text | Miss Bai
Every paragraph is about to end, and there will be more or less omens.
Whether it is a couple or a lover, when these three signs begin to appear, if they are not saved in time, the relationship will get worse and worse, and finally end up in vain.
Perfunctory
Two people have been together for a long time, and their relationship will eventually go from passion to dull, but dullness and unfamiliarity are different things.
When perfunctory becomes the norm, the distance between the heart will be further and further.
When you have a peaceful conversation during the day, the other party is completely disagreeable, or responds perfunctorily without listening carefully; when communicating during quarrels, the other party is used to avoiding problems, or dealing with them without caring, just to avoid giving you a chance to continue.
He neither cares about what you are busy with, what you are happy with, or what you are suffering with, nor does he intend to make you care about his affairs. There is a conflict between
. The first reaction is not to respond to you or explain and communicate with you, but to feel irritable and want reasons to make excuses and perfunctory.
You live in the same place, but you are more like two people living in their respective worlds.
I don’t know what happened to the other party recently, nor do I know what the other party is thinking. The most annoying thing is that even if you want to understand, the other party is not willing to give you a chance, and thinks that your kindness is interfering with his freedom.
I have been perfunctory and I can’t communicate seriously. If I continue, I will not be far from fate.
Cold War to the end
Whether it is between husband and wife or lovers, what you are afraid of is not quarrel, but that is that you can’t quarrel, but the cold war to the end.
Cold war has always been the most harsh thing in love.
Some people explain this method very well. They think it is giving each other time to calm down so as not to cause greater unpleasantness.
But the big difference between calmness and cold war is that people who really want to be calm will not ignore the problem and will not deliberately escape.
People who make good use of the Cold War choose to be silent, ignore, face or talk about it.
I always think that after arguing, as long as you don’t mention each other and say one sentence ten days and half a month later, it’s like it’s over.
The cold war once and twice can be forgiven. As the number of times increases, people's hearts will become numb.
You ignore me and don’t want to solve the problem seriously with me. Then there is no need for me to lick my face to coax you. People have tempers and can’t tolerate it.
You can be cold and violent because you are in a bad mood. Then I will follow the same thing. After all, if you don’t cherish it first, it doesn’t make sense to persevere alone.
In the cold wars, you will inevitably be frustrated directly, and your feelings will only gradually be erased, and in the end, nothing will be left.
Restraint
Who to choose to be with is actually for the word "comfort".
Only when you get along with each other is comfortable, you don’t need to please each other, you don’t need to cater to each other, and you don’t need to be wronged. Only such two people can last for a long time.
One of the obvious feelings is: being together and being depressed.
When we are together, our hearts are filled with heavy burdens, and there are always various pressures that cannot be relieved. It seems that only by staying away from each other can we get a little bit of relaxation and pleasure.
The other party will not consider any problem from your perspective; I don’t know when it starts, and the atmosphere will be awkward and weird if you don’t speak together.
starts to care about you, and his thoughts also need to rely on you to guess, and he is not honest enough. If you live together for a long time, it will only suppress and suffer.
Wearing an inappropriate pair of shoes will make people's heels bleed into a river; being with someone you are suppressed will eventually make you suffer.
If you try to ease the past and repair it, but the other party still doesn't buy it, then this fate will be the end.
Whether it is a couple or a lover, these signs will occur before the relationship between the two ends, and everything is traceable.
As the party involved, it is naturally clear that.
If possible, try to reconcile, resolve the misunderstandings, and pull back the feelings; if it really cannot be done, it is better to stop the loss in time to avoid greater harm.
✎Author: Miss Bai, a working woman, writes warm and powerful words, share interesting and meaningful life with you, accompany you to grow up, and accompany you to be strong. The new book " Lives the way you want " is being exclusively pre-sale on Dangdang.com.
