In the past two days, the "model dad" Xia Keli divorce has made new progress.
Taiwan media reported that the divorce was filed by Xia Keli.
The reason is "some people want to be artists, and some people want to be mortals."
Combined with this, someone found out that Xia Keli shouted to Huang Jiaqian , "I'm not your assistant", and it seems to further prove that there has been a gap in this relationship between strong women and weak men.
But if you think about it carefully, there is no way to convince people of this reason.
You should know that Huang Jiaqian was already an artist since the beginning of their relationship.
Why did it be fine to make money by using my wife's fame on various variety shows? When it comes to divorce, this becomes the biggest problem in marriage? It seems that it is not that simple to dig into
again.
In December last year, Huang Jiaqian reported to the police in Canada that he was raped by .
People familiar with the matter also revealed that Huang Jiaqian was abused for a long time and was once life-threatening.
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Taiwan media also revealed that Xia Keli cheated on his marriage many times.
combined with Huang Jiaqian's previous saying "not accepting cheating", but later it turned into a helpless mood change of "anything can do anything". It seems that cheating is not a sensation.
Xia Keli has also appeared on many variety shows in Taiwan before.
His image in it is completely different from "Where Are We Going, Dad".
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From this perspective, Xia Keli is not a "victim" image in this marriage.
can only be said that Xia Keli used to rely on his wife's fame and gained the dividends of "model couple" and "model father".
Shakeli is well-known to mainland audiences, mainly because of the third season of "Where Are We Going, Dad" seven years ago.
At that time, he took his daughter to participate in the program in summer, and the highly-watched father and son in the same season were also the father and son.
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Against the backdrop of other novice fathers, he looks particularly outstanding.
The style of other families is:
was assigned to the worst cave, Nuoyi had a calm face.
Instead, Liu Ye collapsed to the point of breaking the voice first and needed Nuoyi to comfort and care.
Kang Kang and his father were "unfamiliar".
The two lived in the same room. Kang Kang ignored Hu Jun's request for high-fives and tried his best to open the door, just trying his best to escape.
Zou Shiming , Xuanxuan was pestering to punch, but the boxing champion just wanted to sleep.
Only Xia Keli and his daughter are talking and laughing, and there are constant topics.
Xhali's nails are full of traces of colored brushes, which are all masterpieces of summer.
Xia Keli also attracted fans of Xia Tian’s education:
The father and daughter have a ringing agreement that when one of them rings the bell, the other one will kiss each other.
The dog Giroba at home died. Xia Keli did not hide it, but took the opportunity to educate Xia death .
play games together to grab the stool, but in summer I want to win lollipops for others but failed.
Xia Keli immediately hugged Xia Tian, who was crying in his arms and comforted him:
"You are already great, even better than those boys!"
never stingy with expressing feelings, nor avoiding life and death issues. He also encourages them when facing setbacks, rather than suppressing education.
All details show that Xia Keli is a very gentle, patient and has his own parenting method.
Xia Keli is not only very gentle to Xia Tian, but also full of kindness and care for others.
When I saw the injured villagers, I went up to help me with the medicine.
Seeing Nuoyi sad because he was separated from his father, he naturally asked Nuoyi to "help" to help Nuoyi integrate into the group.
In short, Xia Keli in the program is an image of a father who knows how to educate children, accompany children, and be kind to others. This makes Xia Keli and his daughter gained a lot of fans in that season of the program.
Xia Keli has become the "perfect father" and "perfect husband" in the hearts of many people, and their family has also become a model of a perfect family overnight.
However, the fact is that there is no perfect person in this world.
Xia Keli may indeed be called a good father.
But if you have watched many variety shows he participated in before, you will find that Xia Keli's image as a "good man" is full of loopholes.
Dating women under the sign of "foreigners", doing all kinds of ambiguous things, and even revealed that they had cheated before divorce.
was on the show and said that she had endless chats with girls, and thought that it was more suitable for talking to women about their worries than boys.
does not shy away from embracing and contacting women, and even open a restaurant with other female friends to greet more female friends.
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Keep your ex-girlfriend's underwear and still put it with your own clothes. The reason is to remind yourself not to make mistakes again.
Xia Keli and Huang Jiaqian had many rumors of divorce.
In 2013, Taiwanese media also revealed that Xia Keli went to the hotel late at night, and the agent at that time said that it was a gathering with the church members.
When the reporter came to Huang Jiaqian, Huang Jiaqian said that Xia Keli went out to discuss business, and the two of them didn't even match the confession.
There are constant troubles in marriage, and the patient and gentle feeling he gives people in the program is also limited by the parenting program.
Previously, she was on " Kangxi is Coming ". Xia Keli often gets excited and cannot control himself when he disagrees.
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Even Xiao S was frightened by Xia Keli's uncertainty, and he would reveal himself if he said he didn't need others to be angry.
I think of Huang Jiaqian in Canada in December last year saying that he was suffering domestic violence.
Huang Jiaqian's friend directly called Xia Keli on Ins to pretend to be crazy and stupid.
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In short, the details that are revealed now are completely opposite to those presented by Xia Keli in previous parenting programs.
The good husband and good father of the past suddenly became an affair man or a domestic violence man overnight.
has to be said, it is really disillusionable.
But in fact, in the program "Where Are We Going, Dad?", which made many cute kids' dads famous, Xia Keli was not the only one who shouted "disillusioned".
Someone has counted that "Where Are We Going, Dad" can be regarded as the program with the highest divorce rate and collapse rate in domestic entertainment.
Dads of the five seasons not only collapsed the house, but also had different methods of collapse:
Falling lightly means disregarding the family, inaction, and wholeheartedly seeking the boy's treasure.
is so bad that he has committed crimes ranging from alcoholism, beating a woman to cheating multiple times.
For example, the "ageless male god" who returned to the public's attention two days ago due to a car accident Lin Zhiying .
When Jimmy Lin appeared on "Where Are We Going, Dad?", he actually rarely filmed, but taking Kimi, which can be called "mini version of Jimmy Lin", to participate in the program, which still made many people shout " Ye Youth Returns to ".
However, the filters of idol dramas cannot save Jimmy Lin in reality.
Entering reality, the audience suddenly discovered that the good father and good man Lin Zhiying created in the show is actually a straight male cancer who takes care of his boys.
In April last year, Jimmy Lin posted on Weibo that he "Choose a Boy's Golden Scoop", and said proudly that he had given birth to three boys with this shovel.
After being questioned about favoring boys over girls, Lin Zhiying could only refute it with a painless saying "It's the same for boys and girls."
has made people disillusioned. Before Lin Zhiying's family participated in " Mother-in-law and Mom ", the atmosphere of the Lin family was exposed inadvertently, which was even more feudal to the point of being shocking.
Chen Ruoyi wore an ordinary pair of jeans shorts. As a result, her mother-in-law looked at it for a few times and said, "Do you want to change it?"
Chen Ruoyi quickly stood up to change her clothes the next second, which shows that she has been asked for many clothes in her clothes.
. Lin Zhiying, who was standing beside him, had a look of watching the show, and then echoed his mother's statement, asking his wife to wear a more formal dress. In the
program, Jimmy Lin is also working hard to create a good image of her husband.
takes the initiative to deliver water and invite the whole family to go shopping together.
But Chen Ruoyi's first reaction was not a surprise, but said on the show that he felt that he was so considerate today.
Both of them revealed that the couple's relationship presented by Jimmy Lin on the show has many elements of show.
can only be said that idol dramas are fake, and it is true that the family needs to inherit the throne.
However, Lin Zhiying is committed to seeking boy treasures and the ultimate feudal crime, which is relatively light compared to other fathers who have collapsed their houses.
, such as , Caoge .
has been in the industry for many years, and there are so many news about Cao Ge's drinking and causing trouble that he can even make a list:
held a birthday party in 2006. Because he was too excited and excited, he kicked the restaurant sign after drinking too much and sewed more than 20 stitches;
2007 birthday party, he lost his composure after drinking and started beating people;
2009, he fought with his friend side field for no reason on the streets of Hong Kong, from a taxi to the street.
After this incident, Cao Ge was sentenced to twelve months of obedience (referring to the court requiring the parties to not break the law for a certain period of time).
But Cao Ge did not converge because of this, and this kind of news still appears once a while.
In 2013, Cao Ge first lost his composure after drinking at Jimmy Lin’s wedding, yelled and even attacked the people who came to persuade him;
Later, he got drunk at a friend’s performance and went on stage to grab the microphone, cursed and raised his middle finger, and was muffled and mosaiced so that the face couldn’t see clearly.
In fact, after the big fight with Jimmy Lin’s wedding, Cao Ge held a press conference and publicly stated that he would resolutely quit drinking and donate tens of millions to charity organizations if he drinks again.
It’s a pity that it’s useless to hold multiple press conferences.
The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change.
In March this year, Cao Ge started to go crazy again and directly called out Lan Xinmei on social platforms, asking her not to take her wife out to fool.
As a result, even the word "know" was written incorrectly as "human is". I guess this time I was also drunk.
forced his wife Wu Suling to come to the door to apologize and wipe his butt.
Last month, Taiwanese media revealed that Wu Suling brought a pair of children to her new home, and it was very comfortable to go shopping with her friends, and it seemed that she had separated from Cao Ge.
After hearing too many stories about the wolf coming, Wu Suling also began to wake up and finally decided to escape.
There is another Guo Tao who is obsessed with "toxic masculinity".
After "Where Are We Going, Dad", Guo Tao's popularity reached an unprecedented height. He also took the opportunity to publish his autobiography " The Power of Father ", trying to use his own experience to tell everyone how to cultivate a manly spirit.
And the first thing he practiced was: hitting women. In the autobiography of
, Guo Tao wrote a lot of his emotional experiences in his early years.
Once, my girlfriend who was dating started having sex with Guo Tao at the school gate.
He felt very embarrassed, so he pulled the girl into the car and slapped the other person, but the other person really became quiet.
So Guo Tao learned a "truth" from this experience: he cannot blindly tolerate a woman, he has to give her a bottom line so that she will be honest.
At first glance, it is a bit hard to tell whether this is treating a woman as a human being or a pet.
In addition, Guo Tao has many straight male cancer remarks in his book, including but not limited to:
"My standard for measuring women is gentle, kind, respectful, frugal, and concession."
"The appearance will age, but actresses may cuckold you at home at any time."
"The common problem of actresses is that they are both troublesome and troublesome."
is said to be a parenting book on how to educate boys. In fact, every word and sentence are full of prejudice and disrespect towards women.
Fortunately, stone was not poisoned.
Compared with Guo Tao, stone has more likable highlights in the program.
Shitou was only 6 years old when he was on the program, but he was already warm and gentle at a young age.
cares about and encourages Sen Die when his younger brothers and sisters are afraid of walking at night, like a born big brother.
In short, because the cute kids were too cute at that time, Guo Tao exposed the problems of parenting in parenting seemed to have been forgiven or ignored.
In other words -
Dads did not collapse the house today, but they were no longer called "good dads" at that time, but we didn't realize it until today.
Of course, this has a lot to do with the overall environment at that time.
"Where Are We Going, Dad" was the first program in China that focused on father parenting.
's fresh combination of "star dad + child" has made the audience focus most of their attention on celebrities, greatly satisfying the audience's desire to peek at celebrities and their families.
Many viewers have seen the true side of celebrities who are different from the perfect image on the screen.
They even sometimes get dirty and emotionally collapsed, and are extremely embarrassed. This contrast makes the audience excited.
When fathers take care of their children, they will also find that celebrities are like themselves when they are parents, with all kinds of mistakes and omissions, all of which are asking questions. Question.
plus the children have their own cuteness. The unskill of fathers when taking care of their children has become a joke, and a smile will pass.
Until these years, fathers have frequently collapsed houses, which makes people see through the truth behind the filter.
In this way, the collapse of fathers is also a good thing.
When the "cute kids" filter disappears, the warm narrative fails, many people suddenly wake up -
It turns out that we were right at that time. The understanding of intimacy and parenting is all stuck at a very old level.
For example, there were many small details in the show at that time:
Wang Yuelun bargaining for groceries, and the more you talk, the more expensive it is. The boss said 4 yuan, and he returned the price "four yuan and five elements";
barrage and laughed "We don't understand the artists."
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Wang Yuelun put clothes on Wang Shiling , but the child's belly Most of the time was exposed outside, but Wang Shiling took off her clothes silently.
However, after the show's fancy words rendering, this detail seemed to have a full comedy effect.
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and Sen Die. Because the first episode was not suitable for the recording, Sen Die kept collapsing and crying. Tian Liang coaxed her for a long time and didn't see her.
I felt that the audience across the country were dominated by the fear of Sen Die crying, and empathized with . Tian Liang was helpless.
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But now, I think, responsible for buying three meals a day for the family, taking care of the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and solving the children's unreasonable crying... The bad answers delivered by these celebrity fathers are actually the most ordinary daily routine of a mother.
Many people felt at that time that the "happiness" of cute kids taking on their fathers in reverse, and the so-called "cultivation" of the so-called good fathers working hard to advance.
but ignored it. Whether it is "hilarious" or "cultivation", it is because these fathers have been overly missing in the provision of housework, parenting, and emotional value in the past.
The stronger the sense of cultivation, the more it proves the depth of the previous lack.
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In fact, at the beginning, "Where Are We Going, Dad" was also created to focus on the absence of fathers in parenting.
program name not only means that the child wants to travel with his father, but also like the mother's roar during parenting: "Where are the disappearing fathers? ”
Huang Ali teases
on the talk show, but in fact, it goes against the other side - the
program not only weakens the discussion of the absence of father in the family with warmth, but the ultimate popularity gives people a more like a reward for "father's position".
They only took care of their children for a few days, tied their hair and cooked, and welcomed the second spring of their career with their reputation as a "good dad".
Summer evaluation Xia Keli is a "perfect dad"
illusion, giving people the illusion that fathers have improved their participation in parenting.
But in fact, it is emphasized that it is still the interactive, proximity, responsibility and other auxiliary care behaviors of good fathers.
The father still joined the housework and childcare with a "help" attitude.
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From this perspective, the standards for becoming a good mother and becoming a good father are completely different.
Become a good father. Just get out of the situation of "missing father" and you can be called "perfect" and get rewards from it.
But it is too difficult to be a good mother, just like the name of another mother parenting program - "Mom is Superman".
is not enough to become "superman". Once there are any problems with the family, it is the mother who is condemned.
This reminds me of the Korean parenting program " Superman is Back " - the same program where the child and his father spend 48 hours together.
One of the families has a pair of twins Shu Yan Shu Jun.
The mother of the twins, Wen Zhengyuan, was pushed to the forefront many times, and was questioned for falsification of her education; and then she was criticized by neighbors because her children often made noises.
noise is a common cause of the family, but the titles of each article all say "The Perfect Mom's Character collapses."
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The obvious double standards emphasize the mother's responsibility and ignore her efforts.
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Engels once said: "Modern individual families are based on public or hidden women's housework slavery."
Labor is divided into paid labor and unpaid labor.
blogger @The answer is as follows. Statistics: After marriage, women's free labor hours have soared sharply, reaching a maximum of 8 hours, twice that of men.
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The labor volume can be converted according to the market price in Shenzhen, and the annual salary can be up to 120,000-140,000 yuan. Of course they can't get the money for
, and the value of labor is often not recognized because of its gratuity, and everything is covered up by the names of "love" and "motherhood".
This reminds me of the blogger @Quanhehe, Quanhehe made an agreement with her husband before getting pregnant that she would not participate in care after giving birth.
She did not change a diaper later, but did the pressure fall on her husband's shoulders?
does not have it, and the responsibility for all this was passed on to my mother-in-law.
The labor in the family is still borne by women in intergenerational relationships.
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From this perspective, does the "mother's punishment" only punish "mother"?
is of course not.
were punished, and the tied grandparents, husbands kidnapped by "toxic masculinity", and full-time dads who were stigmatized...
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"Where Are We Going, Dad?" The collapse of the fathers in "Where Are We Going, Dad" exposed, of course, not just the problems of the star dads in the show.
is a common problem in the division of labor in our modern families, as stated in "Female from Stop":
"Social exists A side mainly based on politics, economy, time, employment, etc., and B side of illness, parenting, care, illness, and disability.
Once pregnant, the wife must constantly go between B side and A side. After the child is born, the wife must always keep B side.
Husband only needs to occasionally look at B side, but in fact she can stay on A side."
"Where Are We Going, Dad" did try to break such an old narrative at the time.
Now it seems that the so-called "break" is just a look.
The real fathers are still "absent".
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