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Children and parents are the closest people in the world. After the mother experienced the hardship of ten months of pregnancy, she then experienced the pain of childbirth to bring the baby into this world.
Therefore, mothers' love for their children is heavier, and they want to give all their love to their children. They don't want the child to suffer any grievances, and they are very close to them. 3
However, no matter what, whether it is the child, the parents or the man and the woman, a certain distance should be maintained. Parents should not define this boundary outside of family affection.
Therefore, there is the saying "children avoid mothers, and daughters avoid fathers", that is, between parents of the opposite sex and children, if parents themselves do not pay attention to the distance between children, resulting in crossing the boundary of family affection, the child's concept of gender will be very blurred, so that they do many things that parents regret and cannot recover.
12岁断奶、15岁还同床睡，狄莺的育儿观，“亲手”流产自己的孙子
中国台湾的一位女星狄莺，她曾因出演《包青天》被大家熟知，当时也算是红过一阵，后来结婚便逐渐息影，在家相夫教子，
不过，狄莺这样的生活并没有持续很久, because of something "popular", it can be considered "becoming popular when I am old".
It turns out that after Di Ying got married, she gave birth to her son at the age of 37. Sun Anzuo's arrival is extremely difficult. Di Ying experienced three artificial inseminations, and finally, she was already an extremely old mother. She gave birth to her son with her name. She loved her very much, and even expressed her love in a more radical way. She once He said: "My son was weaned at the age of 12. He had to hold me every day, touch his chest before falling asleep, and sleep with me in separate beds at the age of 15."
When he said these words, Di Ying was full of pride, but his son quickly "slapped" his mother in the face. Because Sun Anzuo could not distinguish the boundaries from women, he had a relationship with an internet celebrity named Misha, and the woman became pregnant. Later, the woman had an abortion for Sun Anzuo,
However, Sun Anzuo is not only Misha. When he had sex with Misha, there was also an internet celebrity with an 8-year-old girlfriend. Later, all of them were managed by his mother Di Ying, and it was finally settled.
In fact, it was not only this time that Sun Anzuo did something wrong to let his mother wipe her butt. When he was studying in the United States, Sun Anzuo was arrested and imprisoned for hiding guns and intimidating . It was also because of his mother Sun Anzuo that he was able to escape.
analysis
everyone says "love your son is like killing your son", and Di Ying made a good interpretation. In his son, Di Ying is very attentive and will respond to his requests. His love for his son has long become spoiled. His son grew up in spoiling, so he naturally does not understand the height of the world.
Moreover, normal children are basically weaned around 2 years old. After being able to sleep for a long time, they no longer sleep with their parents. Sun Anzuo is just the opposite. He still eats breastfeeding at the age of 12 and sleeps with his mother at the age of 15.
This confuses the boundaries and differences between men and women for children. Even if the child always sleeps with his mother, it is easy to cause precocious puberty due to hormones, and all of this is caused by mothers.
Therefore, parents should give their children the correct education
1. Parents should know that spoiling is not love, it is harm, so when children make mistakes, they should be punished, and rewards when doing things, and stick to their own principles;
2. Parents of the opposite sex should know how to "avoid suspicion" to their children. It is not how far apart the children should keep, but how parents set a boundary for their children, such as just kissing their foreheads and faces, not changing clothes in front of their children, etc.;
3. Many Chinese parents have a common problem that is "sexuality is scared", and it is difficult to talk about sex education . In fact, this is not necessary. Parents can discuss sex education with their children and tell their children how to protect themselves and others.
Message from a cute mother:
There will be many uncertain things in the process of a child's growth. However, if parents set rules for their children when they are young and set moral boundaries and bottom lines for their children in their hearts, then the child will also stick to their own bottom lines. In short, there are many ways to express love to their children, and "spoiling" is not the best.
After reading this article, what do you think of Di Ying’s parenting view? Do you have such an example around you? Welcome to leave a message for discussion!
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