is certainly exciting to help each other with all their strength, but if this kind of "strength" is destined to be in vain, it is really better to maintain the risk control they should have from the beginning.
Before helping others, wise men will evaluate and control risks.
Set the threshold for assistance
" Human Disqualification " has a saying: "No matter who you are too enthusiastic about, it increases the probability of not being cherished." People always don't cherish things that can be easily owned, which is probably why everyone always cares about rare things and does not really look at cost-effectiveness.
When the threshold for possession of a thing is continuously raised, the value of the thing will increase exponentially with the increase of the threshold.
After all, people care more about spiritual wealth and the only special nature.
You must set a threshold for helping others. Help without a threshold will not only not be grateful, but may also be held resentful by others.
This is the reality. When facing a person who doesn’t know how to be grateful, if you don’t ask him a problem, the other party will ask you different ways.
Passion is a very sad thing. Those moral kidnappings of can be said to be because the mercy does not set a threshold for the mercy.
A wise man understands what he wants to do, and at the same time, he also understands who should be worthy of his kindness.
Request for a timely return
Kindness needs to demand a timely return, not for anything else, just to see the other party's attitude clearly.
If a person just gives blindly and never looks up at the attitude of his helper towards life and himself, then this kindness is very likely to encourage the growth of greed.
Wise people never allow themselves to give blindly, their kindness can distinguish the object.
Gratitude is something that everyone with a conscience can do. Giving kindness can be done without asking for anything in return, but you cannot completely ignore the kindness of the beneficiary.
Helping a person with a conscience accumulates virtue and does good deeds, and helping a person who does not know how to be grateful is to tolerate evil.
Mr. Dongguo did not ask for anything in return, but saved the evil wolf that wanted to eat him. The farmer did not ask for anything in return, and warmed the poisonous snake that bit him.
Reward is not a return, but an attitude.
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