Taylor Si was interviewed by the American version of "ELLE" ˊ and shared several suggestions for women (photo/ELLE US)
[China Yang.com Online News] Taylor Si, a singer born in 1989, is heading towards 30 years old this year. In the past, she sang "Love Story" (love story), with the words full of longing for love. After that, she suffered various public attacks and wrote "Look What You Made Me Do" (can't bear it anymore), boldly accusing those netizens who were talking behind their backs.
Along the way, everyone witnessed Taylor's change and growth, from a girl to a woman, from a little princess to a female warrior. Recently, Taylors accepted an exclusive interview with the American version of "ELLE", especially for women to write down several important things she perceived on her 30-year-old life journey.
Taylors is about to be 30 years old this year and has a new understanding of life ▲ (Photo/youtube)
1. Partition noise
Taylors believes that social networks are great, they can get close to the distance between people, but relatively let the brain stuff many bad things. She said: "Now I only post for fans and friends, but I will turn off the comments. I am training myself. Your self-esteem does not need the praise of social websites to comfort it."
2. No matter when, being good to everyone will harm you
From childhood to adulthood, we have been trained to be kind and polite girls, but often such kindness will be used by other uneasy and kind people to become your regret. Taylors said: "Grow a little bit of a bone, believe in your intuition, and fight back like a snake. Of course, it is only when others step on you."
3. Keep trying and fail! This is normal
Most people think that only young people have the right to fail. Once they are over 30 years old, many people will lose the courage to change, whether it is to change a new relationship or change their jobs. But Taylors believes that sometimes it is a good thing to mess up everything and take risks, "because you will definitely learn something, of course, it's better if you are still in your twenties!"
4. Don't hate the fat on your body
Taylors said: "I told myself that a little fat brings better curves and shiny hair. I know everyone is working hard to diet, but it is very dangerous if you are too hot. There is no shortcut. I train myself to accept my body every day."
5. Stay away from drama
When I was young, talking about a passionate love was like writing novels and filming idol dramas. In fact, our life does not require so much drama. In the end, we will always realize that peace is blessing. In this regard, Taylors said: "You only have so much time and energy. If someone is hurting you and sucking you dry, then blocking a number is not difficult."
6. Don't let the outside world's opinions change your life choices.
As an international superstar, naturally many people will point fingers at Taylors' circle of friends and feelings. To put it nicely, it is to give advice, and to put it badly, it is to interfere. "For a while, the one-sided views of netizens can easily affect my interpersonal choices, but now I have my own trade-off system, and I know what I want."
7. If you hurt those who are heart-to-hearted but do not seek rewards, you should apologize.
We often unconsciously hurt important people. Since we know that being unblocked will inevitably bring harm, should we think about whether we will attack others before saying a word? Taylors said: "Even if it is unintentional, you have to apologize. Don't make excuses for yourself when you say sorry. Learn to apologize sincerely."
8. In sexual harassment cases, I will trust the victims
"After experiencing my own cases, I will trust the victims, I understand how much humiliation they need to face when speaking with their hands. We speak because we have to do this, otherwise the same thing will happen to more people."
9. When the tragedy happens to acquaintances, but you don't know how to deal with these things, it is OK to say "I don't know what to say".
When a friend is injured, we sometimes get angry, fire some hindsight, and ask him: "I didn't tell you not to..." or something like that.But in fact, many times, we must know how to be silent at the right time. Taylors said: "In the darkest moments, your support is the most critical."
10. When you are anxious to draw conclusions about others, first understand them!
Here I directly replicate Taylors' words: "The first impression is not all. It is true that someone can give people a deep impression immediately, but a person's inner self needs time to discover it. For example: Is he reliable? Will it appear when you need it? Will you treat your cat like a human? This is the answer given by time."
Taylors's believes that people often evaluate themselves through online comments, but this is not necessary (Photo/Eonline)
11. If you have childhood scars, try to repair it
When Taylors was a child, she was bullied and was very afraid of the feeling of loneliness, which led to her fondness for making friends very much after becoming famous, but occasionally she still thinks about the moments of lack of love in the past. Taylors admitted: "Later, I learned to shout, post photos on the roof, enjoy the friendship with my current sisters, and no longer think about people's opinions. It is important to find the scar and stitch it before being occupied by the shadows." 12. It is unhealthy to play mental games. "Whether love or friendship is a cocoon, not expressing one's feelings directly to others is a cocoon. No one can read the heart. Those who truly love you want to know your feelings. This is life, not chess." 13. Understand the gap between "lifelong friends" and "ordinary friends". "Maybe someone will accompany you for the rest of your life, maybe they will only accompany you for a while. This is very sad, but your interpersonal relationships will grow up with you, friendship will leave, and memories will be forever." 14. Fight fairly with the person you love "Don't you want to hurt each other in a quarrel, so it's better to turn a tense argument into an opportunity to listen to each other's thoughts, which will offset your sense of shame caused by your fear of "losing the quarrel." 15. Forgive yourself. Taylors said that she would punish herself at the age of five and lock herself in the room. "It's still the case. I will exile myself, isolate myself, etc. This is a mistake, and I must forgive myself for making the wrong choices, whether it is to believe the wrong person or to fall a dog to eat shit in front of the masses." She said: "Living in the sun, let everything go with the wind!" Editor in charge: Yue Shoucai This article was compiled and published by "China Yang.com Online". Reprinting of
