divorce cases have always been around, but recently, news about divorces from Taiwanese celebrities has become more and more frequent, which also echoes a fact that the divorce rate has been on the rise in my country and even Asia.
Last year, two famous couples divorced in mid-December alone, including the science wife and the science teacher, and Wang Leehom and Li Jinglei. Their divorce was reported by the media, but in fact, divorce is actually "very common" in ordinary people's lives. . Divorce is the impact on children. As parents, we should pay attention to . After all, even if we cannot be a husband and wife for a lifetime, we must be a parents for a lifetime.
A study (Hindin, 2013) investigated the impact of "parent divorce" on "Chinese children's happiness". The researchers used structural equation model (SEM) to test the Chinese theoretical model, and the sample included 940 Chinese children aged 6-16. The happiness of children from divorced families was compared with that of children from both parents and single-parent families. The results show that the discriminatory attitude of society towards divorce and single-parent families has a strong negative impact on children's sense of happiness.
1. What is the most common cause of divorce?
The main problems with divorce are infidelity, drug/alcoholism or physical abuse, the inability to communicate with each other anymore, or one party has control issues.
1. Commitment of lack of partnership
2. Unfaithfulness
3. Conflict or excessive quarrel
4. Domestic violence and substance abuse
2. Five stages of divorce:
The stage of divorce is similar to The five stages of sadness, The following is Dowd Description of them:
1. Denied: does not accept divorce, it is a defense mechanism.
2. Anger: suppresses emotions in the previous stage, and emotions are released at this stage and transformed into hatred and blame.
3. Bargaining: Couples who have experienced divorce often look back on their marriage, trying to take time to rest and restore their old life.
4. Depression: It is the most difficult stage, usually the longest-lasting stage.
5. Accept: live in peace with reality, and you can see hope in the future and feel regaining freedom and liberation. acceptance does not mean that all negative emotions disappear , but people will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Remember, sadness is wavy, not linear journey .
3. How does divorce affect the child?
Divorce usually destroys a family and its daily life. Children need to be guaranteed that they will still receive the love of both parents and will not be abandoned. What hurts children is usually not a real divorce, but seeing their parents quarrel.
4. Divorce will bring emotional turmoil to the whole family
Especially for children, the situation may be very terrible, confusing and frustrating. Psychologically, Divorce will have different effects on children of different ages . Children of different ages interpret divorce, which will also produce corresponding emotional disorder .
1. Children around kindergarten often find it difficult to understand why have to shuttle between two families. They may be worried: If their parents stop loving each other one day, then their parents may also stop loving them, This will cause them to "insecurity" in the future.
2. Primary school students may worry that divorce is their fault . They may worry that they are acting improperly, or they may think that they have done something wrong, which will lead them to "misinterpretation" or "over-blame themselves" in their future emotional emotions.
3. Teens may feel very angry about divorce and the changes they cause . They may blame their parents or resent one of their parents because of the breakdown of their families. This will make them more impulsive in future emotional processing and easily angered.
However, every family is unique. If there is less quarrel and pressure at home after divorce, then the child will actually feel relieved and relieved because of the separation of his parents.
