flipped to Douban Calendar on February 14 this year, a line from the movie "She": " Love is something that only madmen can do, it is a kind of mental disorder recognized by society. " Combined with the dense transfers and candlelight dinners in the circle of friends, it is very appropriate.
In the world view of Liu Cixin , it is impossible for humans to keep thinking rationally, and the unreasonableness of love is precisely one of the ironclad evidence.
Although, nowadays, there are techniques to help people quickly blind dates from the perspective of genetic characteristics. Every impulse in love can also be explained from a certain biological perspective, but this is like a salted fish and is too unromantic.
The love of the opposite sex makes every temperament of every era change and cannot understand it, and our society knows very little about the love of the same sex.
When you grow up in an environment where heterosexuality is the mainstream and marriage and having children is the only way to go, you may subconsciously feel that liking homosexuality is "sick", and maybe you will say "I don't discriminate against homosexuality", but in fact, the word homosexuality has a certain sense of discrimination.
The reason why elders oppose homosexuality is the biggest reason, but "cannot pass on the family line". The continuation of spirit is not called continuation, but the continuation of genes is called incense.
is just, determines what gender we like often not society, parents or even ourselves, but our body .
has talked so much about it. Today, the hero is going to tell a story about Xiao Wang and mistress who happened in Taiwan. Because of this movie, I thank Tang Yan for not marrying Qiu Ze and , and also allows me to understand what love looks like under the lens of equality.
(Qiu Ze was the handsome young man in the eyes of countless girls)
This movie "Honey Who Falls in Love with His " was the biggest dark horse in Taipei movie last year. The award was slim, almost surpassing the "Shadow" of the national teacher in the same period.
video tells a story about wife . It is logical that this is a very heavy topic, but after watching it, I was laughing and crying. Qiu Ze and Xie Yingxuan's acting skills and intimate plot combined with a warm combination of punches.
This may be attributed to director Xu Yuting. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t heard of her name, but you should have an impression of "The Story of Time" and "I May Not Love You", the former is Douban 9.2 and the latter is Douban 8.6.
Director Xu's lens language has the unique tenderness and delicateness of women, so that when you watch her tell a story, you will feel that the story is as real as if it happened to the neighbors next to your community.
Why did I say before this is a story about Xiao Wang and mistress?
Let us tell you one by one from the perspective of Xiao Song, the son of the protagonist of the film.
Adolescent Xiao Song just died of his father, but this is not what makes him most uncomfortable. After Old Song died, things that he didn't understand emerged.
He found that his father had a mistress, but this mistress was a man, so he called him Xiao Wang because he had one more string than San.
Xiao Wang has it, who is the mistress? Xiao Song’s mother—Liu Sanlian. This title is very similar to saying that the original wife is the mistress who interferes in the relationship between Lao Song and Xiao Wang.
Like most children in the world, Xiao Song felt that his mother was nervous, mean and stingy, and her father became even more serious after his death.
was asking about her son’s test results one second ago, but the next second he cried and complained that his son was ignorant and did not understand the hardships of her supplying him to school.
But what Xiao Song didn't understand the most was why his fucking face suddenly became so wealth-scrupulous and mean, so he took him to Xiao Wang's family to raise an army to ask for punishment.
But in fact, Liu Sanlian is not for herself, but for Xiao Song. Even if Lao Song cheats on him, he will forget it. After he dies, he will fill in the insurance money column.
Xiao Song also needs to study abroad and study, and he needs money. Why is this Xiao Wang? However, Xiao Song was disgusted by the shrew's behavior for a time.
But the family always has to be consistent with the outside world. My father is cold, so Xiao Song of course pointed the finger at the real mistress, Xiao Wang.
Xiao Wang works as a director in a small theater troupe. He is usually careless and looks like he is taking drugs. Xiao Song could not accept such a person snatching his father away.
In his opinion, he is greedy for money, and this little turtle is probably greedy for insurance money, and he is not a good bird. Liu Sanlian's repeated hysteria made Xiao Song unable to stand it, so he plunged into Xiao Wang's home, trying to figure out Xiao Wang's background.
But unexpectedly, Xiao Wang was unaware of the fact that he was the beneficiary of Lao Song’s insurance money. When Old Song died, Xiao Wang didn't seem sad and was busy rehearsing his own short plays.
Liu Sanlian is the one who is most collapsed. Her husband ran away with the man. Now his son has also gone to the same man. Although nothing happened, he just doesn't want to see her.
is dysfunctional, but Liu Sanlian's maternal instinct still defeated her hatred and ran to clean Xiao Wang's house.
Lao Song was dead. These three people who were closest to him during his lifetime seemed to be very sad, and their attention was all else, but in fact, these people were missing him in their own ways.
Xiao Song got angry with Liu Sanlian because Liu Sanlian cleaned up the things that Lao Song left to him. I lived in Xiao Wang's house to learn more about the person my father loved.
In getting along with Xiao Wang, Xiao Song told himself over and over again that "this is a bad person", but this bad person's life has his own shadow everywhere, so in the end, Xiao Song brought his classmates to buy tickets and went to watch Xiao Wang's drama that no one knows about.
Liu Sanlian felt more hatred in her heart. She suddenly became a wife and couldn't be a human being in the company. In fact, there were some clues, but my colleague and sister thought that the two of them were just rolling on the sheets and not getting enough.
From the time her lover came out to the time she died of cancer, she didn't have time to prepare and could only accept her fate. Can she complain? She complained, but her only sustenance - her son gradually moved away from her.
After cleaning from Xiao Wang's house, Liu Sanlian ran into Xiao Wang's mother and was regarded as Xiao Wang's girlfriend.
Wang's mother has two sons. Xiao Wang's brother passed away when she was a child. She has never known the fact that Xiao Wang is GAY. She is very happy to see Liu Sanlian.
Liu Sanlian thought about it and fate was unfair to her. She didn't want to be a good person. She turned around and told Wang's mother who was expecting to be a GAY.
The first time she saw Xiao Wang was through the iron door, and she saw her terminally ill husband choose to follow her heart in the last time of her life. She could only curse like a shrew.
What she wants to know most is that she has been a couple for more than ten years, really has no love at all? But the person had left and she had no way to know.
She only knows that there is indeed a period of time in her memory.
and Xiao Wang is not easier than Liu Sanlian.
Lao Song saw half of the book, and he placed it on the table for several days and was reluctant to clean it up.
Lao Song easily broke into his troupe. His life, due to moral concepts, chose to escape at the last minute and married Liu Sanlian.
He asked Xiao Song: " You have been doing math for so long, tell me how long it takes to be ten thousand years? "
Xiao Song replied: " is ten thousand years. "
Then how did he answer?
He still played the song Lao Song taught him.
When Lao Song got married, he stood silently in the distance because this was the normal life Lao Song wanted.
When Lao Song was ill, he chose to accept him again and borrowed usury to treat him.
Shave his hair together.
took him to look at his son for the last time before the operation.
When Lao Song died, he could only suppress his emotions and call Liu Sanlian.
Xiao Song always felt that there must be a winner in this insurance money battle, but in the end he realized that there was no winning or losing in in the farce of . The culprit who caused the three people's misfortune was no longer alive.
At the end of the video, Liu Sanlian and Xiao Song sat in the deserted audience, watching Xiao Wang, who was broken by the creditor, rehearsed a drama for Lao Song.
Xiao Wang sang the song written by Lao Song hard. Liu Sanlian listened to the familiar instrument and remembered the scene of seeing Lao Song for the first time.
Liu Sanlian was not the current yellow-faced woman Liu Sanlian, she also had a happy family. But now, if she doesn't choose to let go, the pain will not be resolved.
Director said: " We spent 100 minutes telling a story. In fact, it is about forgiveness: forgive those who have hurt you. You don't know why you should forgive, but from that day on, you have become happier than before. "
Hate is easier to heal, and love is harder to let go. What we see more is that we never forget our feelings, but rarely see deep hatred in the sea of blood.
Xiao Wang's mother chose to accept everything from her son and hugged her.
Liu Sanlian chose to give up the battle for insurance money and also let go of this past event.
Many times we are obsessed with getting the answers we want in others, but the fact is that we can only save ourselves most of the time.
If you compare Xiao Wang's gender in this movie, it is a very common bloody love triangle. Liu Sanlian was deceived for ten years, and Xiao Wang endured for ten years. Liu Sanlian hated Xiao Wang for a few months and chose to let go, but Xiao Wang loved Lao Song until the end.
As the psychologist told Xiao Song, What you hate is not Liu Sanlian's hysteria and neuroticism, but your powerlessness .
All complaints about reality come from helplessness towards one's current helplessness .
Faced with the mess of life, it is no longer important who falls in love with whom first. After all, it is extremely rare to meet love that is rewarded and rewarded in your lifetime. However, many people who comment on this film with a politically correct perspective only believe that this film promotes the fraud of homosexual marriages in the deep-guest, and does not deserve any love or mercy.
But in this world, what's wrong with it? . Chen Rushan, the actor of Lao Song, said: " is at a certain age, no matter how you are wrong. When you are young, you are right and wrong; when you are old, you are wrong and wrong are wrong. When you are old, you are wrong and right is wrong. ."
If you do not use three views to evaluate similar movies, then works involving cheating and promiscuity should be beaten to death with a blow. In terms of moral guardians, netizens are more strict than the General Administration. It's like taking to rape when you see a white arm.
"Who Falls in Love with Him First" uses the story of cheating marriage to tell the story of " dishonest relationship will destroy the lives of many people at the same time ", rather than promoting cheating marriage. If the audience does not understand this principle, then we may really face the previous online rumor that "the heroine in a film and television drama can only love one person from beginning to end" in film and television dramas.
At the end of today, I wish everyone who is single or out of the group can
Have something to do
Someone loves
Looking forward to
