A few days ago, the company had a dinner party and was in full swing. The company leader also put away his serious appearance on weekdays and said to Ayong who had been on a business trip with a smile: "You will go back today. A small separation is better than a newlywed. Eat more leeks to nourish the kidneys."
While everyone was laughing, Ayong shook his head and said, "It's useless, I've been sleeping in separate rooms long ago."
Maybe it was A Yong's answer that resonated with everyone. Many people in the company echoed: "We also slept in separate rooms."
The most shocking answer is that Aaron, an intern who has just joined the company, said: "I have been 28 years old, married for five years, and slept in separate rooms for five years"!
A Long's answer was shocked, and everyone was shocked to be in place, so they asked about A Long's sleeping in separate rooms. After listening to A Long's words, they all talked about their own marriages. A group of people were on the topic of "sleeping in separate rooms", and the more they talked, they became more and more lively, as if they had their own factions.
When it comes to the topic of "sleeping in separate rooms", the first thing I think of is the family affairs of Wang Weizhong, the godfather of Taiwan variety show.
In an interview program, Wang Weizhong mentioned: married his wife for 26 years. After the children grew up and left home one after another, the couple changed the decoration of the home again and changed the room into two compartments. The two of them were in the same room but slept in separate beds. In this way, they could hear each other's movements, take care of each other, and have their own space.
In Wang Weizhong's own words, it is: "like a roommate".
In fact, in reality, the issue of "sleeping in separate rooms" has always been a topic of debate.
Some people say: "If you sleep in a room for a long time, you will never go back to a bed again, which will even affect your marriage, because couples sleep in separate rooms. It seems that they are divided into rooms and beds, but in fact they are divided into feelings."
also say: "Sleeping in separate rooms will not affect the relationship between husband and wife at all. Only the relationship between husband and wife itself will affect the marriage."
Everyone has their own position on whether sleeping in separate rooms will affect the relationship between husband and wife and marriage, so everyone is fighting for this topic.
In the past, I always thought that "sleeping in separate rooms" was always something that older couples would have, because most of them have passed the passionate love period and the relationship has reached the boring period, so it is normal for them to sleep in separate rooms.
After listening to the words of my colleague A Long from the 1990s, I fell into deep thought and had questions about these 1990s who slept in separate rooms, because I don’t know what happened to these 1990s who slept in separate rooms?
For this reason, I interviewed dozens of married post-90s generations and their personal experience on "sleeping in separate rooms".
@Mr. Zhang, 27 years old, married for four years, sleeping in separate rooms for three years: "Sleeping in separate rooms" is just a choice of life after marriage and will not affect the marriage.
Since I was a child, I liked to lock the door and sleep alone , because if I sleep alone by my side, I will feel insecure and I will not be able to sleep well at all.
Because when I was living in junior high school, I had experienced roommates getting up in the middle of the night to sleepwalking and beating people, so I guess it will have an impact in my life. I can't accept sleeping at night, and there are other people around me.
The first year of marriage, because I was afraid of affecting the relationship between the couple, I kept holding it up and didn't tell my wife about it. In the second year of marriage, I couldn't help it, so I told my wife the truth and asked to "sleep in separate rooms."
At that time, I thought my wife would get angry and then make a divorce, but I didn't know that, but my wife said, "Let's sleep in separate rooms. Sleeping in separate rooms is just another way of life and will not affect our relationship between husband and wife. Whenever I see you awakened in the middle of the night, I feel guilty and blamed myself because I know that you are a sign of loving me."
Nowadays, we have been sleeping in separate rooms for three years. Our husband and wife have a good relationship, talking about everything and saying everything.
My wife respects me, I love her very much, we respect each other's differences, even if we sleep in separate rooms, we have no barriers, and we are thinking about each other in our hearts.
@Ms. Liang, 28 years old, married for six years, sleeping in separate rooms for four years: "Sleeping in separate rooms gives us independent space, but makes us the most familiar strangers."
My husband and I met at university. After graduating from university, we entered the palace of marriage.
The first year after marriage, we were still in love, because after entering the marriage, we vowed to be a model couple and become the object of envy of everyone.
But how could I know, wishes are just wishes. The second year after marriage, we started to sleep in separate rooms. Because in the second year, my position was promoted and I had more time on business trips. My husband began to distrust and doubt, and tried me in various ways, which made me feel particularly suffocated and no space for independence.
So I was so angry that I had a big fight with him and the sleeping room began. The child was always taken care of by the elderly. When I first started sleeping in the room, I felt very comfortable and very happy because no one was upset.
But after a long time, although I was sleeping well in separate rooms, I also found a lot of problems, because my husband and I were talking less and less. In addition to the necessary life exchanges, even if we were sitting on the same sofa and watching TV, we were more silent.
4 4 years of sleeping in the room gave me an independent space, but my relationship with my husband became increasingly weak.
Four years later, my husband and I have become the most familiar strangers. I don't need him anymore, and he no longer needs me. If it weren't for the sake of the children, maybe we would have divorced long ago.
A few days ago, it was the 10th anniversary of our understanding. I asked my husband: "Do you want to go out for a meal?"
his: "Is there anything wrong?"
me: "Haha, it's okay, I'm just asking"!
@Ms. Zhao, 27 years old, married for two years, sleeping in separate rooms for two years: sleeping in separate rooms, our relationship is getting better and better.
Before getting married, I didn’t know that he would snore and grind his teeth when he was sleeping, so when I first got married, I was very distressed and couldn’t sleep at night, and almost gotten nervous.
At that time, I didn't tell my husband because I was afraid that he would think too much. Later, my husband looked at my increasingly heavy dark circles and made a request to "sleep in separate rooms".
That day, my husband said, "Let's sleep in separate rooms in the future. I know that you can't sleep well because of me, so we have to sleep in separate rooms. Seeing that you can't sleep well, I feel sorry for you, so this matter was decided."
After hearing my husband's words, I was very moved and burst into tears on the spot because my husband was really thinking about me. It was also from then on that time that my husband and I started sleeping in separate rooms, and my health gradually improved. Every night we would hug each other, say good night to each other, and sometimes even talked with each other in voice.
Although sleeping in separate rooms has made us feel distance, it has made our hearts closer, so our relationship will get better and better.
It was also at that time that I realized that If both husband and wife love each other deeply, then sleeping in separate rooms is not necessarily a bad thing.
I felt a lot after listening to their personal feelings.
The couple sleeping in separate rooms does not actually affect the relationship and marriage of the couple, only the relationship between the couple itself,
