article: Zhang Yongwen
Human development is not a "continuous development" like a pig that turns into a big pig, a calf that turns into a big cow; it is more like a "stage development" like a caterpillar that turns into a butterfly, and a tadpole that turns into a frog. Toddler period is the transition period from infants to children, just as children must go through adolescence to adults, it is the first rebellious period in life.
Understand the development characteristics of children, and you will not expect two-year-old children to share and three-year-old children to control their temper. Reducing unrealistic expectations can lead to life with fewer setbacks.
1. Children’s resistance is not difficult to deal with.
He is trying to challenge and collide with the authoritative adult world in his heart. He is a very brave and experimental child.
2. Children lie not dishonestly.
The child will lie, indicating that he is beginning to realize that his mind is different from others and has taken a big step forward in development. Moreover, toddlers’ deception is usually not malicious, but just to evade punishment, and parents do not have to fall into moral judgment too quickly.
3. Keep asking "why", but it is not annoying .
likes to ask why, because children begin to understand causality. This interesting discovery made him want to know more. But sometimes the overwhelming problem is not entirely because of curiosity, but because of trying to attract attention. Parents can occasionally ask back: "Why do you think it is?" to help him think for himself.
4. The child is too clingy, not that he is not independent enough.
Learning independence is a long process, and each child has a different trajectory. Xie Mengchen, associate professor of the Department of Infant Insurance of Hongguang University of Science and Technology, said that children will "stick" to caregivers and children like to be with you.
5. It is easy to get angry, not because of the low tolerance for frustration.
Sanzhisan cultural and educational institution CEO Ge Hui believes that the child is frustrated when he cannot complete his work, and said that he cares and parents can use this opportunity to help him complete his work and face setbacks. If the child doesn’t care about anything and doesn’t feel frustrated at all, it’s also quite nerve-wracking!
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