0 The sea of people is vast, and being able to meet is a kind of fate. If you can get together and form a marriage, it is even more destined to entangle.
As Fudan University Dr. Hailan once said: "Among the 7 billion people in the world, no matter what the reason, it is amazing to meet this person."
It's a pity that many people can't keep such a magical fate and they parted as they walk.
When a person reaches middle age, his marriage has gone through the initial period of passionate love, and those sweets have become tasteless in the calm daily life. So, wars without gunpowder gradually began.
Family relationship, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, husband-wife relationship, sister-in-law relationship, relative and friend relationship... Every problem will affect the stability of this small family.
Marriage is the deepest understanding of the two people. Love is just to constantly show its beautiful side under the driving force of hormones.
Therefore, the three views, character, interpersonal relationships, etc. exposed in marriage make some couples destined to be unable to go to the end and cannot work together to grow old together.
The book "The Meaning of Marriage" says: "Even if we found the right person at the beginning, the other party will change soon."
Many times, it is not actually the change of people, but the pieces of life, the firewood, rice, oil and salt gather together, breaking the filter at the beginning, allowing everyone to reveal their truest side.
When our goals and steps are inconsistent, there will be cracks in the relationship between husband and wife; when our moral bottom lines are different, we will part ways after encountering betrayal; when we are unwilling to compromise with each other due to accumulated trivial matters, we will also usher in the day of separation...
There are too many possibilities, which prevent many couples from reaching the end of their marriage and unable to fulfill their original vows.
Marriage emphasizes overall balance. Once our ideas, pursuits and bottom lines are inconsistent, the problems exposed in life will be difficult to heal.
In the TV series " Wife's Choice ", the wife Candy Cube and her husband Gao Jiawei have no job for five years after marriage, and they have no children. It is equivalent to the fact that the candy cube was raised by her husband for five years at home, with no housework to handle and no children to take care of.
In fact, there are problems in every marriage, and the key is how to deal with it.
On the surface, the relationship between the two is very stable. The husband provides a sufficient material foundation for the candy cube and pays to let the candy cube's parents go out for a trip and hold a grand birthday party for her...
And candy cube enjoys all this with peace of mind.
Unfortunately, Gao Jiawei still found another woman outside, a young girl, his female assistant.
From the perspective of moral standards, Gao Jiawei is undoubtedly a problem and is the main fault party. But reasonably, the candy cube also has her own problems.
candy cube is willing to give up work and want to enjoy a comfortable life at home. So gradually, she talked to her husband and said something different, and the two people's interest became increasingly different.
Candy Cube never thought of changing all this. Of course, she has taken measures against her husband's media industry and the beauty around her. But her measures are not wise, and she adopts a "blocking" approach instead of working hard on herself.
Although she was able to make a quick decision after discovering her husband cheating, she returned to her decisive appearance before marriage. However, it was too late, and although she successfully punished her husband in the end, it was not a good ending.
Women, no matter what they get in marriage, no matter what kind of harm they suffer in marriage, they are the ones they should not give up.
, a marriage with inconsistent pace, is likely to be in harmony with one's appearance. Even if you don’t divorce, the fewer and fewer common language between the two will make this marriage boring.
Marriage really doesn’t have to be vigorous, the rich love is accumulated in a life that flows through bit by bit. And those regretful loves are like a flower breaking by a root, it is difficult to bloom a new flower.
It is easy to fall in love but difficult to stay together. The relationship that is destined to be out of date is all because of one party’s lack of cherishing or the inaction of one party. In this way, the relationship between husband and wife will gradually be exhausted.
In fact, at every stage of marriage, you will find the changes in the way you get along with each other. This requires two people to work together, reconcile and find a balance point.
Love is a spring and snow, but marriage is a real life. Everyone's choice is destined to the end they will face in their marriage.
Only when you know each other can you be trusted for a long time, and only when you have long trust can you stay together. Getting along with husband and wife is a science, and perhaps only those who have experienced it can experience it.
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