[Golf Parent-Child Network Introduction] With multiple golf championship results, excellent academic performance and good English skills, Wang Ziyi, a 17-year-old girl who has just entered the senior year of high school, was admitted to Stanford University in the United States in

[Golf Parent-Child Network Introduction] With multiple golf championship results, excellent academic performance and good English skills, Wang Ziyi, a 17-year-old girl who has just entered the senior year of high school, was admitted to Stanford University in the United States in advance, and entered the golf school team with a high scholarship. Why can her dream come true? What roles and responsibilities should parents assume during their children’s growth? To this end, a reporter from Golf Parent-Child Network interviewed Wang Ziyi's mother to explore the successful path of this excellent mother to raise her daughter.

Ziyi's mother said: Only when parents stick to their children can they stick to their children

Parents often complain: children do not have perseverance; children cannot persist in an interest... But, as parents, do they reflect on themselves for reasons?

In fact, whether children can persevere to the end depends on whether parents can persevere to the end. Many children show their talent for a certain sport when they were young. After initial excitement and curiosity, after practicing for a period of time, they did not persist due to one reason or another. It is a pity. In fact, it is the parents who compromised and did not insist on letting their children practice, and in the end they missed the golden time for their children to learn and grow.

Zi Yi also has a small regret. One day, she asked me, "Mom, I actually like piano very much. Why didn't you let me practice when I was a child?"

I was deeply touched after listening to the child's words. Ziyi was very interested in her childhood, and she was good at piano, dance, and painting, and the teachers all liked her. But after she went to elementary school, as her studies worsened, she had to give up a little after the third grade and focus on golf.

Through this incident, I want to tell mothers all over the world: children cannot be as self-disciplined as adults, and it is difficult to understand the benefits of a good interest to them after they develop into specialties. But adults need to understand that they need to persevere, and do not compromise or give up easily. At least let the child have one more talent, so that the child's life will be richer.

Of course, you must have a choice, and you cannot hold on to everything. Let the child be buried in a bunch of hobbies, and in the end you may not be able to learn anything well. According to the characteristics of the child, let him choose one or two interested projects and persist in it, and he will have a greater chance of success.

Generally speaking, before the child enters the third grade of elementary school, according to the child's interests, the child can choose more and try more. There is no harm in trying. Only by discovering and tapping the child's potential and real interests, and then parents will focus on cultivating.

Ziyi's mother said: Parents should have their own division of labor in family education. The company of fathers is very important

My experience is: the best education is family education; family education is particularly critical in the growth process of children. Parents should tap their children's potential and cultivate them when they are young, but do not force their children, but respect them. Encourage children's strengths and develop their strengths to make them more confident.

Parents should have a long-term plan for their children’s education from an early age. When children are young, they must first develop good learning habits, and at the same time set a short-term goal and a long-term goal, so that children have the motivation and perseverance to work hard to achieve their goals, and they will persist even if they are hard. What parents have to do is to push the child forward silently behind the scenes.

Parents should be more company and give correct guidance at the right time to help their children avoid detours.

Family education is both. In our family, father and mother have their own division of labor, one is a red face and the other is a white face.

The company of fathers is very important, making the child's life more comprehensive and his personality more complete. Moreover, only by having a complete personality can you better develop potential.

The child’s style is different when talking to his father and mother. A girl like Ziyi, when talking to her father, she is concise and clear, and easy to accept boys’ ways.

Dad is usually busy with work, but on weekends, he will definitely take time to practice with his children. When encountering important games, he will also be a caddie for his children. Once, his daughter and Zeng Yani were in the same group, and his father asked for leave to be a caddie for his daughter.

If it is a boy, his father will accompany him more during his growth, which will have a positive and huge positive impact on him. Boys are more willing to take responsibility and be responsible. They understand that even if they are wrong, it doesn’t matter. Just correct them.

I am a mother. As a mother, I am a escort, eating, drinking, practicing, and sleeping with me when I was a child. Haha... (Reporter's comment: What a funny mother.) I am both a coachman, a chef, a logistics minister and a finance minister.

When the child grows up, especially in adolescence, it is inevitable that there will be friction or disputes with his family. At this time, parents need to change their roles appropriately and give the other party a step to ease the tension.

Ziyi's mother said: It is important to cultivate children's emotional intelligence

When children are young, they should communicate with her more. Respect your children and don’t think that they can force them when they are young. In fact, children have their own complete personality, and parents should apologize in time if they do something wrong.

When Ziyi was young, I paid great attention to communication with my children. Whether it is kindergarten, elementary school, or middle school, we will seize the opportunity to tell stories to our children every day. When I see touching stories, I will tell her. Sometimes I will tell kind stories, and my children will empathize with them. By listening to the stories told by my mother, I will learn what truth, goodness and beauty are, learn to empathize, and know how to help others.

When I was a child, after I picked it up from kindergarten or elementary school, I would chat with her: Are you happy today? Have you helped my classmates bring them happiness? Naturally, Ziyi understood the simple truth of helping classmates and gaining happiness in the process of helping others.

If you want to cultivate your child’s emotional intelligence, I suggest reading more. People who read a lot of books have high EQ and are full of emotions for everything.

For example, the children in Ziyi's class generally have high emotional intelligence and dare to express their love for teachers and classmates.

In addition, I also teach my children to be filial and respect their elders. We go to see our grandparents every weekend, and there is no need to talk about many principles. Parents set an example and set an example for their children, and their children will naturally see them.

In addition, parents should have empathy and understand their children from their perspective. I usually practice a lot with my children in our family. In winter, it is very cold for children to practice football. Some parents may act as drivers. After sending their children to the stadium, they hide in the club to play with their mobile phones, and letting their children practice football alone outside. Although the child does not say anything, they will feel wronged and complain in their hearts. In fact, when thinking from the perspective of the child, they will feel unfair. So in winter, I will accompany my children to practice football. No matter how cold or even if the child feels sorry for me, I will insist on accompanying my children to practice football. I want to set a role model for my child silently. I believe that the child will be moved and feel distressed. Naturally, I dare not slack off and seize the time to practice the ball seriously. (Text/Golf Parent-Child Network Lingling)

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Character information

Name: Wang Ziyi

Gender: Female

Birthday: March 28, 1998

Hometown: Beijing

Height: 171cm

Age: 7 years

Minimum single round score: 64 strokes

Field results

2009 China Amateur Golf Tour Beijing Champion

2011 Seventh USKG Youth Golf Championship Cup (13-14 Groups) Champion

2011 HSBC China Youth Golf Open (Group A) Champion

2011 HSBC China Youth Golf Team Championship (Group A) runner-up

2013 Fangshan Changyang Amateur Golf Championship

2014 CLPGA Xiamen Challenge Championship Champion