A sentence that young people like to talk about is: "I am a social phobia patient." uses this as a reason to not socialize.
But in fact, according to my observation, many people are not willing to be fat people, but just because they don’t know how to be social. If you tell social phobia patients a secret that can solve most of the troubles in interpersonal communication and make you live a easier life, would you still want to try ?
In the Eastern country of Korea, where the mysterious power of the cult is flooded, there is such a magical concept. is called nunchi (눈치), pronounced as noon-qi.
Originally it was just a common saying among Koreans, but it has become popular abroad recently. Many people believe that Nunchi is the "super power" of the Korean people, and they pass it on as a "mind reading technique": People who have nunchi can be as easy as opening a plug-in, and can easily become a social prince/princess in seconds.
How magical is this nunchi?
Want to make a rapid progress in your studies and have a smooth career? I hope to make friends with great confidants and play together to make a lot of money? Fantasy of having a sweet love and reaching the peak of life? ...All these satisfy you, as long as you master the essence of nunchi.
People with nunchi can not only better choose a partner in close relationships, but also make friends with partners who are happy at work. It can make the boss look at you with admiration; protect you from malicious harm from others. nunchi can also reduce social anxiety and let others stand on your side, even if they don't understand why.
After reading these legendary benefits, your little mind may be full of big doubts: What is nunchi? Is it true that it is so evil?
In order to avoid being fooled, the newspaper sister went to check some information and found that it was not the same as the mind-reading ability of the vampire Edward, and it had nothing to do with supernatural power .
First of all, according to Wikipedia's definition, nunchi is an art that aims to make progress and can quickly understand what others think and feel.
Koreans call nunchi "the advantage of the grassroots class" because you don't need to know the exact person, or be born with a golden spoon in it, and you can learn to use nunchi. It can become your secret weapon. Even if you are poor, you can use it to improve your life level through training.
YouTube two Korean bloggers told the meaning of the word nunchi in a video.
They explained that in Korean, nun means eyes. So the meaning of this word is that uses your eyes and other senses to figure out what is happening around you and how others feel.
They gave an example. For example, if you see a cake on your friend’s desk, you may ask, “Can you taste it full?” This is typical without nunchi; and if you say: “Oh, is it your birthday today!” ’s reaction is the manifestation of nunchi.
They also said that if you have nunchi, it means you are a very social person. has no nunchi, it is nunchi eoptta (눈치 없다), social idiots are.
Emm... Doesn't this sound like what Chinese people often say about observing words and expressions, do you have the ability to see them?
They said again, if you ask if others think so, you won’t be nunchi. Because nunchi refers to a natural and natural reaction. Some people are born, while others have to practice thousands of times to have it.
Korean society is a high-context culture. In other words, in interpersonal communication, only a small part of what is expressed in language. When others talk to you, you should judge how to answer based on the environment and background of the time and contact various character relationships. knows how to speak Chinese and maintains a united, tense, serious and lively atmosphere.
I was thinking that this might be comparable to the difficulty of guessing my girlfriend’s thoughts every day? It's quite hard, no wonder many people are afraid of socializing.
Because Korean people often say this word, after widespread use and dissemination, many nunchi-related phrases and idiomatic sentences have appeared.
For example, "눈치 있다" (nunchi itta): stays sharp, smooth and sophisticated. There is another word similar to and it is called "눈치 있는 사람" (nunchi itneun saram), which means a person with nunchi, who knows how to judge the situation, is very smooth, and can quickly understand the situation around him.
A system is smooth and everyone doesn’t explain it clearly. As a result, Koreans are forced to develop strong understanding and empathy (in real life).
Most people are learning hard, a small number are beneficiaries of mastering this skill, while some people are completely unable to get it. In order to make everyone more nunchi and meet their daily social needs, there are quite a lot of tutorials online. Let’s take a look at:
. When you get to a strange environment, don’t know what to do, so just observe how others do it.
Stop before entering a social occasion and observe the surrounding environment carefully ; when entering the room, glance at the people around you, are you talking loudly or talking in a low voice? It is usually impossible to do it at their pace. Imagine having a meal in a high-end restaurant and smacking your lips. This is obviously no nunchi.
. It is also similar in work. For example, the meeting has been held until noon, and you still ask a lot of questions. This will not make you respectful, but will only win the eyes of your colleagues, because the cafeteria will be queued again after a while... should think about whether your actions have caused trouble to the other party.
. You can also see more reactions and performances of the other person when talking on a date, which will help you understand his true thoughts or hidden meanings.
If you are gathering with a group of people, you don’t have to judge how the person you are interested in treats you, but look at how he interacts with everyone else, so that you can observe many opinions and tendencies that you cannot see normally.
includes the same between couples. A good partner must know how to look at the other person’s reaction, and will satisfy the other person’s needs as much as possible, bringing a harmonious atmosphere between the two of them.
and other similar things are actually not very difficult for ordinary people. They just use a little snack and will benefit themselves in all aspects of life.
Nunchi theory + practice, which allows social novices to learn how to engage in interpersonal communication, is a guiding method to help social terrorist patients. No wonder some people call it Korean mind reading technique, which can help you reach the peak of your life.
However, on the other hand, the word nunchi also reflects the Koreans' caution. They should observe the words and expressions of elders and power people in order to make themselves more adapted to society, get promoted and raise salary, find a partner, and have a smooth life...
As China with the same high-context culture, there are many parts that do not use words in daily life, so observing the words and expressions is also a compulsory course for everyone. Whether or not has nunchi is sometimes even more important than real ability. This is also its bad side.
Especially in social occasions, if you are always ready to read out the other person’s implicit meaning, you may feel a lot of pressure, right? It’s better to say it openly.
, it’s so tiring to think about it like this, it’s better to be a fat guy and fall off quickly!
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