A few days ago, a fan left a message online on her parents saying, "Last night, my son got into trouble, and he almost killed grandma!"
The thing is like this:
On night, after grandma went to bed, she suddenly touched a soft thing in the quilt. She was shocked, lifted the quilt, and was stunned. A black and white patterned snake was coiled inside. The old man had a bad heart, but was frightened and fainted on the spot. Fortunately, his family discovered it in time and took her quick-acting heart-saving pills before he slowly recovered.
It turned out that it was a toy snake with a realistic appearance and feel. It was a 4-year-old grandson secretly hid it in the paved quilt while his grandmother was washing.
His original intention was not to hurt grandma, but was for fun , and wanted to see grandma's exaggerated expressions, but the consequences would be so serious.
The child knew that he had caused trouble and was so scared that his little face turned pale. He kept accusing his grandma of "Grandma, I'm sorry, I just want to play with you, I was wrong, I was wrong..."
Many children who are naughty have entered the so-called "people don't like dogs" stage after they reach the age of 4 or 5. They often act clever and do things that do not play according to logic, but some even hurt their lives.
Because of curiosity, several children put the ham sausage into a bottle, and they put their heads in to eat. The dog put their heads in, but found that they could not pull it out. They shook their heads hard to break free.
But that doesn't count. Several children were chasing the stray dog with branches and forcing the dog to run. In the end, the dog staggered to the ground due to extreme oxygen deficiency and died in fear.
Do you ask those children will feel guilty and blame themselves? It doesn't exist, they cheered and said, "It's a exploring thing, and it's very exciting. even shows off to other children: "Look! We killed a stray dog."
Because it's fun, in Ruihuating Community, Changsha, three children took the elevator. A 5-year-old boy pressed the button on the 18th floor. After arriving at the 9th floor, all three children left the elevator. But not long after, the 5-year-old boy took the little girl back to the elevator. Unexpectedly, the guardrail on the 18th floor happened to be damaged. After the little girl arrived at the 18th floor, she subconsciously walked towards the light, stepped on the air, and unfortunately fell to her death.
I felt very painful when I saw the news!
This is only a 5-year-old child who makes such a prank? If there is danger on the top floor, why didn’t the parents tell the 5-year-old child? When the children go out to play, where are the parents?
The little girl is only 2 years old. She was locked in a narrow elevator alone, knocking on the elevator door with her hands desperately, but no one paid attention to it. may be less than a minute from the 9th floor to the 18th floor, but it is her most helpless and tormented time. If you search for news like
, you will find a lot of news, which is particularly heartbreaking.
On August 28, 2014, because the electric drill outside the building was too noisy, a 10-year-old boy watching a cartoon inside the 8th floor was angry and cut the safety rope below the construction worker with a knife, causing him to hang in the air and unable to move. He was rescued safely after the fire brigade was dispatched urgently. When facing the police inquiry, the child said, "I was watching "Pleasant Goat" at that time. The sound of drilling rigs hitting the wall outside was too noisy, so I cut the rope with a knife."
On June 8, 2014, two 8-year-old boys in Jiangyin City threw objects from a high altitude and killed the bride-to-be Wang Fang. After the incident, the two children were frightened and did not dare to take the elevator downstairs, but took the stairs down from the rooftop. When they walked out of the stairs, they also saw Wang Fang lying on the ground. They didn't dare to tell anyone about their throwing things. After playing for a while, they went home. It was not until around 11 o'clock in the evening that the police came to the door and the parents learned that their children were in trouble.
In 2016, at the Beijing Metro Station, a naughty child wanted to eat chicken chops, so he almost pushed a girl out of the subway station.
July 10, 2017, Anhui Huaining County , a 14-year-old child was confiscated by his mother. The mother went out and lit the quilt on the back. The entire house was burned.
There is also a post that was flooded with the screen some time ago.A Zhihu netizen witnessed his sister-in-law who was more than four months pregnant was pushed down by a naughty child who was 1.4 meters tall and weighed 120 pounds. When asked later why he did this, the naughty child didn't even think: "I watched a pregnant woman who fell and miscarriages on TV, and I just wanted to see if she would have miscarriages!"
These naughty children are not just naughty and naughty, but to the point where both man and gods are angry.
Someone once summarized the four major tolerances in China: everyone is here, everyone is dead, and it is still children who are in the New Year. is the only one among them, "it's still the child" that makes people feel weak. When I met
, I could only "take my own bad luck".
was cut off the safety rope and claimed to be unlucky. In the end, my parents compensated for the safety rope.
The bride's family, who was smashed to death, claimed that they were unlucky and sued the two children in court for compensation, but were both refused.
The two-year-old daughter died innocently and claimed to be unlucky. No matter how many children were investigated, she would not be able to come back.
What kind of child will become a naughty child? Will you be so ignorant that you are killing someone?
Hong Kong children's emotional behavior therapist Ye Weilin answered this question from the brain structure on Facebook's Parents Daily:
The important factor that determines whether a child can understand other people's emotions is the prefrontal cortex of the brain.
What does it mean to be able to understand other people’s emotions? It is an ability to think from the other person's perspective, that is, in the process of interpersonal communication, you can understand other people's emotions and ideas, understand other people's positions and feelings, and think and deal with problems from the perspective of others. This ability is called empathy, also known as empathy.
Simplely speaking, whether a child has the ability to empathize depends on when the prefrontal cortex develops and improves.
Generally speaking, the prefrontal cortex begins to develop when the child is two or three years old, and reaches a peak at 6 years old. In other words, a 7-year-old child already has the ability to simply empathize. He understands that hitting someone will hurt, and hitting someone with a stone will hurt.
If we say that a four or five-year-old child "does not like people" is a naughty child, then after the age of 7, he still does all the things he does after empathy. This is no longer a "naughty child" can summarize it, it is blatantly bad!
study shows that 3 to 6 years old is the best time period for children to develop empathy. Below we list 8 methods, where parents can slowly guide and improve their children's empathy.
1. I empathize with your child.
For example, when passing by a very fierce dog, say to your child: "Are you afraid of this dog? It is actually a very docile dog. Although it barks loudly, it is really scary. I will hold you and protect you before it runs over."
2. Talk to him about other people's feelings.
For example, if your child stole other children's toys, tell him at this time: "Look at Chenchen, it's so sad. This is because you took her toys. You return the toys to her, let's choose a toy from this box to play with."
3. Give him advice and tell him how to express empathy.
Chenchen is injured, let’s get him some ice cubes together!
4. Read some picture books about feeling and emotions to him.
5. Set a good example.
Your children will learn the respect, friendship and care you show in the process of getting along with others.
6. Face your child's "negative emotions".
Many times when our children are angry and sad, we can't wait to help them, wanting to keep them away from such emotions. However, these emotions are part of life, and children need to learn how to deal with these emotions. In fact, helping children define and face these emotions can help them solve problems.
For example, the child is angry because you turn off the TV. Parents can say:
I know you are angry when I turn off the TV. You are angry. You really want to watch cartoons. You can be angry. After you are angry, you can come to the kitchen to find me and help me make sandwiches.
7. Tell him why he said "sorry".
When a child does something wrong, we always tell him to say sorry, but children usually don’t know why they say sorry. This approach cannot help children develop empathy. A better approach should let the child pay attention to the emotions of the "victim". Look at Chenchen, she was crying sadly. She kept sitting in the place where you pushed her. Let's comfort her. This can help the child connect two things. I said sorry because I pushed her, which made her sad.
8. Patience.
It takes too time to cultivate empathy. In fact, most children will always pay more attention to me and myself during their growth. Remember, learning to empathize will run through your child's life.
Finally, we want to say that when we face the naughty child’s mistakes, we can also have the backbone to remind ourselves: he is still a child, please don’t let it go.
